许多年轻人以为，只要他们长得足够帅，有亲和力，宽宏大量，他们就能找到很女朋友，并从此幸福地生活在一起。
Most guys think that if they're just nice,firendly ,open-minded,they will find an amazing girlfriend and live
happily ever after.
或许有时会这样，但大部分时候现实是残酷的。
This is sometimes the case,but a lot of times,this is not really the realify.
如果你一直抱这样的心态，那你永远不可能找到你心仪的女朋友
If you have this mindest ,you may never find the girl of your dreams.
那么，如何找到心中的另一半呢
So how do you get a girlfriend?
首先，你要先懂得爱自己
The first truth is that yo need to learn how to love yourself.
你怎么可能期望别人无条件来爱你，如何你不爱自己的话。
How can you expect someone else to love you unconditionally ,if you can't even love yourself.?
高素质的女性希望男朋友应该自身是感觉舒适和快乐的。
Higth quality women want a guy who's comfortable and happy being in his own shoes(站在自身的立场上）
有高素质的女朋友会促进你的价值提升，会助力你的事业，也会在你失意时为你消弥伤口。
Having this girl in your life will add even more value.
She can psh me to take over the world ,to dominate in life,and she also there to kiss my wounds when you are hurt.
其次，另一个真相是，你想得到很棒的女朋友，你需要丰富自己，一个高素质的女朋友，不希望男朋友是贫乏的，只想追女朋友的。
The second thuth that you need to understand is that in order to get a girlfriend ,you need to come from a place of abundance ,A quality
girl does not want a guy who is very needy and desperate for a girlfriend.
女孩子通常是很聪明的，她们能从你无意识的交流中，体会出你的贫乏度.
Girls are very ,very intelligent and they can pick up a lot on your subconscious communications ,maning they 'll sense that neediness.
所以，你要不断地丰富自己——当然并不只是金钱，
So,in order to come from a place of abundance ,you need to be constantly working on your self.
And when I say value ,I don't mean money.
你需要提高你的理解力，多读书，多接触高素质的人们——无论是同性，还是异性，你要以你的丰富给女朋友增添生活的色彩。
You need to be trying to improve your intelligence by reading lots of books ,you need to be meeting other cool people ,whether ,it's
girls,or guys you need to be able to add value to that girls life .
富足并不仅仅是金钱。它也可以指代你的独特的个人气质，你能逗她发笑，你能让她感到安全和可靠，你并不论断她。
Value can be honestly anything ,It could be your personality ,you can make her laugh,you can make her feel comfortable,stable ,secure
,you don't judge her.
它也可以指代通过你的优雅的社交圈给她带来的超预期的体验。
Introducing your awesome social circle to her could be adding value.It could be anything.
大部分时候，为维系长时间的感情，金钱并不是最好的方式去为她增加价值
Oftentimes ,money is actually not the best way to add value to a girl when it comes to building a long term relationship .
如何你理解了这两个原则——爱自己，丰富自身带给她的体验，你将会从众多青年中脱颖而出
If you understand these two principles of loving your self ,and coming from a place of abundance ,you are so muc better off than most
guys.
当然，最后你说的是，你要保持足够的耐心，花费必要的时间。
And the last thing that I will say is you have to be patient ,You have to take your time.
当你不断去完善自己的时候，优秀的女孩自然会进入你的视野，并创造更好的生活
If you are constantly working on your self ,that amazing woman will enter your life and it will change it for the better.
英文资料摘自：《每日英语听力》APP - 《男性自我提升小技巧》
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