The Psychological of Love1

爱的心理人类

One of the most important human emotions is love.最重要的情感之一就是爱。

However, there are many different kinds of love.然而，有许多不同种类的爱。

Romantic love is certainly one of the most interesting kinds of love.浪漫的爱情当然是最有趣的一种爱情。

It can be beautiful, wonderful, and heartbreaking, sometimes all at the same time.它可以是美丽的，美妙的，令人心碎的，有时同时发生。

Romantic love can make our lives full and meaningful, but it can also be an escape from loneliness and suffering.浪漫的爱情能使我们的生活充实而有意义，但它也能使我们摆脱孤独和痛苦。

Besides romantic love,  another kind of love is between parents and children.除了浪漫的爱情，另一种爱是父母和孩子之间的爱。

If romantic love has a purpose,neither psychology nor biology has discovered it.如果浪漫的爱情有目的，心理学和生物学都没有发现。

However, throughout history, philosophers have offered opinions about it.然而，纵观历史，哲学家们对此提出了自己的观点。

The Greek philosopher, Plato, said love makes us complete.希腊哲学家柏拉图说过，爱使我们完整。

He relates a comic story in which humans originally had 4 arms, 4 legs and 2 faces.他讲述了一个喜剧故事，在这个故事中，人类最初有4条胳膊、4条腿和2张脸。

Then, when they angered the Gods, they were cut in half.然后，当他们激怒了众神，他们被切成两半。

Since then every person has been searching for their soulmate, the other half  of his or her self.从那时起，每个人都在寻找自己的灵魂伴侣，另一半的自我。

Another philosopher believed that love is an illusion.另一位哲学家认为爱情是一种幻觉。

In his view, people fall in love because they believe the other person can make them happy.在他看来，人们坠入爱河是因为他们相信别人能让他们快乐。

But in fact, this is just an illusion designed to make us have children.但事实上，这只是一个假象，是为了让我们有孩子。

Once we have children, we are right back to where we were, still searching for  happiness.一旦我们有了孩子，我们就回到了过去，仍然在寻找幸福。

For nature this is a success, because we have children to maintain our species.对大自然来说，这是一个成功，因为我们有孩子来维持我们的物种。

But it leaves us still searching for something more.但它仍然让我们寻找更多的东西。

According to this philosopher what is the real purpose of love? It's designed to maintain our species.根据这位哲学家的观点，爱的真正目的是什么?它的设计是为了保护我们的物种。

If something is an illusion, it isn’t what it seems to be.如果某件事是一种幻觉，它并不是它看起来的那样。

Some people say love can be a disguise for our sexual desires or a biological trick to make us to have children.有人说，爱可以是我们性欲的伪装，也可以是我们生儿育女的生理伎俩。

In Buddhism, romantic love is seen as an attempt to satisfy our desires.在佛教中，浪漫的爱情被视为满足我们欲望的一种尝试。

These desires are a defect, something we need to overcome.这些欲望是一种缺陷，是我们需要克服的。

The way to free ourselves from suffering is to remove desires.把自己从痛苦中解放出来的方法就是去除欲望。

Once free of desires we can reach a state of peace and wisdom.一旦摆脱了欲望，我们就能达到一种平静和智慧的状态。

This state of being is called nirvana.这种存在状态被称为涅磐。

According to Buddhism how can we free ourselves from suffering? overcome our desires根据佛教，我们怎样才能从痛苦中解脱出来?克服我们的欲望

Other kinds of love include the love between a parent and child.其他类型的爱包括父母和孩子之间的爱。

The Psychological of Love2

In one of China's greatest classical novels, Dream of the Red Chamber, love is presented as a state of foolishness.在中国最伟大的古典小说之一《红楼梦》中，爱情被描绘成一种愚蠢的状态。

A young man falls in love with a beautiful woman who tricks and makes a fool of him.一个年轻人爱上了一个美丽的女人，她欺骗并愚弄了他。

This results in conflicting emotions of love and hate which tear him apart.这导致爱与恨的情感冲突，将他撕裂。

To cure him, a priest gives him a magic mirror.为了治好他，牧师给了他一面魔镜

The priest tells him to look into the reverse side of the mirror, but never to look in the front side.牧师告诉他要照镜子的背面，但不要照镜子的正面。

What side of the mirror is he supposed to look into? the reverse side他应该朝镜子的哪一面看?背面

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When the young man looks into the mirror, he doesn't like what he sees, so he  looks into the forbidden side, the front side.当年轻人照镜子时，他不喜欢他所看到的，所以他看的是禁忌的一面，正面。

There he sees the lovely image of his love, who invites him into the mirror to be with her.在那里，他看到了他爱的可爱的形象，谁邀请他进入镜子与她在一起。

He does this several times until he is finally dragged away in chains.他这样做了好几次，直到最后被人用链子拖走。

He dies while looking into the mirror.他在照镜子的时候死了。

Perhaps the point of the story is that all such attachments should be avoided.也许这个故事的重点是，所有这些依恋都应该避免。

Why does the young man look into the forbidden side of the mirror ? he doesn't like what he sees in the mirror.为什么这个年轻人要看镜子的禁忌面?他不喜欢他在镜子里看到的东西。

What finally happens to the young man? He is dragged away in chains and dies.最后这个年轻人怎么样了?他被铁链锁着拖走，死了。

He enters the mirror to be with his love and satisfy his desires.他进入镜子与他的爱和满足他的欲望。

once free of desires we can reach a state of peace and wisdom一旦摆脱了欲望，我们就能达到一种平静和智慧的状态

The way to free ourselves from suffering is to remove desires.把自己从痛苦中解放出来的方法就是去除欲望。

He is dragged away in chains and dies while looking into the mirror.他被锁链拖走，在照镜子时死去。

The priest tells him to look into the reverse side of the mirror, but never to look in the front side.牧师告诉他要照镜子的背面，但不要照镜子的正面。

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A famous French writer, Simone de Beauvoir has another point of view.法国著名作家西蒙·德·波伏娃有另一种观点。

For her, love is the desire to integrate with another, like in a great friendship.对她来说，爱是渴望与他人融合，就像在一段伟大的友谊中。

However, it is important that lovers not become too dependent on the other person.然而，重要的是恋人之间不要太依赖对方。

Becoming dependent on another person can lead to boredom or power games.依赖他人会导致无聊或权力游戏。

Lovers should support each other in discovering themselves and developing their potentials.情侣们应该互相支持，发现自己，开发自己的潜力。

In this way, romantic love can enrich the world.这样，浪漫的爱情可以丰富世界。

According to this writer, lovers should avoid becoming too dependent on the other person.根据作者的观点，情侣们应该避免过于依赖对方。

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Falling in love can be exciting and frightening.坠入爱河既令人兴奋又令人恐惧。

Maybe we lose ourselves and maybe we find ourselves.也许我们失去了自己，也许我们找到了自己。

Will you dare to find out?你敢知道吗?