Want to change your life overnight?
Stop trying so hard.
Nothing we have to force generates the outcome we desire.
In fact, when we expect everything to fit our predetermined expectations, we seize up and find ourselves incapable of really doing the work. Perfectionism creeps in, and we actually start sabotaging our efforts.
If we are trying so hard to be liked, it is hard to show up and be loved. If we are trying so hard to create a masterpiece, it is hard to begin the process of trial and error that would lead us there. If we are trying so hard to be happy, it almost always eludes us.
You do not demand the bud blossoms at a certain hour. You plant a seed deeply, you water it and give it light, and then you let it do what it was created to do. You are the exact same way. If you show up each day and do the work, the desired results will come on their own, in due time.
When you are trying too hard you are forcing yourself out of your natural rhythm. You exit flow, the heightened productivity state in which you actually accomplish things.
When you try too hard, you ignore your instincts for what you imagine other people will like, or react to. In doing this, you really end up disconnecting from your own perception. This is important because in business, and in life, we have to see through the eyes of others. We have to see market gaps, or have empathy. Yet the most effective way to do this is to use ourselves as a litmus test. Do I like this? Would I spend money on this? Would I want to be treated like this?
You will look better, feel better and do more if you could just cut yourself some slack.
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