2021-01-09 How to Stop Lying to

“The first principle is that you must not fool yourself — and you are the easiest person to fool.” — Richard Feynman

You know what I love about books and blog posts? They give me a rare opportunity. What’s the opportunity, you ask?

The opportunity to be honest with yourself.

See, it’s hard, to be honest with yourself in most other situations. Hell, it’s hard, to be honest with yourself even when you’re alone. But social situations — where we have a face to save — make it difficult to impossible.

You’ve experienced this when a friend or family member calls you out on something you know is true. You get the most defensive in those situations because the truer something is the more it hurts.

When you’re alone you have a fighting chance at real self-reflection. The author doesn’t know you personally, so it feels less like an attack. Because it isn’t.

I’ll never tell you that you must do something. I’m here to provide insights, get you to have an internal dialogue, and let you take the reigns from there.

It’s a new year. You can be a new you.

But you have to stop bullshitting yourself. And, paraphrasing Feynman, you’re the easiest one to bullshit.