时代在变，可我们仍需童年

我曾经暗暗庆幸，我生在一个纯粹的时代。在我们那个时代里，学校的意义绝对不只是学习，对于我来说，学校是朋友，学校是快乐的地方。

邻居家的小孩上学了，可是他上的虽然和我是同一所小学，但是却和我的记忆里完全不一样。听他的妈妈说，现在的小学每个班都会给家长建一个家长微信群。不能说这是一件坏事。

可是从我多念读书上学的经验来看这不一定是一个对小朋友成长有积极作用的事。现在的微信群里，不光是老师们预留作业，进行通知，更是一个充满着每天不听话学生小报告的小新闻厅。

可是，这真的是一个好现象吗？家长们一步步走向思维的樊笼。

长久以来的中国教育里，都以为孩子好作为各种不利成长因素的挡箭牌。所有试图打破这种挡箭牌的都会被背负不孝的荆棘。

在家长群中这么一个环境里，我相信每一个家长都不愿见到自己孩子在学校犯了什么错。可是孩子怎么会不犯错？在我的记忆里，我上学用脚踢过教导主任的办公室，上课玩过纸飞机，打了上课铃还在操场上玩的时候更是数不胜数。但是我并不害怕，我真正觉得快乐。

在孩子尤其是男孩子的天性里我认为淘气捣乱是必不可少的，谁都不愿意成为一个墨守成规，循规蹈矩的人。

生活中的创意往往都是打破原有的思想壁垒形成的。

从DNA的角度来说，是因为在不断的复制中出现了偏差才形成了变异与进化。

假如我们生活在一个完全没有任何差错，没有任何创造的社会里。可以说是健康的，但我们不能说是富有感情的，我们每个人都是赤裸裸的灰色，不具有情感，再没有亲密。

在《美丽新世界里》每一个婴儿再被生产出来的时候都已被决定了以后的命运甚至是社会地位。人们都靠几片“苏摩”获得快乐。乍一想想，一时间竟也想不到这样的社会有什么不妥。这样就掉入了赫胥黎为我们设下的陷阱。

在被注定命运的路上，我们其实就已经放弃了自我，放弃了作为“我”的特殊性，我们的未来没有未知，没有幻想，也就失掉了人类进化的原力“冒险与挑战”。

今天的小学里，每次考试的排名仿佛就占据了他们的生活。在邻居家孩子来我家的时候，满口的话题竟然都是关于对于他们班里学习不好的同学的轻视。

我也上过学，直到他们迟早有一天要加入这个你死我活的高考洪流之中，我也知道他们迟早会陷入无边无涯的成绩单里。

可是，一定要现在吗？

在七八岁的年纪里，我们学习如何成为一个人格健全的人远比学习早晚都会学会的知识有用的多。我并不是说小学的知识不重要，可是我们想想，当这些孩子老去的时候，他们想到自己孩童的时候居然没有什么值得纪念的时候，他们大概也会悲哀吧。

童年的意思并非是毫无节制的玩电子游戏，而是父母尽力去发掘孩子天性的部分，是孩子对这个世界最初的探索，对一切最浓厚的兴趣，以一种最能被人所接受，最简单的方式去探索。

我记得我小时候每天都在外面玩到十点左右还不愿回家，去抓蚂蚱，玩卡牌，下飞行棋，掏鸟窝，烤土豆。我相信，无论时代再怎么变化，这些作为孩子天性部分的玩耍孩子依然会喜欢。因为这是老天赐给我们的去接受世界的方式，那是最纯真，不带一点杂质的欢喜。我知道我们早晚会在漫漫人生路上忘记，可是我们起码应该让孩子去体验。

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当然不可否认的是，时代在变化，而且比任何一个时代都需要人才，所以我们每一位家长都会去尝试把自己的孩子培养成为一个全面发展的人才。

可是为什么一个如此注重培养人才的时代，大才子越来越少？因为培养一个大才不只需要父母的一厢情愿，更需要他的家庭环境，所受教育，成长经历等等。就如陈丹青先生所列举，陈寅恪和陈散原的父子关系，周树人与章太炎的师生关系，徐悲鸿与康有为的交往等等。

第二个需要被讨论的就是，是不是每一个孩子生来就适合读书？现在读书上学几乎是一条理所应当的道路。但是我们却没有思考是不是所有人都适合？

当然，我不是在反对教育，我只是想让大家想清楚自己需要的程度，换句话说，教育不是终点，教育不是通往教育，教育是通往选择。我么能否通过自己所受的教育去选择自己想过的生活，想做的工作。

其实啊，只要我们想的话，完全可以让我们的孩子不过的那么累，不必在学校哪怕是在天性引导下再背着父责母备的包袱。孩子也是人哪怕还没有独立的人格，哪怕还没有完善的价值观。

父母需要告诉他们什么是对的什么是错的呢，鼓励好的，杜绝坏的。可是很多东西在童年的奇妙作用下并不是言语能够起作用的。

中国的历史几乎是建立在信任之上的，古代的皇帝除了信任似乎没有什么可靠的保障。

但是在现在信任越来越珍贵，在一个父母互相不信任的家庭里，很难想象孩子能拥有一段健康的感情；在一个斤斤计较的家庭里，也不能期盼将来的孩子能拥有大格局，大眼光；一个一向不重视素质教育的家庭里，很难想象孩子将会有傲人的学习成绩。

在家庭的教育一点不逊色于学校的教育，甚至于去一次大自然，吃一顿饭，旅一次游都是教育。现在大家过分的夸大学校教育，忽视了家庭环境的力量。

我常常幻想，我常常希望，我能够在某一天早晨醒来有一次能够拥有孩子般的眼光，孩子般的思想。会去晚上盯着一颗星星，心里想着你怎么上去的那么高啊？会去野外看一棵被砍掉的大树，摸一摸，问一句“你还疼吗？

时代在变，可我们仍需童年。