18.Parents and teenagers

All teens go through similar phases -- the need for independence, a separate identity, testing authority. It's part of growing up

Parents feel that it is difficult to live with teenagers. And teenagers have similar feelings about their parents, saying that it is not easy living with them.

On the one hand, parents go mad over messy rooms,clothes thrown on the floor and their children's refusal to help with the housework.

On the other hand, teenagers lose their patience continually when parents blame them for dropping the towel in the bathroom, not cleaning up their room or refusing to do the shopping at the supermarket.

Psychologists say that communication is the most important thing in parent-child relationships.Parents should talk to their children but at the same time they should lend an ear to what they have to say.

Parents may scold their children when they are untidy but they should also understand that their room is their own private space. Communication is a two-way process. It is only by listening to and understanding each other that problems between parents and children can be settled.

18天：家长和青少年

所有的青少年都会经历相似的阶段--需要独立，需要独立的身份，考验权威。这是成长的一部分

父母觉得和青少年一起生活很困难，青少年对父母也有类似的感觉，说和他们一起生活不容易。

一方面，父母们对凌乱的房间、扔在地上的衣服和他们的孩子拒绝帮忙做家务感到愤怒。

另一方面，当父母责备青少年把毛巾掉在浴室里、不打扫房间或拒绝去超市购物时，他们不断失去耐心。

心理学家说，沟通是亲子关系中最重要的事情。父母应该和他们的孩子交谈，但同时他们也应该倾听他们所说的话。

当孩子不整洁时，父母可以责骂他们，但他们也应该明白，他们的房间是他们自己的私人空间。只有通过倾听和理解，父母和孩子之间的问题才能得到解决。