Exchange a glance with someone, then look away. Do you realize that you have made a statement? Hold the glance for a second longer, and you have made a different statement. Hold it for 3 seconds, and the meaning has changed again. For every social situation, there is a permissible time that you can hold a person’s gaze without being intimate, rude, or aggressive. If you are on an elevator, what gaze-time are you permitted? To answer this question, consider what you typically do. You very likely give other passengers a quick glance to size them up and to assure them that you mean no threat. Since being close to another person signals the possibility of interaction. You need to emit a signal telling others you want to be left alone. So you cut off eye contact, what sociologist Erving Goffman (1963) calls “a dimming of the lights.” You look down at the floor, at the indicator lights, anywhere but into another passenger’s eyes. Should you break the rule against staring at a stranger on an elevator, you will make the other person exceedingly uncomfortable, and you are likely to feel a bit strange.
与某人交换一眼，然后移开视线。你知道你有所表示吗？再看一眼，你的陈述就会不同。保持三秒，意思又会改变FV。每一种社交场合，你都有可能在不亲密、不粗鲁或不咄咄逼人的情况下凝视一个人。如果你在电梯上，你可以在什么时候凝视？要回答这个问题，请考虑一下你通常会做什么。你很可能会快速瞥一眼其他乘客，然后对他们进行打量并向他们保证你没有威胁的意思。因为与另一个人亲近预示着互动的可能性。你需要发出一个信号，告诉别人你想独处。因此，你切断了眼神交流，社会学家埃尔文·戈夫曼（Erving Goffman，1963）称之为“视线变暗”。你低头看地板，看指示灯，看其他任何地方，除了看另一位乘客的眼睛。如果你违反了禁止在电梯里盯着陌生人看的规定，你会让对方非常不舒服，你可能会感到有点奇怪。
If you hold eye contact for more than 3 seconds, what are you telling another person? Much depends on the person and the situation. For instance, a man and a woman communicate interest in this manner. They typically gaze at each other for about 3 seconds at a time, then drop their eyes down for 3 seconds, before letting their eyes meet again. But if one man gives another man a 3-second-plus stare, he signals, “I know you”, “I am interested in you,” or “You look peculiar and I am curious about you.” This type of stare often produces hostile feelings.
如果你保持眼神交流超过3秒，你在告诉别人什么？这在很大程度上取决于个人和情况。例如，一个男人和一个女人通过这种方式交流兴趣。他们通常一次凝视对方约三秒，然后视线转移3秒，再次视线相遇。但是，如果一个男人盯着另一个男人看三秒钟以上，他就表示：“我认识你”、“我对你感兴趣”或“你看起来很奇怪，我对你很好奇。”这种凝视通常会产生敌意。
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