For example, one dad would say, "The love of money is the root of all evil." The other, "The lack of money is the root of all evil."
例如，一个爸爸会说：“贪财乃万恶之源。”而另一个爸爸却说：“贫穷才是万恶之本。”
As a young boy, having two strong fathers both influencing me was difficult. I wanted to be a good son and listen, but the two fathers did not say the same things. The contrast in their points of view, particularly where money was concerned, was so extreme that I grew curious and intrigued. I began to start thinking for long periods of time about what each was saying.
当时我还只是一个小男孩，拥有两个对我同样有影响力的爸爸可不是一件好应付的事。我想成为一个听话的好孩子，但两个爸爸的话却完全不同。他们的观点正好相反，尤其在涉及金钱的问题上更是如此，这让我既好奇又迷惑。我开始花很多时间思考他们每个人讲的话。
Much of my private time was spent reflecting, asking myself questions such as, "Why does he say that?" and then asking the same question of the other dad's statement. It would have been much easier to simply say, "Yeah, he's right. I agree with that." Or to simply reject the point of view by saying, "The old man doesn't know what he's talking about." Instead, having two dads whom I loved forced me to think and ultimately choose a way of thinking for myself. As a process, choosing for myself turned out to be much more valuable in the long run, rather than simply accepting or rejecting a single point of view.
我花了很多时间思考，问自己诸如“他为什么那样说”之类的问题，然后又对另一个爸爸的话提出同样的疑问。如果只是说“噢，他是对的，我同意”，或是说“他不知道自己在说什么”应该是很容易的事。相反，拥有两位我深爱的父亲，这促使我去思考，最终为自己选择其中一种思维方式。这一过程是我自己去选择而不是简单地接受或否定的过程，在后来的漫长岁月中被证明对我非常有益。
One of the reasons the rich get richer, the poor get poorer, and the middle class struggles in debt is because the subject of money is taught at home, not in school. Most of us learn about money from our parents. So what can a poor parent tell their child about money? They simply say "Stay in school and study hard." The child may graduate with excellent grades but with a poor person's financial programming and mind-set. It was learned while the child was young.
富人之所以越来越富，穷人之所以越来越穷，中产阶级之所以总是在债务的泥潭中挣扎，其中一个主要原因就是，他们对金钱的认识不是来自学校，而是来自家庭。大多数人都是从父母那儿了解钱是怎么回事的。关于金钱，贫穷的父母能够教给孩子们什么呢？他们只会说：“在学校里要好好学习喔。”结果，他们的孩子可能会以优异的成绩毕业，但同时也秉承了穷人的理财方式和思维习惯。这是孩子们在很小的时候就从父母那里学到的。
2022-10-14
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