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最近在帮花花老师校核她翻译的外文书籍，是专门讲记忆技巧的。一个人的记忆力可以有多好，我不知道。我在很多文学作品（嗯，大多数是武侠小说）里见识过所谓“过目不忘”的人，比如说黄药师的爱人冯蘅，这个为了黄药师而强行默写出《九阴真经》的女人就有“过目不忘”的本领。现实生活中不知道有没有过目不忘的人，似乎在《最强大脑》里面有不少类似的强人存在，只是不晓得这种技能普通人是否可以练就。

我发现自己有的一个品质，就是对于某些旋律近乎有“过耳不忘”的本领。我之所以说旋律是因为我从来记不住词。而这些旋律几乎都是在我的生活中一些特殊的事件节点发生的。相信大家一定也有这样的体验。总有一些旋律会把你的思绪瞬间拉回到当时当下。

今天推荐给大家的这个旋律叫《Fade》。这首歌是去年6月份时听到的，而那个时候恰好是我在平淡的工作、生活之余第一次参加线上的英语学习。现在回想起来，似乎仍有一种不真实的感觉，这不是一贯的我。就像《摆渡人》里面的迪伦一般，我无意中推开了一扇门，门外的世界我前所未见。在那段久远的时间里，每每伴着这首节奏振奋的旋律，一丝不苟的如同学生一样在做事情，会很让我回味跟感慨，就如同一个走过了初中、高中、大学的老班生再回头看自己第一天入学时的情景一样。这是一首曾经伴随我度过一大段美好时光的旋律，推荐给你们听。

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今天下午，我完成了KK英语第8期的任务，一本原著小说的阅读。这本小说的名字叫《男人来自火星，女人来自金星》，这本书的阅读历程很长，近乎50多天。在前一个21天里，由于有每天的打卡任务，作为一个喜欢仪式感的人，我自然是要保证全勤的。而在后面的21天里，花花老师说要“散养”，不强行要求打卡，全靠自觉。而在这一个21天里，我开始坚持日更写公众号，当真“苦不堪言”，我的时间被狠狠的压缩了。

尽管我每天都强迫自己一定要接触一点英语，绝不能放下，但是，在阅读的进度上面，不可否认，我下意识的把它放慢了，我终究还是把英语的优先级往后放了。在这个21天的后半段，我开始加大阅读量了，在阅读的过程中也真实体会到“酸甜苦辣”，其实并没有花花老师说的“轻松”之感。怎么会轻松呢，即便是读一本全部都看得懂字的中文书，对于大多数人来说都不会有轻松之感的，毕竟要考虑到很多人是不爱读书的。那对于还有不少生僻单词的英语原著，对于思维方式跟语言表达方式与中文使用者相迥异的异国文学，困难仍然是客观存在的。

然而，这并不会让我停下脚步，我一直以来便坚持有始有终，跟他人无关，只是想对自己有一个交待。今天把全书读完，169页，不算长。阅读难度其实并不在词汇量，更多的是在于是否肯把一件挺枯燥的事情给解决掉。根据之前的要求，本书阅读完成后，需要提交一份英文的读后感，附后，便算是一个结束罢。

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This afternoon, I have finished reading the book “Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus”. To be honest, it is not a difficult book, and to some extent, it is kind of boring. But I still have learnt a lot from this book. I don’t want to copy the contents and describe what this book writes about, which I don’t think is meaningful. I just want to discuss something impressive.

Firstly, from this book I have learnt that men and women are so different that they have totally different directions of solving problems. As for men, they just want to leave them alone and go into their caves to figure out the solutions of the problems. But as for women, they care more about their feelings than solutions.

Secondly, I know for the first time that women are like waves. When they feel happy or angry, there is a peak, after the peak they usually change to the opposite direction. This knowledge is very useful for me. Next time I have quarrel with my wife, and she is angry, I will know that she can’t be all right in a short time, no matter what I say or what I do, I should help her to arrive the emotion peak, and then maybe she is ok all by herself.

Thirdly, this book teaches us some skills and methods to deal with the argument between men and women. For example, you could write a “love letter” and a “response letter”. In this letter, you should keep strictly in the right turn to express your feelings, “angry-sad-afraid-sorry-love”. And in this “love letter”, don’t forget that men need acceptance, appreciation, admiration, approval, encouragement and women need understanding, respect, devotion, validation and reassurance.

Fourthly, as for men, they must remember that women care less about the big stuff as they do. So try to do as many little things as they can to make women happy, which will be very helpful.

At last I just want to say that all you do to maintain the relationship between you and your partner, there is a very important thing you should confirm firstly, “Do you still love him or her”, if the answer is no, all these things are meaningless.

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