On Children

by - Kahlil Gibran

Your children are not your children.

They are the sons and daughters of

Life’s longing for itself.

They come through you but not from you,

And though they are with you,

yet they belong not to you.

You may give them your love but not your thoughts,

For they have their own thoughts.

You may house their bodies but not their souls,

For their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow,

Which you cannot visit, not even in your dreams.

You may strive to be like them,

But seek not to make them like you,

For life goes not backward nor tarries with yesterday.           

You are the bows from which your children

As living arrows are sent forth.

The archer sees the mark upon the path of the infinite,         

And He bends you with His might,

That His arrows may go swift and far.

Let your bending in the archer’s hand be for gladness;

For even as He loves the arrow that flies，

So He loves also the bow that is stable.

感悟：

孩子是上天赐与的礼物，经由你来到人间。你可以无条件的爱她，可以影响她，鼓励她，陪伴她，但是你不能左右她的思想。你有不可推卸的责任尽你所能为她创造机会去体验，但试错是必然的。养育孩子的过程是不断放手，看着他们渐行渐远的过程，如果够幸运，你们能彼此温暖前行，be soul mate！