不要试图改变人

和对的人同行，错的人永远不可能变成对的。

在选择同伴或合作伙伴时，选择与正确的人一起行动是重要的，因为错误的人永远不能变成正确的。

在选择合适的人时，在乎的是他们与我们的共同点和契合度，而不是试图改变或培养不合适的人。我们应该珍惜我们自己的时间和精力，不要浪费在试图改变他人上，而是要与那些本身已经合适的人一起共同成长和实现目标。

一个人早年的品性一旦形成，往往很难改变。基本是伴随一个人终生的。因为它们已经在个人的内心深处根深蒂固，成为了个人的习惯和本能反应。

虽然人在成长和发展过程中可能会有些许变化，但核心的品性和基本的性格往往是相对固定和稳定的。

一切都是可以伪装的，所以有时我们或许无法在一开始就识破重重伪装，看清一个人的内心。

但在往后的相处中，如果发现对方有道德和品性上巨大的问题，不要心存侥幸，不要试图改变、拯救对方。幻想改变对方，不仅徒劳无功，还会将自己拖入泥潭。

结论：当我们面对与自己价值观和道德准则严重不符的人时，我们应当保持警惕，并及时远离这个人。相信我们可以改变对方只是一厢情愿的幻想，这种幻想可能会导致自己被牵扯进对方的负面影响当中。

在人际关系中，我们应该坚守自己的原则和价值观，明辨是非，并选择与那些与自己价值观相符的人建立关系。与品性有问题的人保持一定距离，可以保护自己的利益和价值观，并避免陷入困境。

不要爱一个看起来只对你很好的人，要爱本来就很好的人。我们要找的是此刻品性就很好的人，而不是将来可能变好的人。坏掉的关系，需要的并不是修复，而是及时止损。

Travelling with the right person, the wrong person can never become the right person.

When choosing a companion or partner, it is important to choose to act with the right person, because the wrong person can never become the right person.

When choosing the right people, we care about their commonalties and fit with us, rather than trying to change or cultivate inappropriate people. We should cherish our own time and energy, and not waste it on trying to change others, but grow up and achieve our goals together with those who are already suitable.

Once a person's early character is formed, it is often difficult to change. Basically, it is accompanied by a person for a lifetime. Because they have been deeply engrained in the individual's heart, they have become personal habits and instinctive reactions.

Although people may change a little in the process of growth and development, the core character and basic personality are often relatively fixed and stable.

Everything can be disguised, so sometimes we may not be able to see through the disguise at the beginning and see a person's heart clearly.

But in the future, if you find that the other party has huge moral and character problems, don't take a chance, and don't try to change and save the other party. Fantasy about changing the other party is not only futile, but also drags itself into the quagmire.

Conclusion: When we face people who are seriously inconsistent with our own values and moral principles, we should be vigilant and stay away from them in time. I believe that we can change the other party's wishful thinking, which may lead to the negative impact of the other party.

In interpersonal relationships, we should adhere to our own principles and values, distinguish right from wrong, and choose to establish relationships with those who are in line with our own values. Keeping a certain distance from people with character problems can protect their own interests and values and avoid getting into trouble.

Don't love someone who only seems to be good to you, but love someone who is already very good. We are looking for people with good character at this moment, not people who may become better in the future. What is needed for a broken relationship is not to repair, but to stop the loss in time.