Earlier this year, I had a habit of making excuses to avoid getting into social situations. No matter if it was meeting up with friends, going to a party, or anything else, my lack of confidence always made me feel like I wasn’t good enough.
So below are a collection of ways to become more confident. Each one of these insights helped to eliminate my social anxiety and improve my confidence in any given set of circumstances. I hope they do the same for you, too.
Improve Your Body Language.
Studies show that improving your posture can significantly impact your confidence due to an increase in self-esteem. Quoting an article published in Science Daily:
“Most of us were taught that sitting up straight gives a good impression to other people. But it turns out that our posture can also affect how we think about ourselves. If you sit up straight, you end up convincing yourself by the posture you’re in.”
Talk To Yourself In The Mirror.
We all have moments where we try to put on a brave face, despite being internally destroyed by whatever problems we are facing. But as David Goggins says: “When you look in the mirror, that’s the one person that you cannot lie to.”
Every single morning, I walk into the bathroom & telling myself that everything is going to be okay. In a similar style to a coach getting players ready for an NFL game, I tell myself that I have the strength to face whatever adversity shall come my way.
Maintain Eye Contact During A Conversation.
For the longest time, maintaining eye contact with people during a conversation was something that I found difficult. After all, I was afraid that people would notice the insecurities that I saw within myself.
But when I discovered that maintaining eye contacthelps you to appear more confident, I found that it was much easier to maintain a conversation.
Identify Your Fears.
One of the biggest reasons people struggle with confidence is because they’re afraid of what other people may think. But as the philosopher, Seneca once said: “We suffer more in imagination than in reality.”
I’ve discovered that a lack of confidence often stems from a fear of the unknown. After all, we have doubts embedded within our minds that make us question if we’re good enough & capable of doing whatever we aspire to achieve.
Step Outside Your Comfort Zone.
We’re often reluctant to put ourselves in uncomfortable situations as they force us to face our insecurities.
However, I’ve found that when when you’re willing to get out of your comfort zone, you naturally become more confident in any given set of circumstances. In the words of George Addair:
“Everything you’ve ever wanted is on the other side of fear.”
Remember: If you want to become more confident, first define what you’re afraid of, and then take the necessary steps towards conquering your fear.
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