千万不要忘记给你戴高帽子的人
——Ignoring Flattery——
现在有些人，会吹、会捧，说话温顺悦耳，却掺杂许多虚假的东西。不过，世人偏偏喜欢阿谀奉承之词，对于鲜艳夺目的“高帽子”，常常是来者不拒、多多益善。
一个人若能对“戴高帽子”感觉不舒服，这才是真正的智者。
尤其是自己身居高位时，手下人唯唯诺诺，亲密地围绕在身边投其所好、歌功颂德，你也许觉得这种滋味很好。但是，在这种舒服的感觉中，往往隐藏着许多陷阱。
Some people are highly skilled at flattering and complimenting others. In particular, people in positions of power often have obsequious aides who cater to all their likes and dislikes, singing their praises. Such flattery may be appealing to vain or insecure people, but those who are wise feel uncomfortable with such treatment.
上个世纪80年代，一位刚毕业等待分配的女大学生归心似箭，匆匆登上了回家的列车。
Back in the eighties, a young woman who had just graduated from college was on a train home while waiting to find a job.
她坐在车上隔窗远眺，对未来充满着憧憬，脸上不时浮现出幸福的微笑。
She was eager to go home again but was also wondering about her future.
途中，一位衣着朴素的妇女，怀抱不满1周岁的婴儿挤上火车，坐在大学生身旁的空位上。
At one station, a woman in plain clothes holding a baby got on and sat in the empty seat beside her.
相视一笑，妇女的话匣子就打开了：
After exchanging glances, the woman started a conversation.
“姑娘，你真像书香门第的大家闺秀，一定有很高的学问，准是研究生、博士之类的。”
“Young lady, you look like you were born into a very well-educated family. You must be a scholar or a doctor.”
“不，我刚大学毕业。”
“No, I just got my bachelor’s degree.”
“不管怎样，你都是令人羡慕的。其实，我从小就有上大学的心愿，可惜家里穷，只念过几天书，连自己的名字都不会写，想想真可怜。
“In any case, I envy you. Actually, I wanted to go to college when I was younger, but my family was so poor that I could only go to school for a couple of days. I can’t even write my own name. It makes me sad.
后来做小本生意算赚了些钱，别人劝我办公司，我都不敢，没文化就怕上当受骗……
Later I started a small business and made some money. Friends advised me to start another company, but I’m afraid I’ll be tricked, because I have no real business knowledge.
唉！姑娘，我在C城有笔生意，你能否花点时间帮我签订一个合同，你的费用我全包了。
Right now I’m going to the city to sign a contract. Could you please help me? I will pay all your expenses.
你若有意经商，我愿与你合伙，我出钱、你出力，我俩一定能成功。”
If you’d like to run the business with me, I’m willing to collaborate. I have money, and clearly you are very intelligent and bound for success.”
大学生一听，暗自欢喜，于是不假思索地答应了。
Feeling flattered, the college graduate agreed.
列车行驶到了一半，于Ｃ城换车头，她俩下了车。妇女打了个电话，然后对姑娘说：“一路辛劳，先去我姨妈家休息。”
The woman invited her to get off the train with her and made a phone call. She said, “You must be tired, let’s rest at my aunt’s house.”
她们乘坐公共汽车，到达了城郊一座村庄。
They took a bus and arrived at a village in the suburbs.
跨入高墙内院，主人“热情”地将她们迎进屋。
Walking into a high-walled courtyard, they were led to the house by the master, a middle-aged man.
一个中年男子交给妇女一包东西，互相交谈了几句后，妇女对姑娘说：“别客气，就像在你自己家一样。表哥说我姨妈身患恶疾，卧床不起，我先带孩子去看她。你在这儿休息，我一会儿就回来。”
After a short conversation, he gave the woman a pack of something. Then the woman told the young woman, “Please make yourself at home. My cousin said that my aunt is feeling sick, and I want to go see her. You rest here, and I’ll be back in a minute.”
这一等，就是几年。原来，这妇女是个人贩子，将姑娘卖给人家当老婆了。
So the young woman waited, but the woman never returned. In fact, the woman was luring and selling people. She had sold the girl to that middle-aged man as his wife.
后来，大学生逃了出去，向人们讲述了自己的悲惨遭遇……
Later, the college graduate managed to escape and told everyone about her traumatic experience.
如今有的人择友也很不谨慎，最初没有观察清楚，受骗上当、蒙受损失之后，一再地哭诉：“我是老实人，根本不懂这些骗人的把戏。” 但这样于己、于人、于解决问题，又有什么作用呢？
Nowadays some people aren’t careful when making friends. They are lured in by smooth words and empty promises. Later they lament, “I was so naive! I didn’t know!”
事前的谨慎，远比事后的后悔强多了。
Don’t let flattery blind you and impair your judgment.
假设你可以活80岁，
一年365天算下来，
你一生才2万9千多天，
不到3万天。
所以，
人生真的很短，
你还舍得浪费吗？
完
END
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无尽刹中示现菩萨相，护持所有佛业尊前礼。
无量功德摩尼之光芒，彻底遣除浊世诸衰损，
圆满四部祥瑞而成办，巍巍伟业尊前敬礼赞。
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贝玛给萨东波拉 莲茎花胚之座上
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《普获悉地祈祷文》
智波格热灿嘉当化现八名莲花生
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向森涅沃这嘉当 八大菩萨随佛子
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三巴耶因哲巴当 如意成就诸所望
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二十一度母赞
嗡杰怎玛帕玛卓玛拉香擦洛
嗡！顶礼至尊圣度母
顶礼奋迅救度母 目如刹那闪电光
三域怙主莲花面 花蕊绽放从中现
顶礼月色白度母 秋百满月聚集脸
成千群星同汇聚 尽放威光极灿然
顶礼紫磨金色母 莲花庄严其妙手
布施精进苦行静 安忍禅定行境性
顶礼如来顶髻母 奉持无边尊胜行
获得无余波罗蜜 一切佛子近依止
顶礼吽音叱咤母 声遍欲色虚空界
其足压伏七世间 皆能勾招尽无余
顶礼帝梵恭奉母 火神风神自在供
鬼王起尸及寻香 夜叉众会皆赞叹
顶礼胜伏他方母 札啪尽毁敌惑轮
右屈左伸足压伏 盛燃熊熊烈火焰
顶礼大怖救度母 摧毁一切凶猛魔
莲花容颜现颦眉 无余斩尽诸仇怨
顶礼三宝严印母 手指当胸露威严
庄严无余诸方轮 自之光芒普萦绕
顶礼欢悦威德母 顶饰光鬘诚斑斓
喜笑大笑圣咒音 怀柔群魔与世间
顶礼解厄圣度母 能召一切护地神
颦眉竖动发吽光 消除所有诸贫穷
顶礼月相冠冕母 一切饰品极璀璨
无量光佛髻中现 恒常光芒最耀眼
顶礼烈焰圣度母 如末劫火住光鬘
右伸左屈喜姿态 击毁一切诸敌军
顶礼颦眉圣度母 手掌压地足踩踏
面露怒容发吽声 击破七重一切处
顶礼安乐柔善母 寂灭涅槃行境性
真实咒语嗡索哈 摧毁一切大罪恶
顶礼明觉吽度母 众会围绕极欢喜
怨敌之身悉击碎 十字庄严明咒吽
顶礼震撼三界母 足踏吽相为种子
须弥玻雪曼达ra 三世间界皆摇动
顶礼灭毒圣度母 手持天海相皎月
诵二达ra啪字声 无余灭除一切毒
顶礼天王所敬母 天人非人咸依止
披甲欢喜之威德 遣除争斗与恶梦
顶礼消疫圣度母 日月双眸光鲜明
诵二哈ra德达ra 消除剧猛瘟疫病
顶礼具光胜度母 安立一切三真如
正具寂灭威神力 摧魔起尸夜叉众
匝沃锕基多巴德当 香擦瓦呢 涅协匝结
以根本咒礼赞二十一度母终
短赞(一)
嗡
顶礼至尊圣度母 明咒能救诸忧苦
大悲无碍勇度母 祈祷赐我胜成就
短赞(二)
至尊度母您垂念 祈求救脱诸苦难
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