Loneliness is a hard thing to fight.
When you feel lonely you just want a person to pry you open, to give you so much attention and love and support that you can leave your heart bare in front of them.
You want someone to not give up on you, to keep pushing you and want someone you can rely on no matter where you are or who you are at that moment.
Everything that is not that kind of love will often make you feel more alone.
You can be with friends, sitting next to your loved one, have everyone engaged in a conversation, and still feel unheard and lonely.
It is because loneliness is not a matter of surrounding yourself with people or even forming connections.
People just create noise that distract you from the true cause of the loneliness and even stronger connections can make you feel more alone if you do not address the underlying issue.
The reason you feel lonely is because you are not being vulnerable.
You are not heard because people refuse to listen, but are not heard because you refuse to open up.
You want people to pry you open and to do the work for you, but no one has that kind of time.
To feel heard and understood you must first hear and understand yourself.
The love that you want others to give to you must first be given by you to yourself for you to be able to form any meaningful relationships.
As long as you close yourself off, lie to yourself and refuse to learn to love yourself, you will never be open enough with others to even give them a chance to love you the way you want them to.
In essence: You feel lonely because you do not want to take responsibility for loving yourself and want someone else to take that responsibility for you.
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