分享是一种美德，就是换一个角色，既然社会进步需要分享，只有我们人人懂得分享学会分享，才能进步前进，所以是一种美德。那么，今天贝欧莱就和大家聊聊在宝宝的幼小的心灵里对分享是怎么看待的呢，让我们来看一下美国妈妈们对宝宝分享的看法吧！
中国妈妈问：
来自北京的诚诚妈
我儿子今年4岁。他有两辆自行车，但是他不愿意与其他孩子分享。昨天，我的一个朋友带着她3岁的女儿来我家做客。我让我儿子和那个小女孩一起玩，还让他把其中的一辆自行车给那个女孩骑。可他根本就不让那个女孩碰他的自行车，还一把推开她。这样的事情以前也发生过，我真不知道该怎么办了？
美国妈妈答：
来自美国明尼苏达州的 Liz
你和你的孩子聊过么？找到他不喜欢分享的原因了么？来一次真正的谈话吧，你能从中找到最真实的答案，而并不仅仅只是简单、表面的答案。请注意，你只需了解他的观点，而不应该批评他的想法，你应该表扬他的诚实。
然后一旦你找到了真正的原因你就可以慢慢切入交流意见，并且告诉他应该如何与朋友分享。去掉思想上的框架，坦诚的和孩子谈谈，并尊重他的意见，而且也要尊重来找他玩的朋友。
从我儿子小的时候，我总是和他谈，一直到现在。这么做除了能解决眼前的问题，还可以让你的孩子觉得跟你说话很有安全感，并且喜欢向你询问意见。你也可以在他长大些后，继续使用这个方法。
祝你好运！但是要记住他才4岁，他在逐步的学习分享，他的童年还有十多年呢。
Liz A. answers from Minneapolis
Have you talked with him and found out WHY he doesn't like to share? A real conversation, that hunts for the real answer, not just a safe one or easy one. Are you non-judgmental about his opionion. It's his opinion and you are asking for it. Appreciate the truth in it.
Now once you found the real reason, can you give him alternates and ideas as to how it would be okay to share? Get out of the "box" and be open to a way to honor his opinion and also to honor the friends that come to play.
There's a way. I've done this again and again from toddlerhood and still going. In addition to solving the current problem, this is showing your son that you are "safe" to talk to and get advice from. Really handy to have this dynamic down as he gets older.
Good luck! Remember he's just four. Maybe he should have some sharing down by now, but he still has over a decade of childhood to go yet.
来自美国詹姆斯港的Popmom：
我会让他选择：要不就和朋友分享一起玩，要不就不要玩了。
Popmom answers from Jamesport
Share or don't play with the bikes at all. That would be what I would do.
美国南苏城的Dana：
我们家有个规定：人比物重要。如果让我发现我的孩子不和朋友分享，就会有严重的后果。你的孩子不和朋友分享，那么同样也说明他并不听你的话。如果他这样的行为发在我家里，一定会有一连串的严重的后果。
Dana K. answers from South Sioux City
We have a rule in my house, "People are more important than things." If I catch any of my children not sharing there are serious consequences. Your son didn't share and that is one rule broken, but you son also didn't obey you. There would be some pretty serious consequences for the way he acted if it were my house.
来自芝加哥的Cherry Jam：
孩子并不喜欢分享，大人也不喜欢，你可以自己想想，你愿意和你的邻居分享你的汽车么？即使说你有两辆。
多站在孩子的角度想想……
我教我的孩子要分享，要和朋友一起玩的时候也要友好，但是同样我也尊重他的想法。如果我的孩子坚决不想和朋友分享，那么我只能说：“对不起，他不太想和别人分享这个玩具”，或是“不好意思，我们这会儿没有分享的心情……也许过会儿就好了。”
CherryJam answers from Chicago
Kids do not like to share. People do not like to share. Would you like to share your car if the neighbor asked you to? Even if you had another one?
Put yourself in his shoes...
I teach my kids to share and play nicely but I also respect their feelings. If my son is adamant about not sharing something, I just say "I am sorry, he doesn't like to share this toy." or "Sorry, we are not in a sharing mood at the moment...may be later."
来自美国圣乔治的Cori W. :
有一本书《I brake for meltdowns》曾经给了我很大帮助，你可以看看，试着和孩子一起玩。我的女儿2岁了，她很喜欢这样…她在别人家的时候表现还可以（会和朋友分享），但是在自己家的时候，她却不想分享。
Cori W. answers from Saint George
There's a book called I brake for meltdowns that helped me. You can try. It would be nice if you give her a turn so you can play together. My daughter is 2 and she's like this... she's fine at other people's houses (she'll share) but at my house no maam, she does NOT want to share.
贝欧莱建议：
在宝宝不愿意分享自己的玩具时，妈妈们应该多和宝宝沟通，耐心倾听宝宝的想法。有的美国妈妈认为要教会孩子礼貌和分享的重要性，让孩子明白“物比人重要的道理”；但也有的美国妈妈指出了对于四岁的宝宝来说，对于“分享”的概念还并不是很清晰，因为他正处于一个学习的阶段，所以妈妈在这个时候不要过于强求，要尊重宝宝的选择。那么，妈妈们应该如何培养一个爱分享宝宝呢？美国妈妈这几个方法大家可以学习下：
1. 平日里就和宝宝讲，玩具是妈妈的，不是你的，是妈妈和你一起分享，一起玩。
2.让宝宝多看到自己“爱与他人分享”的一幕，宝宝很多行为都是向家长学习的。
3.在有其他小朋友来访前，先问问宝宝有哪些玩具是他希望和小朋友分享的，哪些是不希望分享的，可以把宝宝不希望分享的玩具先收起来。
4.在小朋友来访的时候，可以先让宝宝要和小朋友一起轮流玩。
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