For most of us, we’ve had to ask for permission our entire lives.
对我们大多数人来说，我们的一生都得请求许可。
Beginning with our parents or caregivers,then our teachers and professors, and from there our superiors in the workplace.
首先是我们的父母或照顾者，然后是我们的老师和教授，然后是我们工作中的上级。
Asking for permission in our day-to-day seems to be the norm, but what happens when it begins to trickle into our personal lives and the decisions that affect our happiness?
在我们的日常生活中请求许可似乎是一种常态，但当它开始渗透到我们的个人生活和影响我们幸福的决定时，会发生什么呢?
In these instances, we start leaning on our friends, co-workers and loved ones to make decisions we can actually make on our own. Decisions like speaking up,whether we should go out or stay in, pickup a new hobby, start that business plan,or purchase those trendy jeans.
在这种情况下，我们开始依靠朋友、同事和爱人来做我们实际上可以自己做的决定，比如大声说出来，我们是应该出去还是呆在家里，培养新的爱好，开始新的商业计划，或者购买那些时髦的牛仔裤。
It’s as though these choices are less about our own aspirations and more so about acceptance from others.
似乎这些选择与我们自己的愿望无关，更多的是与他人的接受程度有关。
The truth is: The only person we need approval from is ourselves.
事实是：我们需要批准的唯一人就是我们自己。
Looking inward to give ourselves permission to do and feel may be the key to unlock the fulfillment we desire.
向内看，允许自己去做和感受可能是解开我们所渴望的满足感的关键。
When it comes to unearthing your full potential, you can benefit from taking a step back to assess what you want and instead of asking for permission—giving it to yourself.
当你要挖掘你的全部潜力时，你可以退后一步来评估你想要什么，而不是请求许可——将其交给您自己。
When it comes to giving yourself permission, you can do so in many different areas of your life. Here are just a few to start with:
当涉及到给自己许可时，你可以在你生活的许多不同领域这样做。以下是一些开始:
1. Give yourself permission to indulge in day-to-day needs and desires.
1.允许自己沉溺于日常的需求和欲望。
Whether it’s getting a new haircut,starting a blog, going on a solo vacation or simply choosing when to say “no”—it’s important that you’re the one to give yourself the green light on a regular basis.
无论是新发型，开始博客，单独度假还是只是选择何时说“不” - 重要的是你要定期给自己开绿灯。
I learned this lesson firsthand. For the past year, I’ve been freelancing, which means my finances have been pretty tight. I’ve put myself on a strict budget and done my best to stick to it consistently. But recently, it got to the point in which I was putting out so much work and not partaking in the things I once enjoyed, not even in the slightest,and it left me feeling restricted and unhappy.
我亲身学到了这个教训。在过去的一年里，我一直是自由职业者，这意味着我的财务状况非常紧张。我已经把自己置于严格的预算之下，并尽最大努力坚持下去。但是最近，我达到了这样的程度，即我做了很多工作而没有参与我曾经享受过的事情，甚至没有丝毫参与，这让我感到受限制和不快乐。
So, I decided that I had to give myself permission to, well, treat myself every once in a while. Whether that’s biweekly manicures or buying instead of making my own lunch once a week—it feels good to give myself the permission to indulge in some things that make me happy, no matter how tiny the splurge.
所以，我决定，我必须允许自己，好吧，每隔一段时间善待自己一次。无论是每两周修一次指甲，还是每周买一次东西而不是自己做一顿午餐，允许自己纵情做一些让自己开心的事情，这感觉很好，不管花多少钱。
2. Give yourself permission to fail.
2.允许自己失败。
Often times, our anxiety about putting ourselves out there is driven by our fear of failure.
很多时候，我们对自己的焦虑来自于对失败的恐惧。
Taking healthy risks are necessary when it comes to getting ahead, and failure will only help you get to where you want to go. Give yourself permission to be imperfect. It can quite possibly bring about more than you’d ever previously imagined.
当你想要成功时，承担健康的风险是必要的，而失败会帮助你到达你想去的地方。允许自己不完美。它很可能带来比你以前想象的更多的东西。
3. Give yourself permission to be happy and sad.
3.允许自己快乐和悲伤。
Celebrate when you’ve done something well. Genuinely accept compliments from others. Share your good news. It’s OK to give yourself the space to bask in your most joyful moments and be your biggest cheerleader!
当你做得很好时，庆祝一下。真诚地接受别人的赞美，分享你的好消息。给自己一个空间去享受你最快乐的时刻，做你最大的啦啦队长，这没有关系!
On the other hand, when you aren’t feeling so great, that’s OK, too. Lean into these feelings and get an understanding of why you feel that way.
另一方面，当你感觉不太好的时候，也没关系。深入体会这些感受，理解你为什么会有这种感觉。
Also, know that you are allowed to be sad or feel hurt by things—you’re human.Emotion is inevitable，and no one feels happiness 24/7. You might even feel sad and happy at the same time (ah, the joy of mixed emotions!). Fighting off emotions is more exhausting than simply accepting them, so it just isn’t worth it.
另外，要知道你可以悲伤，也可以被事情伤害——你是人。情绪是不可避免的,没有人能每时每刻感觉幸福。你甚至可能同时感到悲伤和快乐(啊，混合情绪的喜悦!). 战胜情绪比简单地接受它们更让人疲惫，所以不值得。
4. Give yourself a permission slip.
4.给自己一张许可条。
To help reinforce the importance of granting yourself permission, create a physical reminder. Start today by making one on a post-it note. Write, “I give myself permission to:_________________________”
为了加强给予自己许可的重要性，创建一个实物提醒。从今天开始，在便利贴上做一个。写道,“我给自己许可:_________________________
Once that’s done, find a prominent place to stick that post-it—like your bathroom mirror or in your planner.
一旦完成了，找一个显眼的地方贴上便利贴，比如你的浴室镜子或你的记事本。
Giving ourselves permission lets us challenge the self-limiting beliefs we all carry and lets us know it’s OK to go for what we know we deserve.
给自己许可让我们挑战自我限制的信念，让我们知道，我们可以去追求我们知道自己应得的。
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caregiver n.照料者，护理者； 看护者；看护者，护理员（同 carer）
superior n.上级，长官；优胜者，高手；长者 adj.上级的；优秀的，出众的；高傲的
norm n.标准，规范
trickle n.滴，淌；细流 vt.使…滴；使…淌；使…细细地流 vi.滴；细细地流；慢慢地移动
trendy n.追求时髦者；新潮人物 adj.时髦的，流行的；受新潮思想影响的；肤浅、易逝的
fulfillment n.履行；实行；满足（感）
unearthing vt.发掘；揭露，发现；从洞中赶出
haircut n.理发；发型
freelance n.自由作家；自由记者 adj.自由投稿的
biweekly n.双周刊 adj.两周一次的；每周两次的 adv.两周一次地；每周两次地
manicures n.修指甲，美甲，指甲护理 v.修剪，美甲，护理指甲
splurge n.挥霍；炫耀 vt.挥霍；夸耀 vi.挥霍；卖弄
compliment n.恭维；称赞；问候；致意；道贺 vt.恭维；称赞
cheerleader n.拉拉队队员
inevitable adj.必然的，不可避免的
exhausting v.使……精疲力竭；用完，耗尽；排放，排出（exhaust 的现在分词） adj.使人筋疲力尽的；使耗尽的
reinforce n.加强；加固物；加固材料 vt.加强，加固；强化；补充 vi.求援；得到增援；给予更多的支持
prominent adj.突出的，显著的；杰出的；卓越的
to be the norm 坚守常规常态
trickle into 慢慢地进入
in these instances 在这些情况下
lean on 依赖；靠在…上
speak up 更大声地说；无保留地说出
it’s as though 就好像
take a step back 退后一步
go on a solo vacation 独自度假
on a regular basis 定期地；经常地
not even in the slightest 一点也不
post-it note 便利贴
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