鲁思的诗：语言是窗户（否则，它们是墙）

语言是窗户（否则，它们是墙）

听了你的话， 我仿佛受了审判，

无比委屈，又无从分辩，

在离开前，我想问，

那真的是你的意思吗？

在自我辩护之前，

在带着痛苦或恐惧质问前，

在我用言语筑起心灵之墙前，

告诉我， 我听明白了吗？

语言是窗户， 或者是墙，

它们审判我们，或者让我们自由。

在我说与听的时候，

请让爱的光芒照耀我。

我心里有话要说，

那些话对我如此重要，

如果语言无法传达我的心声，

请你帮我获得自由好吗？

如果你以为我想羞辱你，

如果你认定我不在乎你，

请透过我的言语，

倾听我们共有的情感。

                            ------鲁思·贝本梅尔

（摘自《非暴力沟通》（马歇尔·卢森堡））

Words are Windows (Or They’re Walls)

I feel so sentenced by your words

I feel so judged and sent away

Before I go I got to know

Is that what you mean to say?

Before I rise to my defense,

Before I speak in hurt or fear,

Before I build that wall of words,

Tell me, did I really hear?

Words are windows, or they’re walls,

They sentence us, or set us free.

When I speak and when I hear,

Let the love light shine through me.

There are things I need to say,

Things that mean so much to me,

If my words don’t make me clear,

Will you help me to be free?

If I seemed to put you down,

If you felt I didn’t care,

Try to listen through my words

To the feelings that we share.

------Ruth Bebermeyer

from the book Nonviolent Communication – A Language of Life