基于脑机制的亲子教养（翻译七）

The goal, then is to stay in the open state of social engagement as much as possible, as illustrated in Figure I. 2.

如图1.2所示，我们的目标就是尽可能地保持在开放性的社会交往状态。

This is quite challenging for all parents because the process of interacting with children is inherently stressful and inevitably, at time, triggers defensive feelings that are not consiistent with the caring feelings we want to have.

这对所有的父母来说都是非常具有挑战性的，因为与孩子相处的过程本身就充满了压力，而且有时不可避免地会引发防御性的感觉，而不是我们想要的关怀的感觉。

The social engagement system is only activated when we feel safe enough being near another person.

当我们只有接近他人时感到足够安全，社会交往系统才会被激活。

Next. we consider how our brains determine whether we are safe enought to stay focused on parenting rather than shifting our focus to our own physical or psychological well-being.

接下来，我们将研究大脑如何决定我们是否足够安全专注于养育，而不是把焦点转移到父母自己的身体或心理的健康中来。