谣言止于智者，时间自会检验真心

因妒生恨，是很多恶意谣言的的导火索，总有一些碌碌无为的人，见不得强者以众星捧月般的姿态存在，就开始在背地里拉帮结派、恶语中伤，用恶意编造的谣言来掩盖优秀之人身上的万丈光芒，好蒙住追捧者的双眼。这些追捧者分为三类，一为理智且明辨是非，二为敏感且容易动摇，三为虚伪且道貌岸然。

恶意编造谣言的本质是操纵，控制他人的自我判断，以达到牵着他人鼻子走的目的。散布者拿着他们所信奉的“谣言真理”，对敏感的支持者进行“道德绑架”，一步步击溃他们心理防线，又或是把一些“道貌岸然”的支持者拉低到跟他们一个水平，一起散布谣言。散布者就是对准了这类飘忽不定的支持者，认定了他们面对谣言，虽然内心可能不想屈服，但渐渐地，内心终被恐惧与绝望支配。散布者想与这类支持者建立所谓的“信任”从而假借他人之手来点燃埋藏在内心积怨已久的导火线，牵一发动全身，时刻准备着亲眼见证追捧者人鸟兽散，从强者身边落荒而逃的狼狈模样。散布谣言的人以为自己位高权重，骄傲地以为自己拥有了“谣言财富”这样的“社交货币”，就可以在以“精英之师”的身份在“上流场合”自由交易，发家致富。实则不过是内心空虚的表现，只有生活在阴暗角落里狂欢的乌合之众才会一直揪着他人的生活偷窥狂欢，在恶意中找寻存在感。

但是这些怀揣着恶意的人忘记了，理智的支持者一直陪伴在强者身侧，因为理智的一方知道抱着清者自清的心态，静待事态平息是消极无用的做法，为了防止恶意的谣言从gossip变成rumor再变成defamation甚至ruin reputation，他们独立思考、保持清醒、沉着应对，做好自己本分的事情，把该公开的公开，一一说明白，剩下的交给时间，时间自会检验真心，也自会筛留下真正拥护强者的人。

这也告诉我们，谣言止于智者，在面对从别人口中听来的关于他人的谣言时，我们需要拥有清晰的自我判断，听他人传播之前，要先先问问散布者是否能确认其真假、好坏，传播出来对自己是否有用，哪怕只有一条不满足，也请对方也不要再传播。见者有份，尽力而为之终能平息谣言。

接下来请听听关于谣言的灵魂五问，一起走上国际化反谣言道路！

谣言是什么？

Gossip is unconstrained and often derogatory conversation about other people and can involve betraying a confidence and spreading sensitive information or hurtful judgments.

什么人传播谣言？

1、People who gossip the most have very high levels of anxiety. They are generally not particularly popular because they cannot be trusted.

2、People who don't feel good about themselves temporarily feel better when they judge others negatively.

人为什么造谣？

1、When people can't generate interesting discussions based on knowledge or ideas, gossip can rouse people's interest.

2、People gossip in order to hurt those whose popularity, talents, or lifestyle they envy.

3、it's a validation that your smallness is not that small becuase someone else's largeness is not that large.

4、It's a vocalization of the meanness and cruelty and self-doubt and self-pity within you.

5、It's a repetition of the habit of seeing the worst and speaking the worst and thinking the worst. It is the quickest ticket to get into a group of people so that your loneliness is less lonely, so that you have people to eat with and talk with only to bury the nagging feeling that in your absence, someone else buys the same quick ticket to talk about you, to fit in. It’s also a social currency, with which people would easy to be

6、It is born of centuries of desire to talk, to release, to releate. Only it is conversation tained with malice of the death of your own dreams while being stuck in the cage of your insecurities.

7、Poor Coping Skills. People often talk about others because they are having some internal reaction to them or emotion around them (jealousy, dislike, etc..). By not being able to cope effectively, they use "talking about them" as a way to cope with their own feelings that they can't express or deal with appropriately.

8、 Social Reward. Sadly, people get rewarded for talking about others when others join in, laugh at what you're saying, etc...it rewards that type of discussion. If people simply said it was inappropriate and walked away, this behavior would not stop immediately, there exist more gossips.

9、people have this need to feel like they matter to someone in some way,

10、Also, because it’s one way to become popular.

谣言会造成什么影响？

1、When you spread false rumors about person you either damage person's reputation or self-identity by the lies you say about the person which others may believe. By the false rumors you tell people about a person- you alter- change the true image of the person and replace it with a false image. Gossip starts rumors and rumors can ruin reputations.

2、By spreading false rumors which others believe or may believe you also change the potential of natural events that could otherwise occur in person's life if the false rumors did not occur.

3、Research shows that Spreading private information or negative judgments is painful to others and reflects poorly on the gossiper.

They may not have a lot of brute physical power, but the amount of influence they can have is not to be underestimated.

怎么对待谣言？

1、If they’re talking about me, I ignore them. One of my favorite quotes is something to the effect of “we care so much for the opinions of others we care for the opinions of those for whom we care not.” It reminds me not to be so insecure as to care what gossips, whom I intrinsically don’t like, think of me.

2、If someone shoot juicy gossips at you, but you certainly can’t find a better place to shove. It means that you own your internal judgment, which is based on your own world view, moral courage and unique philosophy. So, Keep a clear mind, have a good sense of values, training the right perception and judgment, to lose those bad habits, which is the goal of our struggle.