听朋友聊起自己的一件往事。青春懵懂时的她爱上了帅气不羁的他。近一年的暗恋之后，终于鼓足勇气表白。谁想年少轻狂的他不仅拒绝了她，他轻蔑的态度更让她无比受伤。自此，她一直都无法原谅曾经莽撞、不懂事的自己，对爱情更是唯恐避之而不及。
感情里从来说不清对错，可是，被伤害过的人总习惯躲在角落里一遍遍舔舐伤口，像是在一次次提醒自己过往的伤痛，像是在给不愿走出阴影的自己一个可以继续躲藏的理由。
我曾经也是躲在角落里舔舐伤口的人，而且对于爱情，我至今心有余悸。可是，我知道，总有一天，过往的伤痛会消散在时间的风里，那一道心口的伤疤会结痂，会褪色，会变成一条浅浅的红。虽然，它会一直都在，在那个触目可见的地方。但是，渐渐地它变成了一段时光的缩影，已无关痛苦，无关自责，无关曾经的那个他。
我没办法劝说朋友放下那一段痛苦的回忆，因为我知道，有些人可以很快从伤痛中走出，而有的人可能需要很久很久。但是，我希望朋友能原谅过去的自己，原谅那个情窦初开、不谙世事的自己。正如“You are an And not a But”里的那句话，“We see people giving the wrong people chance after chance. But I want you to know, what you are doing is brave. If anything is worth the risk, it is love. ”（人们总是给错误的人一次又一次的机会。但我想让你知道，你的行为是勇敢的。如果有什么是值得冒险的，那就是爱。）
我想把这篇英文文章——“You are an And not a But”（《你是And而不是But》）分享给朋友，也分享给所有为爱勇敢的人。
Your worth is not determined by someone else’s ability or inability to love you. So many times we place our value in the hands of another person who can’t love you, doesn’t know how to love you or just…won’t.
（你的价值不是由别人爱不爱你决定的。很多时候，我们把自己的价值放在一个不能爱你，不知道如何爱你，或者只是......不爱你的人的手中。）
We see people giving the wrong people chance after chance. But I want you to know, what you are doing is brave. If anything is worth the risk, it is love.
（人们总是给错误的人一次又一次的机会。但我想让你知道，你的行为是勇敢的。如果有什么是值得冒险的，那就是爱。）
You deserve someone who loves you AND wants to be with you AND can’t imagine their life without you AND will fight for you AND will do everything it takes to make it work AND never wants to lose you AND chooses you over AND over AND over again.
（你值得一个爱你并且希望与你在一起、并且无法想象生活中没有你、并且会为你而战、并且会为此尽一切努力、并且永远不想失去你、并且一遍又一遍地再次选择你的人。）
I think you’re great BUT I can’t love you BUT I don’t know how to love you BUT I won’t love you BUT I will make you think I do BUT it will never be you BUT I am okay without you BUT you are so stupid to ever think I could love you BUT that is your fault.
（我觉得你很棒，但是我不能爱你、但我不知道怎么爱你、但我不会爱你、但我会让你认为我爱你但那个人永远不会是你、但是我没有你也没关系、但你是如此愚蠢的以为我能爱你、但这是你的错。）
You should never have to fight or beg for someone to love you or to choose you. Someone who loves you will never need convincing because you are all they want. It was never a question. You were always the answer. However, I want you to know…their inability to love you has nothing to do with your ability to be loved. You are so deserving and so worthy of all the love there is.
（你永远不应该争取或乞求某人爱你或选择你。爱你的人永远不需要说服，因为他们想要你。这从来都不是一个问题，因为你永远都是那个答案。但是，我希望你知道......他们不爱你，与你被爱的能力无关。你是如此值得拥有并且非常值得所有的爱。）
Understand you are priceless. Find someone who loves you at full price; not half off. The minute you allow someoneto love you at less than you deserve is the moment you compromise yourself and your value. Stop. You are Gucci, baby. Get off the clearance rack.
（明白你是无价的，找一个全价爱你的人，而不是半价。你允许别人以低于你应得的价格爱你的那一刻，就是你妥协自己和你的价值的那一刻，停下来！你很好，宝贝。离开清关架。）
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