Laura Vanderkam: How to gain control of your free time （视频链接↓↓↓）
看完这个演讲后，我开始给自己定了“专注于做重要但不紧急的事情”列表。阅读，英语学习，锻炼身体，专业技能打磨等等，这些看似“不紧急”的事情，时间长了，就会转变为紧急。
Laura告诉大家，时间不是靠所谓的技巧，省出来的。是你自己通过对“什么才是重要的事情”的不断打磨，而做出的选择。
演讲分为这么几个部分：
1. 大家对时间管理专家的两个误解
2. 例举节省时间的方法，得出结论：“并不是通过节省时间创造想要的生活，而是先创造想要的生活，然后时间就自动节约下来了。”
3. 热水器例子，说明时间管理的关键：“对待重要的事情，就像对待坏掉的热水器一样。”
4. 怎样做？怎样分辨到底什么才是重要的事情？“不管你有多忙，总有时间做重要的事情。而当我们专注于重要的事情时，我们就能利用我们所拥有的时间，去创造我们想要的生活。”（文末的具体方法，值得我们去践行。）
When people find out I write about time management, they assume two things. One is that I'm always on time, and I'm not. I have four small children,and I would like to blame them for my occasional tardiness,but sometimes it's just not their fault. I was once late to my own speech on time management.
一个误区是：时间管理专家应该会非常守时。
The second thing they assume is that I have lots of tips and tricks for saving bits of time here and there. Sometimes I'll hear from magazines that are doing a story along these lines, generally on how to help their readers find an extra hour in the day.
And the idea is that we'll shave bits of time off everyday activities, add it up, and we'll have time for the good stuff. I question the entire premise of this piece, but I'm always interested in hearing what they've come up with before they call me.
另一个误区是：时间管理专家，一定有很多怎样利用时间的技巧。
I think this idea has it completely backward. We don't build the lives we want by saving time. We build the lives we want, and then time saves itself.
并不是通过节省时间创造想要的生活，而是先创造想要的生活，然后时间就自动节约下来了。
But the reason she was unavailable to speak with me is that she was out for a hike, because it was a beautiful spring morning, and she wanted to go for a hike.
So of course this makes me even more intrigued, and when I finally do catch up with her, she explains it like this. She says, "Listen Laura, everything I do, every minute I spend, is my choice."
And rather than say,"I don't have time to do x, y or z," she'd say, "I don't do x, y or z because it's not a priority.""I don't have time," often means "It's not a priority." If you think about it, that's really more accurate language. I could tell you I don't have time to dust my blinds, but that's not true. If you offered to pay me $100,000 to dust my blinds,I would get to it pretty quickly.
讲者需要采访一个非常忙碌的成功女性，可是她“没有时间”，只因为那天天气特别好，她要去徒步。“我花的每一分每一秒，都是我自己的选择。” 我没有时间做ABC, 是因为那些事情不在我的优先级别里。
（我们每天都在面临做这个还是做那个的无尽选择之中，然而每天的时间24小时，又是固定的。做了这个，就没办法再做那个......所以，不断打磨自己认为真正需要做的事情，真正重要的事情，这样，就可以在选择中，不纠结、不痛苦。快刀斩乱麻！不要做老好人，要学会对别人说不。）
Since that is not going to happen,I can acknowledge this is not a matter of lacking time; it's that I don't want to do it.Using this language reminds us that time is a choice.And granted, there may be horrible consequences for making different choices, I will give you that. But we are smart people, and certainly over the long run, we have the power to fill our lives with the things that deserve to be there.
“我没有时间做这个”，其实，意思就是“我不想做这个”。所有的事情，都是我们自己的选择。日复一日，年复一年，积累的力量是强大的。
So how do we do that? How do we treat our priorities as the equivalent of that broken water heater?
first we need to figure out what they are. I want to give you two strategies for thinking about this.The first, on the professional side: I'm sure many people coming up to the end of the year are giving or getting annual performance reviews.You look back over your successes over the year, your "opportunities for growth." And this serves its purpose, but I find it's more effective to do this looking forward. So I want you to pretend it's the end of next year.You're giving yourself a performance review, and it has been an absolutely amazing year for you professionally. What three to five things did you do that made it so amazing? So you can write next year's performance review now.
那么我们要怎么做呢？具体方法：
你一定有3-5件非常非常想做的事情，一旦胜利完成，在做年度总结的时候，会特别有成就感！
假设：现在是2017年的最后一天，你把这些“已经完成的事情”写下来。
you can write it. And now, between the performance review and the family holiday letter,we have a list of six to ten goals we can work on in the next year.
now we need to break these down into doable steps. So maybe you want to write a family history. First, you can read some other family histories,get a sense for the style.Then maybe think about the questions you want to ask your relatives, set up appointments to interview them. Or maybe you want to run a 5K. So you need to find a race and sign up, figure out a training plan,and dig those shoes out of the back of the closet. And then -- this is key --we treat our priorities as the equivalent of that broken water heater, by putting them into our schedules first.We do this by thinking through our weeks before we are in them.
倒推：达成那些年度目标，需要怎么做，一步一步，每个月，每周，每天需要干什么。这就要求我们有细化自己大目标的本领。
There are 168 hours in a week. Twenty-four times seven is 168 hours.That is a lot of time.If you are working a full-time job, so 40 hours a week,sleeping eight hours a night, so 56 hours a week --that leaves 72 hours for other things.That is a lot of time.You say you're working 50 hours a week,maybe a main job and a side hustle.Well, that leaves 62 hours for other things.You say you're working 60 hours.Well, that leaves 52 hours for other things.You say you're working more than 60 hours.Well, are you sure?
一周有168个小时。我们真的是“有的是时间！”。
we have plenty of time, which is great, because guess what? We don't even need that much time to do amazing things.But when most of us have bits of time, what do we do? Pull out the phone, right? Start deleting emails.Otherwise, we're puttering around the house or watching TV.
时间很多，大部分都被浪费了。
small moments can have great power. You can use your bits of time for bits of joy. Maybe it's choosing to read something wonderful on the bus on the way to work. I know when I had a job that required two bus rides and a subway ride every morning, I used to go to the library on weekends to get stuff to read.It made the whole experience almost, almost, enjoyable.
Breaks at work can be used for meditating or praying.If family dinner is out because of your crazy work schedule, maybe family breakfast could be a good substitute.
小时刻，也有大贡献。跟家人共进早餐；上班路上阅读；工作间歇冥想......都是我们美好生活的一部分。
It's about looking at the whole of one's time and seeing where the good stuff can go. I truly believe this.There is time. Even if we are busy, we have time for what matters. And when we focus on what matters, we can build the lives we want in the time we've got.
专注于重要的事情，时间总是有的。
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