have you ever compare yourself with someone that excels you in some respects?
have your parents ever compare you with the "next-door kid"?
What does this kind of comparison usually bring?
My mom always thought this comparison is necessary for improvement, without realizing it's a kind of emotional abuse. She loves me but not in the way that I wanted. She is anxious and passes this anxiety onto me without knowing that.
The famous psychologist Alfred Adler ever said: the lucky one got healed from his/her childhood for the whole life, the unlucky one spent his whole life to heal his/her childhood.
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