It is natural that young people are often uncomfortable when they are with their parents. They say that their parents don’t understand them. They often think that their parents are out of touch with modern ways; that they are too serious and too strict with their children; and that they seldom give their children a free hand.
年轻人和父母在一起时通常会不自在，这很自然。他们说他们的父母不理解他们，经常认为自己的父母与现代生活方式脱节；他们对孩子过于严肃和严格；很少给予孩子自由。
It is true that parents often find it difficult to win their children’s trust and they tend to forget how they themselves felt when young.
的确，父母往往很难赢得孩子的信任，他们往往会忘记自己年轻时的感受。
For example, young people like to act on the spot without much thinking. It is one of their ways to show that they have grown up and they can face any difficult situation. Older people worry more easily. Most of them plan things ahead, at least in the back of their minds, and do not like their plans to be upset by something unexpected.
例如，年轻人喜欢不假思索马上行动，这是他们展示自己已经长大，可以面对任何困难的一种方式。老年人更容易担心，他们中的大多数人都会提前计划，至少在脑海中是这样，他们不喜欢自己的计划被意外的事情扰乱。
When you want your parents to let you do something, you will have better success if you ask before you really start doing it.
当你想让你的父母允许你做某事时，如果你在开始做之前问，会更容易成功。
Young people often make their parents angry with their choices in clothes, in entertainment and in music. But they do not mean to cause any trouble; it is just that they feel cut off from the older people’s world, into which they have not yet been accepted. That’s why young people want to make a new culture of their own. And if their parents do not like their music or entertainment or clothes or their way of speech, this will make the young people extremely happy.
年轻人在服饰、娱乐和音乐方面的选择经常让父母对他们感到愤怒。但他们并不是有意制造任何麻烦；只是他们觉得自己与老年人的世界隔绝，没有被接纳。这就是年轻人想要创造自己的新文化的原因。如果他们的父母不喜欢他们的音乐、娱乐、服饰或说话方式，这会让年轻人非常开心。
Sometimes you are so proud of yourself that you do not want your parents to say “yes” to what you do. All you want is to be left alone and do what you like. It is natural enough, after being a child for so many years, when you were completely under your parents’ control.
有时候你不想让父母赞成你所做的事，甚至引以为豪。你只想让自己独处，做自己喜欢的事。当你做了这么多年的孩子之后，当你曾经完全在父母的控制之下，这是很自然的。
If you plan to control your life, you’d better win your parents over and try to get them to understand you. If your parents see that you have a high sense of responsibility, they will certainly give you the right to do what you want to do.
如果你打算控制你的生活，你最好说服你的父母，让他们理解你。如果你的父母看到你有高度的责任感，他们肯定会给你自由做事的权利。
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