Why It Seems Like Your Friends Have Better Lives Than You Do
Have you ever felt like everyone else has so much more to be thankful for? Check your Facebook or Instagram feed: Your friends seem to dine at finer restaurants, take more exotic vacations, and have more accomplished children. They even have cuter pets!
你是否曾经觉得其他人怎么会有那么多值得感谢的东西?查看你的脸书或Instagram动态:你的朋友们似乎在更好的餐厅用餐,享受更多的异国假期,有才华横溢的孩子。他们甚至有更可爱的宠物。
Rest assured, it’s an illusion, one that’s rooted in a property of social networks known as the friendship paradox. The paradox, first formulated by sociologist Scott Feld, states that “your friends are more popular than you are, on average.” This property combines with other peculiarities of social networks to create an illusion.
请放心,这是一种幻觉,根植于社交网络的一种特性,即所谓的“友谊悖论”。社会学家斯科特•菲尔德(Scott Feld)首先提出了这一悖论:“平均而言,你的朋友比你更受欢迎。”这种特性与社交网络的其他特性结合在一起,创造出一种错觉。
想象一下,一般来说,很少有人是红头发的,但在许多人看来,他们的大多数朋友都是红头发的。“红头发很普遍”这一错觉的形成,只需要几个超级有影响力的人变成红头发就行了。
其实那些活跃在朋友圈的人不一定活得比你好,只是大家都喜欢把最好的一面展现在公众面前。
一句话总结:
不在比较中蹉跎,要在感恩中精进。
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