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有些人或许通过长时间的居家隔离独居生活找到适合的生活步调，有些人或许还在人生的低谷期不断探寻寻找。

今天在medium上看到一篇文章，短小精悍我很喜欢，不如你也一起看看～

Three Things in Life That Are Totally Not Worth it

人生不值得的三件事

Youtube is filled with life coaches. Many of them bathing in the narratives of their own success.

Youtube上面有很多人生赢家人生导师，他们中的许多人叙述着自己成功的故事。

“I was down and out. Nobody believed in me. Then — I started working out.”

“我曾经一贫如洗处于人生低谷，没有人相信我，然后我开始锻炼”。

ps：然后他就成为了一个健身博主，走上人生巅峰，获取百万粉丝。

The world was against them. Then they rose from the ashes.

世界以痛吻我，然而他们报之以歌，在荆棘中生出玫瑰。

We’ll set aside the extravagant fees these guys charge. We’ll ignore the fact that many of them don’t even own the cars they are posing in front of. We can even disregard that they aren’t living the lives that they’re selling.

我们把这些博主收取的广告费用暂时搁置一边，也忽视他们并没有拥有他们照片或视频中的汽车。我们甚至不理会他们是依靠在公众平台放出来的视频来赚钱生活。

Doesn’t it bother you just a bit that everything they are promoting revolves around wealth? Happiness, achievement, security, contentment — everything we seek, suddenly attached to shiny objects. That kind of marketing preys on people’s insecurities.

他们所推动的一切都是关于财富会不会让你感到不快？幸福、成就、安全、满足---我们寻找追求的一切都被附庸在这些闪亮的物体，价格高昂的服装或者饰品中。这种营销方式会让人们更加感到不安全感。

大多数的明星和名人通过包和珠宝来标榜个人的价值以及自己的成功，这或许并不是一个好的趋势。

Do you really want to worship an avatar built on tacky sports cars and jewelry? You already know those things won’t make you happy.

你真的要以崇拜奢侈的跑车和珠宝来作为自己的化身？你应该知道这些东西并不能让你感到开心和满足。

Every flashy car you buy will be one-upped by the guy down the street. You’ll be outshined by the person with a slightly nicer watch. It is an endless game of escalation. 

你购买的每辆豪华轿车比街上所有人的都豪华。但你也将会对一个手表更金贵一点的人望而却步。这是一场不断升级的游戏。

物质的追求没有终点。

To the rest of you, remember: Seeking status and looking rich is an expensive game to play. Participation isn’t required.

对于其他人，请记住：寻求地位和致富是一款昂贵的游戏。我们不需要参加。

The men and women I know who have all of those fancy things aren’t any happier than regular folks. Typically, it’s quite the opposite.

我认识的那些拥有所有这些昂贵事物的人们，并没有比普通人更快乐。通常情况恰恰相反，普通人会获得更多的欢乐。

Take it from a guy who has nothing to sell you: there are healthier models for happiness and contentment. 

将它从一个没什么可卖给你的家伙那里拿回来：更健康的幸福生活模式和个人满足对生活方式。

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现如今，想要成为网红和明星是大多数年轻人的目标，浅以为这样的追求或许缺少内在的价值。

我绝不否认大多数明星内外兼修值得我们学习，原作者或许也只是劝诫那些只追求地位和财富，闪亮珠宝昂贵服装的人，希望他们可以放弃这件不值得也完全没有价值的事情。

也许是个人的贫穷，我也不会在公众号看的Gucci或者LV的包包觉得Oh， my god好好看，然后攒几个月的工资和生活费也要买。

过度的消费只会让本来贫穷的生活更加有负担，这一点坚决反对。

An Overblown Party

奢靡的派对

We invited our extended family.

我们邀请了所有的亲朋好友来参加我们的结婚派对。

We had a live cover band, high-end catering, a harpist. In total, we spent more than $20,000 on our wedding. Thousands more were spent on a ring.

我们有现场乐队、高端餐饮、竖琴手。我们在婚礼上总共花费了超过20,000美元，包括成千上万的钱花在戒指上。

The wedding lasted one night. Today — we are no longer married.

婚礼只持续了一个晚上。然而现在现在-我们不再举行结婚派对了。

The ring is now useless (to me at least). This isn’t a knock on my ex. We are fine. I wish her the very best. I’m just pointing out that, in a country with a 50% divorce rate, we might be spending too much on weddings.

戒指现在无用了，这并不是针对我的前妻，我们的关系依旧很好。我祝她一切顺利。我只是认为在离婚率达到50％的国家/地区，我们在婚礼上的支出可能过多。

Not only is it illogical, but it also puts a lot of pressure on couples. Or maybe it’s illogical for two people to stand in front of a crowd and vow to spend their lives together. 

这不仅不合逻辑，而且对夫妻施加了很大的压力。或者两个人站在人群面前发誓要共同度过一生是不合逻辑的。

I want you to be happy. I want your marriage to last. If you want your dream wedding, have at it. Just remember: we tend to be most disappointed with the things that we attach high expectations to.

我希望你快乐幸福，我希望你的婚姻可以一直持续下去。如果你想要梦想中的婚礼，毫不犹豫的去拥有它。但也要记住：我们对寄予厚望的事情最容易失望。

Your wedding should be about love. It shouldn’t drain your soul. You shouldn’t be crying every day from stress and taking out loans to finance it.

你的婚礼应该是关于爱情的。它不应该消耗你的精力。你不应该每天都在因为压力而哭泣，甚至借钱和贷款来负担一场昂贵的婚礼。

If you want to spend a fortune on this endeavor, I’d spend it on the honeymoon instead. Your money will go much further. And it will be a lot more fun.

如果你想在这项工作上花费大笔资金，那么我会把它花在度蜜月上。你的钱将会让你走得更远，旅程也变得更加有趣。

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作者想表达的可能不仅是对于结婚派对，或许对于大型活动和事件的记念活动也是一样的期望，只是结婚这件事情更加具有代表性。

这一点更加像是对金钱的长期规划，有些人会选择在戒指上斥巨资，有些人会贷款借钱在婚礼仪式上出彩。他们觉得婚礼会让人永生难忘，是值得记念和怀念并花钱的一件事。

有些人则选择省下这笔钱来做其他的投资。

那么对于作者而言，结婚仪式和蜜月旅行他选择旅行，这两个选择并没有优劣。因人而异。

结婚仪式和50年纪念日你会更期待哪一个？美好的爱情持续50年是否比一天的炫目多彩更令人期待。

The Negative Power Of Extensions

拖延的负面能量

I have a dishwasher to run. There’s also a pile of clean clothes that I need to fold (I despise folding).

我要洗碗碟。我还需要折叠一堆干净的衣服。

However, I did the important things that needed to be done: I exercised, did lawn work, and I’m getting my writing in now.

但是，我做了需要做的重要事情：我运动了，除了草，现在我需要开始写作了。

Procrastination isn’t always bad, particularly if it is in lieu of other priorities. But when it’s things of consequence? Make no mistake — procrastination can ruin your life.

拖延并不总是坏事，尤其是代替其他优先事项时。

但是，当事关重大时？

没错-拖延会毁了你的生活。

Nothing has killed more productivity and human potential than the phrase, “I’ll do it later.”

没有什么比“我待会儿再做”这个词能杀死更多的生产力和潜力。

It’s how your get-healthy plan turned into an 80 lb weight gain. It’s how you found yourself cornered between either a 15-hour study session or a failed class.

这就是为什么你的健康计划本来是如何使体重增加80磅，但这样一来你就会发现自己在15小时的学习课程和失败的课堂之间陷入困境。

Our drive for instant gratification steers us away from being uncomfortable. This is due to deficiencies in our “lizard brain” — which isn’t optimized to perform in the lap of first-world luxuries.

即时的自我满足的使我们摆脱了不适。这是由于我们的“蜥蜴脑”不足所致-没有针对在真实世界奢侈品圈中的表现进行优化。

A caveman had no reason to break his mammoth meat up into 5 smaller meals to help his metabolism. A beach body was the last thing on his mind. We don’t struggle for basic survival. This change has put us at odds with ourselves.

穴居人没有理由将猛犸象的肉分解成五小份来帮助他的新陈代谢，美好的身体是他心中的最后一件事。

但是我们不需要为基本生存而奋斗，因此这种变化使我们与自己原本的计划背道而驰。

We let tasks pile up until they become too much. It becomes easier to just flush them all away and start fresh: we abandon the gym plan, take the bad grade, drop the class.

我们让任务堆积如山，直到它们变得太多为止。然后将它们全部冲洗掉并重新开始变得更加容易：我们放弃了健身计划，取消了不好的成绩，放弃了课程。

If our sense of urgency only kicks in when water is around our ankles, how can we ever hope to stop a leak?

如果只有在脚踝周围有水时我们的紧迫感才会增强，那么我们又怎能希望从一开始就阻止泄漏？

Few words are more dangerous than “later”.

没有什么词比“以后”更危险。

Just so that I’m not being too vague, here is my favorite trick to help with procrastination.

为了不让我太含糊，这是我最喜欢的一个拖延技巧。

It’s called the five-second rule. If you feel stuck, try counting down from 5 to 0. Then watch, as you bounce out of your couch, roll out of bed, often before you get to 0.

这就是五秒规则。

如果感觉卡住，请尝试从5倒数到0。然后观察，当你从沙发上起身，当你从床上起来时，通常是在到达0之前。

The countdown taps into our conscious mind. It creates a sense of urgency. It’s a time bomb to laziness.

倒计时进入我们有意识的头脑。它产生一种紧迫感。这是懒惰的定时炸弹。

数到5秒钟，然后开始做你原定的任务。

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想要拒绝拖延，所以开始准备这篇文章。

想到什么就去做什么，才会不拖延不导致更多的遗憾。

今日事今日毕，从小学到大的一句话，你是否真的做到？

总结

Three things that are totally not worth it:

人生中，完全不值得的三件事：

Chasing fabulous wealth and trying to look rich.

追逐神话般的财富并试图看起来富有；

Overly expensive weddings.

过于昂贵的婚礼；

Procrastination — the slow, silent killer.

拖延症，缓慢而沉默的杀手。

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