Opening
I grew up with my identical twin, who was an incredibly loving brother. Now, one thing about being a twin is, it makes you an expert at spotting favoritism. If his cookie was even slightly bigger than my cookie, i had questions. And clearly, i wasn’t starving.
开头为主题埋下伏笔，寥寥数语，不仅交代了背景，还引出了favoritism。而且还有点幽默哦，夸张一些，就可以带来笑点呢。
接着，介绍自己心理学家的身份，同时介绍自己的发现”a favoritism, how much more we value the body than we do the mind”。同时作者还自嘲，大家看到他的名片“oh, a psychologist. So, not a real doctor” 我脑海里都有那个表情和语气了，忍不住要模仿这段话～
接着，他又讲了一个故事（突然发现故事来的好简单，但我总是囊中羞涩，呜呜呜）。他朋友家的五岁小孩，刷牙的时候割破了手指，自己拿创可贴贴上。于是作者灵光一闪，说出内心深藏已久的话：
We all know how to maintain our physical health and how to practice dental hygiene, right? We’ve known it since we were five years old.
But what do we know about maintaining our psychological health? Well, nothing.
What do we teach our children about emotional hygiene? Nothing.
How is it that we spend more time taking care of our teeth than we do our minds?
Why is it that our physical health is so much more important to us than our psychological health?
哇，一连串问题犹如灵魂拷问，特别是两个Nothing掷地有声。问问题能起到铺垫作用，进而引出自己的观点，同时让观众思考，思考了才有可能认同。
接下来就是讲为什么要重视心理伤害……
We sustain psychological injuries even more often than we do physical ones, injuries like failure or rejection or loneliness. 原来这些也是伤害……
And they can also get worse if we ignore them, and they can impact our lives in dramatic ways.
Any yet, even though there are scientifically proven techniques we could use to treat these kinds of psychological injuries, we don’t.It doesn’t even occur to us that we should. “oh, you’re feeling depressed? Just shake it off; it’s all in your head.” Can you imagine saying that to somebody with a broken leg:”oh, just walk it off;it’s all in your leg.” 好讽刺～
It is time we closed the gap between our physical and our psychological health. It’s time we made them more equal, more like twins.作者太高明了，双胞胎，偏爱，身体与心理健康，这些竟然能联系到一起。这还没结束，双胞胎还有另外一个故事。
这个故事是演讲中最主要的一部分。作者叙述时交代了背景，加入了心理描写，动作描写，还有对话。然后提出了“孤独”这一冲突。详细叙述之后，又介绍了“失败”。
The only thing that prevented them from succeeding was that their mind tricked them into believing they could not. Now, adults get tricked this way as well, all the time. In fact, we all have a default set of feelings and beliefs that gets triggered whenever we encounter frustrations and setbacks.
The only thing that prevented them from succeeding was that their mind tricked them into believing they could not. Now, adults get tricked this way as well, all the time. In fact, we all have a default set of feelings and beliefs that gets triggered whenever we encounter frustrations and setbacks.
Are you aware of how your mind reacts to failure? You need to be. Because if your mind tries to convince you you’re incapable of something, and you believe it, then like those two toddlers, you’ll begin to feel helpless and you’ll stop trying too soon, or you won’t even try at all. And then you’ll be even more convinced you can’t succeed. You see, that’s why so many people function below their actual potential. Because somewhere along the way, sometimes a single failure convinced them that they couldn’t succeed, and they believe it.
有一段我很喜欢的故事，是讲一个离婚的女性，第一次约会被拒绝。
The woman was so hurt she couldn’t move. All she could do was call a friend. Here’s what the friend said:”Well, what do you expect? You have big hips, you have nothing interesting to say. Why would a handsome, successful man like that ever go out with a loser like you?” Shocking, right, that a friend could be so cruel? But it would be much less shocking if i told you it wasn’t the friend who said that. It’s what the woman said to herself. And that’s something we all do, especially after a rejection. We all start thinking of all your faults and all our shortcomings, what we wish we were, what we wish we weren’t. we call ourselves names.
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Ending
Can you imagine what the world would be like if everyone was psychologically healthier? If there were less loneliness and less depression? If people knew how to overcome failure?if they felt better about themselves and more empowered? If they ware happier and more fulfilled? I can, because that’s the world my brother wants to live in as well. And if you just become informed and change a few simple habits, well--that’s the world we can all live in.
词汇
Their five-year-old可以直接表示五岁的孩子
Get ready for bed
Reach out for a box of band-aids
Maintain our physical health
Practice dental hygiene
Miss each other terribly
When our birthday rolled around
Distort our perceptions
Scramble our thinking
horrifying
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