It is common to perceive vulnerability as a negative trait. Those who are vulnerable are viewed as weak losers. It is common sense not to show one’s vulnerability to others. As a result, many of us psychologically armour ourselves against the world.
Every time we are wounded or hurt or suffer from the outside, we erect a protective emotional wall around us. The result is the creation of armour, whether in relationships, business, or certain experiences. But in reality, the counterintuitive consequence is that the more armour one wears, the more he isolates himself from life and the world. If he represses his feelings, he will eventually become depressed mentally, and even develop various horrible diseases like cancer. The act of hiding one's vulnerability leads to a vicious spiral which turns a person into a helpless loner, isolated and ill.
Making yourself vulnerable in front of your friends means giving up your armour, showing your weakness, and exposing your fragile part. Others will be moved by your candid vulnerability and seek to lift you with compassion because of your sincerity and humility. Consequently, your life will not be walled off in stagnation. The best life is, as a matter of fact, a vulnerable life, which is totally counterintuitive, and is something most people fail to understand.
Men, for example, often suffer a lot from this problem because they always try to appear strong and play macho. Men do not like to admit that they are vulnerable. However, when they show women their most delicate, soft side, it awakens in women a feeling of empathy, and a desire to care for and protect men. Men and women relationships can thus become instantly closer. A man who admits his vulnerability and discloses it to others will live a healthier life emotionally than if he represses himself and pretends to be strong. This rule is applicable to everyone.
Let us embrace our vulnerability and take off the psychological armour. Do not hide your weakness from your friends. Open it up to people around you. People will subsequently give you more care, help and warmth, and you will become more truthful, open-minded, and much happier than if you wear emotional armour.
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生活中的智慧 5：表现出脆弱是反直觉的
人们普遍认为脆弱是一种消极的特质。那些脆弱的人被看作是软弱的失败者。不向他人展示自己的弱点是常识。因此，我们中的许多人在心理上把自己武装起来，与世界对抗。
每当我们受到伤害或受到外界影响时，我们就在自己周围竖起一堵情感墙，仿佛穿上了一幅情感盔甲，无论是在人际关系中，还是在商业中，或是在某些经历中。但在现实中，反直觉的后果是，一个人穿的盔甲越厚，他就越把自己与生活和世界隔离开来。如果他压抑自己的感情，最终会在情感上变得抑郁，甚至患上各种可怕的疾病，如癌症。隐藏自己的弱点的行为会导致恶性循环，使一个人变成无助的独行侠，被孤立和患病。
在朋友面前让自己变得脆弱意味着放弃你的盔甲，展示你的弱点，暴露你柔软的部分。别人会被你坦率的脆弱性所感动，并因你的真诚和谦逊而对你充满同情，从而会帮助提携你。于是，你的生活将不会拘泥于停滞不前。
事实上，最好的生活是一种敢于显示脆弱的生活，这完全是反直觉的。这是大多数人所不理解的事实。
例如，男人往往在这个问题上吃了不少苦头，因为他们总是试图表现得很坚强，扮演大男子主义。男人不喜欢承认他们是脆弱的。然而，当他们向女性展示自己最脆弱、最柔软的一面时，就会唤醒女性的同情心，唤起她们关心和保护男性的愿望。男女关系因此可以立即变得更加亲密。
一个承认自己的弱点并向他人披露的人，在情感上会比压抑自己和假装坚强的人活得更健康。 这对每个人来说都是如此。
让我们拥抱自己的弱点，脱掉心理上的盔甲。不要对你的朋友隐藏你的弱点，向你周围的人敞开它。人们会因此给你更多的关心、帮助和温暖，你会变得更真实、更豁达，比穿上情感盔甲时更快乐。
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