哈佛幸福课(2) -- 为什么要学习积极心理学？

积极心理学这门课程适用于任何人，不仅仅是不快乐的人，对于已经感觉到快乐的人，可以变得更快乐，甚至你仅仅对这一门课程感兴趣，你也会有所收获。

• 积极心理学，要学会主动融入，并不是被动地接受信息，但是需要注意的是并不是所有的理论、观点都适用于你。(not everything is fit to you)
• 1967-2000所发表的各种有关心理学的学术论文中，其实消极研究与积极研究的占比是21：1。虽然客观事实表明人们的心理确实遇到了麻烦，但其实我们应该更多去研究积极的部分。越是关注的部分越有可能起作用。(We should study more that works, study more positive things. How did successful people, happy people do in their life, how do they think?)
• The key word -- resilience（心理弹性）, how did those ordinary kids make extraordinary works ? (These could be taught and learned.)
  1. They are optimistic. When they failed, they think it would work out next time.
  2. They are some kind of idealist.（理想主义者）
  3. They focus on strength.
  4. They set goals and they are future-oriented.
  5. They have role model.（榜样）
  6. They did not blow alone and look for help from others. They admitted that they need help and social support. We should find the fit people to look for help.
• 健康本源学(Salutogenesis)，study health，the new question is more important. 有时候一个新的问题往往会拓宽思路以及带来意想不到的效果。
• 专注不总是好事，we usually ask a specific question，这可能局限了我们的视野。我们可以专注于一个问题，但不能只有那一个问题，这样会看不见很多东西。其实很多东西就在那里，只是我们看不见而已。
• Question creates reality. We should pay more attention to the positive things.
• Appreciate yourself, appreciate the good things, not only for gratitude, but increase the value of the good things. When you take it for granted, even the good things depreciate.
• When you get into trouble, you should take action and take responsibility, then maybe you can gain confidence and make it work.
• 自尊的六大支柱其中一点就是自我负责，you must understand that no one is coming. No one is coming to help you, you are the only one to get you out of trouble.