The Math of Love 3

Okay, Top Tip #2: How to pick the perfect partner.

So let's imagine then that you're a roaring success on the dating scene.

ps:那么让我们想象一下，你在约会现场是一个巨大的成功。

let允许; 让; 准许; 许可; 同意; 擦网球; 出租; 租借

imagine想象; 设想; 误以为; 胡乱猜想; 猜测; 料想; 认为

then当时，那时; 到那时，届时; 然后; 接着; 其后; 后来; 那么; 因此; 既然如此; 当时的

a roaring success非常，极其; 极大的成功，轰动

dating介绍约会的，婚介的; 注明日期; 写上日期; 确定年代; 过时; 不流行; date的现在分词

scene地点，现场; 事件; 场面; 情景; 片段; 镜头

But the question arises of how do you then convert that success into longer-term happiness and in particular, how do you decide when is the right time to settle down?

ps:但问题是，你如何将成功转化为长期的幸福，尤其是，你如何决定什么时候该安顿下来？

question问题; 疑问; 事情; 议题; 课题; 怀疑; 困惑; 正式提问; 质询; 问; 表示疑问

arises发生; 产生; 出现; 引起; 发展; arise的第三人称单数

do you你愿意吗

convert转变，转换，转化; 可转变为; 可变换成; 改变; 皈依，归附; 改变宗教的人; 皈依者

success成功; 胜利; 发财; 成名; 成功的人

happiness幸福; 愉快; 适当; 幸运

in particular尤其; 特别

decide对…作出抉择; 决定; 选定; 裁决; 判决; 影响…的结果

settle down定居，安顿下来; 平定下来，平静下来; 集中精力做; 开始认真做; 准备，开

Now generally, it's not advisable to just cash in and marry the first person who comes along and shows you any interest at all.

ps:现在一般来说，不可取的做法是直接套现，然后嫁给第一个出现并对你表现出兴趣的人。

generally普遍地; 广泛地; 一般地; 通常; 大体上; 笼统地; 概括地; 大概

advisable明智; 可取

cash in利用; 从…中牟利; 从…中捞好处; 将兑现

marry结婚; 嫁; 娶; 为…主持婚礼; 操办婚礼; 把…嫁给; 为…娶亲

first person第一人称; 以第一人称叙述的文体

comes来; 来到; 到达，抵达; 来做; 来取; 来拿; come的第三人称单数

along沿着; 顺着; 靠着…边; 沿着…的某处; 向前; 一道，一起; 越来越

shows表明; 证明; 给…看; 出示; 展示; 教，解说; 演示; show的第三人称单数

interest兴趣; 关注; 引人关注的性质; 吸引力; 趣味; 业余爱好; 使感兴趣; 使关注; 利益

at all全然; 一点; 全然，根本，究竟

But, equally, you don't really want to leave it too long if you want to maximize your chance of long-term happiness.

As my favorite author, Jane Austen, puts it, "An unmarried woman of seven and twenty can never hope to feel or inspire affection again." 

ps:正如我最喜欢的作家简·奥斯汀所说：“一个七岁二十岁的未婚女子再也不可能希望感受到或激发感情了。”

favorite特别受喜爱的; 特别喜爱的人；受宠的人；得到偏爱的人; 宠臣；亲信，心腹; 最有希望获胜者

puts放; 安置; 猛推; 用力插入; 将…送往; 使…前往; put的第三人称单数

unmarried未婚的; 独身的

woman成年女子; 妇女; 女子; 女人; 来自…的女子

seven七

twenty二十; 二十几; 二十年代

inspire激励; 鼓舞; 赋予灵感; 引起联想; 启发思考; 使产生

affection喜爱; 钟爱; 爱情

Thanks a lot, Jane.

What do you know about love?

So the question is then, how do you know when is the right time to settle down given all the people that you can date in your lifetime?

ps:所以问题是，考虑到你有生之年可以约会的所有人，你怎么知道什么时候是安顿下来的合适时机？

question问题; 疑问; 事情; 议题; 课题; 怀疑; 困惑; 正式提问; 质询; 问; 表示疑问

then当时，那时; 到那时，届时; 然后; 接着; 其后; 后来; 那么; 因此; 既然如此; 当时的

how怎样; 如何多少，多么，多大

do you know你知道吗; 知道不知道; 你可知道

settle down定居，安顿下来; 平定下来，平静下来; 集中精力做; 开始认真做; 准备，开始

given已经安排好的; 规定的; 指定的; 所述的; 特定的; 考虑到; 鉴于; 假设事实; 给; 交给; 赠送; 赠与; 送给; 提供，供给，供应; give的过去分词

date日期; 日子; 年代; 时期; 时候; 会晤时间; 约见时间; 注明日期; 写上日期; 确定年代; 过时; 不流行

lifetime一生; 终身; 有生之年; 存在期，寿命，使用期限

Thankfully, there's a rather delicious bit of mathematics that we can use to help us out here, called optimal stopping theory.

ps:谢天谢地，有一个相当美味的数学，我们可以用来帮助我们在这里，称为最佳停止理论。

rather相当，在某种程度上; 有点儿，稍微; 更确切地讲，更准确地说; 表示同意某人的提议

delicious美味的; 可口的; 芬芳的; 令人愉快的; 令人开心的; 宜人的

bit of一点儿一点儿地；一块一块地；点点

mathematics数学; 运算; 计算

use to应用领域; 用途; 习惯

optimal最优的; 最佳的

stopping停止，停下; 中断，停止; 结束，终止; stop的现在分词

theory学说; 论; 说; 理论; 原理; 原则; 意见; 看法; 推测

So let's imagine then, that you start dating when you're 15 and ideally, you'd like to be married by the time that you're 35.

And there's a number of people that you could potentially date across your lifetime, and they'll be at varying levels of goodness.

ps:有很多人你可以在你的一生中约会，他们会有不同程度的善良。

a number of许多的

could用于can的过去时; 能，可以; 能; 把装罐保存; 让…卷铺盖走人; 炒…的鱿鱼; can的过去分词和过去式

potentially潜在地

date日期; 日子; 年代; 时期; 时候; 会晤时间; 约见时间; 注明日期; 写上日期; 确定年代; 过时; 不流行

across从一边到另一边; 横过; 宽; 从…的一边向…; 在对面; 在对过; 从…一边到另一边; 在…对面; 在…对过; 在上

lifetime一生; 终身; 有生之年; 存在期，寿命，使用期限

be at从事于，做

varying相异，不同，有别; 变化，改变; 变更; 改变; vary的现在分词

levels数量，程度，浓度; 标准; 水平; 质量; 品级; 层次; 级别; 使平坦; 使平整; 摧毁，夷平; 使相等; 使平等; 使相似; level的第三人称单数和复数

goodness善良; 优良; 美德; 精华，营养，养分

Now the rules are that once you cash in and get married, you can't look ahead to see what you  could have had, and equally, you can't go back and change your mind.

ps:现在的规则是，一旦你兑现并结婚，你就不能展望未来，看看你能拥有什么，同样，你也不能回去改变主意。

rules规则; 规章; 条例; 建议; 应做之事; 习惯; 常规; 惯常的做法; 控制; 统治; 支配; 操纵; 决定; 裁定; 判决; rule的第三人称单数和复数

once仅一次; 一次; 曾; 曾经; (用于否定句、疑问句和if后)曾，根本; 一…就; 一旦; 当…时候

cash in利用; 从…中牟利; 从…中捞好处; 将兑现

get married结婚

equally平等地; 同样地; 平均地; 相等地; 均等地; 同样，此外，也

go back追溯到; 回溯到; 回到; 回顾

change改变; 变化; 使不同; 变换，改换，变成; 变更; 变革; 替代; 更换; 替代物

mind头脑; 大脑; 思考能力; 智慧; 思维方式; 聪明人; 富有才智的人; 对烦恼，苦恼，焦虑; 介意

In my experience at least, I find that typically people don't much like being recalled years after being passed up for somebody else, or that's just me.

ps:至少从我的经验来看，我发现一般人不太喜欢在为别人去世多年后被召回，或者那只是我。

experience at有…经验

least最小的; 最少的; 程度最轻的; 最小; 最少; 微不足道; 小的; 比较小的; 可爱的，可怜的，讨厌的; 年幼的; 幼小的; little的最高级

find发现，碰到; 找到; 找回; 发现，查明，找出，求得; 发现物，被发现的人

typically通常; 一般; 典型地; 具有代表性地; 不出所料; 果然

much(与不可数名词连用，尤用于否定句; 或与how连用以询问数量; 也可与as、so和too连用)许多，大量，多少; 非常; 更加; 很

being存在; 生存; 生物; 思想感情; 身心; are的现在分词; be的现在分词

recalled记起; 回忆起; 回想起; 使想起; 使想到; 勾起; 召回; recall的过去分词和过去式

passed通过; 走过; 沿某方向前进; 向某方向移动; 使沿移动; 使达到; pass的过去分词和过去式

So the math says then that what you should do in the first 37 percent of your dating window, you should just reject everybody as serious marriage potential. 

ps:所以数学上说，你应该在约会窗口的前37%做些什么，你应该拒绝所有有结婚潜力的人。

math同 mathematics; 数学

you should你应该; 你应该要; 翻阅字典查查这个生词

do in杀死; 谋杀

percent百分之…

dating介绍约会的，婚介的; 注明日期; 写上日期; 确定年代; 过时; 不流行; date的现在分词

window窗; 窗户; 窗口; 窗玻璃; 窗口，视窗; 墙上开的窗形的口; 透明窗口

reject拒绝接受; 不予考虑; 拒收; 不录用; 拒绝接纳; 不用，不出售，不出版; 废品; 次品; 不合格者; 被剔除者; 被拒收者

everybody同 everyone; 每个人; 所有人; 人们

serious不好的; 严重的; 有危险的; 需认真思考的; 严肃的; 重要的; 须重视的

marriage结婚; 婚姻; 婚姻生活; 已婚状态; 婚礼

And then, you should pick the next person that comes along that is better than everybody that you've seen before.

So here's the example.

Now if you do this, it can be mathematically proven, in fact, that this is the best possible way of maximizing your chances of finding the perfect partner.

Now unfortunately, I have to tell you that this method does come with some risks.

ps：不幸的是，我不得不告诉你，这种方法确实存在一些风险。

unfortunately不幸地; 遗憾地; 可惜地; 可悲地

have to必须; 不得不; 劝告或建议时用; 表示一定真实或肯定发生

tell告诉; 告知; 提供; 说明; 显示; 讲述; 说; 表达; 台形土墩; 讲的话; 谈话; 传闻

method方法; 办法; 措施; 条理; 有条不紊

doesdo 的第三人称单数现在时形式

come with伴随…发生; 与……一起供给; 与……一起来

risks危险; 风险; 危险人物; 会带来风险的事物; 借款人，保险对象; 使…冒风险; 冒…的风

For instance, imagine if your perfect partner appeared during your first 37 percent.

Now, unfortunately, you'd have to reject them. 

Now, if you're following the maths, I'm afraid no one else comes along that's better than anyone you've seen before, so you have to go on rejecting everyone and die alone. 

ps:现在，如果你在学数学，恐怕没有人比你以前见过的任何人都好，所以你必须继续拒绝每个人，孤独地死去

maths同 mathematics; 数学

afraid害怕，畏惧; 担心; 担心，生怕

no one没有人; 没有任何人

else其他的; 别的; 另外的; 不同的

better than比…好

anyone(用于否定句、疑问句，也用于if或whether之后，或紧接prevent、forbid、avoid等动词，代替someone)任何人; 随便哪个人; 重要人物

've(=value engineering)价值工程学; 同“have”

have to必须; 不得不; 劝告或建议时用; 表示一定真实或肯定发生

go on继续; 进行; 发生; 持续; 流逝，过去; 进而，接着; 继续前往; 继续说下去; 唠叨，没完没了地说（英国英语中作go on at）; 赶紧，来吧; 凭…作出判断; 以…作为判断的依据; 开始运转，开启

rejecting拒绝接受; 不予考虑; 拒收; 不录用; 拒绝接纳; 不用，不出售，不出版; reject的现在分词

Probably surrounded by cats nibbling at your remains.

ps:可能周围有猫在啃你的遗骸。

surrounded围绕; 环绕; 包围，围住; 与…紧密相关; surround的过去分词和过去式

cats猫; 猫科动物; cat的第三人称单数和复数

nibbling小口咬，一点点地咬; 略微表现出兴趣; nibble的现在分词

remains剩余物; 残留物; 剩饭菜; 古代遗物; 古迹; 遗迹; 遗址; 遗体; 遗骸; 仍然是; 保持不变; 

Questions：

1.What is a common issue among people looking to settle down?

They don't want to settle down too early or too late.

2.To convert something means to change it.

3.To maximize one's chance means to do something in a way that makes it most likely to occur.

4.What is humor behind Jane Austen's quote "An unmarried woman of seven and twenty can never hope to feel or inspire affection again."

It's too pessimistic to claim a one-year-old woman is too old to marry.

5.what risks there for people who reject the first 37% of potential partners they meet?

The first 37% of potential partners might include the most ideal partner.

6.To settle down means to start living a quiet and calm life by getting married.

7.To have a deep affection for someone means to have strong feeling or love for them.

Fill in the blanks:

Now generally, it's not advisable to just cash in and marry the first person who comes along and shows you any interest at all.But, equally, you don't really want to leave it too long if you want to maximize your chance of long-term happiness.

Okay, another risk is, let's imagine, instead, that the first people that you dated in your first 37 percent are just incredibly dull, boring, terrible people.

Now, that's okay, because you're in your rejection phase, so thats fine, you can reject them.

PS:现在，没关系，因为你处于拒绝阶段，所以没关系，你可以拒绝他们。

Now现在; 目前; 此刻; 从现在开始; 表示厌烦; 既然; 由于

okay同“O.K.”; 赞成或同意; 批准

because因为

your你的; 您的; 你们的; 大家的，人们的; 指有名或经常被谈论的人或事物

rejection拒绝; 否决; 抛弃; 拒斥

phase阶段; 时期; 月相; 盈亏; 分阶段进行; 逐步做

fine高质量的; 美好的; 健康的; 身体很好的; 可接受; 够好; 蛮不错; 罚金; 罚款; 处…以罚金

reject拒绝接受; 不予考虑; 拒收; 不录用; 拒绝接纳; 不用，不出售，不出版; 废品; 次品; 不合格者; 被剔除者; 被拒收者

them他们; 她们; 它们; 指性别不详的人时，用以代替him或her

But then imagine, the next person to come along is just marginally less boring, dull and terrible than everybody that you've seen before.

Now, if you are following the maths, I'm afraid you have to marry them and end up in a relationship which is, frankly, suboptimal.

PS:现在，如果你在学数学，恐怕你得和他们结婚，然后以一段不太理想的关系结束。

following接着的; 下述的; 下列的; 拥护者，追随者; 下述; 下列; 如下; 在以后; 由于; 跟随; 跟着; 在…后发生，因…而发生; 在…后做; follow的现在分词

maths同 mathematics; 数学

afraid害怕，畏惧; 担心; 担心，生怕

have to必须; 不得不; 劝告或建议时用; 表示一定真实或肯定发生

marry结婚; 嫁; 娶; 为…主持婚礼; 操办婚礼; 把…嫁给; 为…娶亲

them他们; 她们; 它们; 指性别不详的人时，用以代替him或her

end up in〈非正〉以…结束; 死在

relationship关系，联系; 情爱关系; 性爱关系; 关联，关系

frankly坦率地; 直率地; 老实说

Sorry about that.

But I do think that there's an opportunity here for Hallmark to cash in on and really cater for this market.

PS;但我确实认为，这里有机会让Hallmark赚钱，真正迎合这个市场。

think认为; 以为; 想; 思考; 思索; 思想; 琢磨; 想法

opportunity机会; 时机

here在这里，向这里; 现在; 在这一点上; 给某人东西或指出某物时说; 喂，嘿; 主动提议时说

cash in on靠……赚钱；乘机利用

really事实上，真正地，真实地; 确实，的确; 加强形容词或副词的语气

cater for迎合; 提供饮食及服务; 为…提供所需

market集市; 市场; 商场; 交易; 买卖; 交易量; 商品的销售地; 行销地区; 消费群体; 

A Valentine's Day card like this. 

"My darling husband, you are marginally less terrible than the first 37 percent of people I dated."

PS:“我亲爱的丈夫，你比我约会的前37%的人都不那么可怕。”

husband丈夫; 节俭使用

marginally英 [ˈmɑːdʒɪnəli] 美 [ˈmɑːrdʒɪnəli] adv.轻微地;很少地;微不足道地

less较少的，更少的; 较少; 较小; 更少; 更小; 没那么多; 少; 减去; 扣除; 小的; 比较小的; 可爱的，可怜的，讨厌的; 年幼的; 幼小的; little的比较级

terrible非常讨厌的; 令人极不快的; 可怕的; 危害极大的; 造成极大伤害的; 非常严重的; 不痛快; 有病

than比; 多于，小于，少于; 就

first第一; 最重要的; 首要的; 最优秀的; 首先; 最初; 第一次; 首次; 第一个人; 空前的成就; 前所未有的事情; 一挡，最低挡

percent百分之…

people人; 人们; 大家; 人民，国民; 民族; 种族; 居住在; 把…挤满人; 住满居民; person的复数

dated过时的; 陈旧的; 注明日期; 写上日期; 确定年代; 过时; 不流行; date的过去分词和过去式

It's actually more romantic than I normally manage.

Okay, so this method doesn't give you a 100 percent success rate, but there's no other possible strategy that can do any better.

And actually, in the wild, there are certain types of fish which follow and employ this exact strategy.

PS:事实上，在野外，有某些种类的鱼遵循并采用这种精确的策略。

actually的确，真实地，事实上; 居然，竟然; 实际上

in the wild在自然环境中; 处于野生状态

there are有; 可数名词的复数形式; 许多重要事情要谈

certain确实; 确定; 肯定; 确信; 无疑; 某事，某人，某种; 某些

types of类型; 的型态; 债券的种类

fish鱼; 鱼肉; 钓鱼; 捕鱼; 在…捕鱼

follow跟随; 跟着; 在…后发生，因…而发生; 在…后做

employ雇用; 应用; 运用; 使用; 雇用，受雇; 服务; 工作，职业

exact精确的; 准确的; 严谨的; 严格的; 一丝不苟的; 精密的; 严密的; 要求; 索取; 迫使; 强迫; 强求

strategy策略; 计策; 行动计划; 策划; 规划; 部署; 统筹安排; 战略; 战略部署

So they reject every possible suitor that turns up in the first 37 percent of the mating season, and then they pick the next fish that comes along after that window that's, I don't know, bigger and burlier than all of the fish that they've seen before.

ps:所以他们拒绝了在交配季节的前37%出现的每一个可能的求偶者，然后他们选择了在那扇窗户后出现的下一条鱼，我不知道，比他们以前看到的所有鱼都要大和粗。

reject拒绝接受; 不予考虑; 拒收; 不录用; 拒绝接纳; 不用，不出售，不出版; 废品; 次品; 不合格者; 被剔除者; 被拒收者

suitor求婚者; 有意收购另一公司的公司

turns转动，旋转; 转身; 扭转; 翻转; 翻动; 把…翻过来; turn的第三人称单数

up in熟悉，精通

mating season繁殖季节

and then然后

after that然后

burlier高大强壮的; 魁梧的; burly的比较级

all of一共; 足足; 至少

I also think that subconsciously, humans, we do sort of do this anyway.

PS:我也认为潜意识里，人类，我们无论如何都会这样做。

also而且; 此外; 也; 同样

think认为; 以为; 想; 思考; 思索; 思想; 琢磨; 想法

subconsciously英 [ˌsʌbˈkɒnʃəsli] 美 [səbˈkɑnʃəsli] 下意识地;潜意识地;本能地

humans人; human的复数

sort of有几分;近似;有那么点儿

anyway而且; 加之; 反正; 尽管; 即使这样; 无论如何

We give ourselves a little bit of time to play the field, get a feel for the marketplace or whatever when we're young.

PS:当我们年轻的时候，我们给自己一点时间去打球，去感受一下市场或者其他什么。

give给; 交给; 赠送; 赠与; 送给; 提供，供给，供应; 伸展性; 弹性

ourselves(we的反身形式)我们自己; (用于强调或代替we或us)我们自己，亲自

a little bit一点

time时间; 时间，钟点，时刻; 时，时间; 为…安排时间; 选择…的时机; 计时; 测定…所需的时间; 在某一时刻击球

play the field到处拈花惹草;滥交

feel for摸索着寻找; 同情; 可怜; 怜悯

marketplace市场竞争; 集市; 市场

or whatever诸如此类

when什么时候; 何时; 什么情况下; 什么场合下; 在那时; 其时; 当时; 当场; 在…时候; 当…时; 在…期间; 在…之后; 在任何…时候

young幼小的; 未成熟的; 年轻的; 岁数不大的; 相对年轻的; 年轻人的; 青年的; 适合青

And then we only start looking seriously at potential marriage candidates once we hit our mid-to-late 20s.

PS:然后，当我们进入20多岁中后期时，我们才开始认真研究潜在的婚姻候选人。

start开始，着手，动手; 发生，开始进行; 开动; 发动; 启动; 开头; 开端; 开始; 起始优势; 良好的基础条件

looking看; 瞧; 寻找; 寻求; 注意; 留心; 留神; look的现在分词

seriously严重地; 严肃地; 认真地; 说正经的，说实在的; 非常; 极其

potential潜在的; 可能的; 可能性; 潜在性; 潜力; 潜质; 电位; 电势; 电压

marriage结婚; 婚姻; 婚姻生活; 已婚状态; 婚礼

candidates候选人，申请人; 投考者; 应试者; 参加考试的人; 被认定适合者; 被认定有某种结局者; candidate的复数

once仅一次; 一次; 曾; 曾经; (用于否定句、疑问句和if后)曾，根本; 一…就; 一旦; 当…时候

hit击，打; 碰撞; 撞击; 使碰上; 打; 击; 命中; 击中; 很受欢迎的人

I think this is conclusive proof, if ever it were needed, that everybody's brains are prewired to be just a little bit mathematical.

ps:我认为这是确凿的证据，如果需要的话，每个人的大脑都是天生的，只是一点点数学。

think认为; 以为; 想; 思考; 思索; 思想; 琢磨; 想法

conclusive proof确凿的证据；真凭实据

if ever如果真的…

needed需要; 必需; 有必要; need的过去分词和过去式

everybody同 everyone; 每个人; 所有人; 人们

brains脑; 动物脑髓; 智力; 脑力; 逻辑思维能力; 猛击…的脑袋致死; brain的第三人称单数和复数

just a little一二；略

prewired预接线;预配的

bit有点儿; 稍微; 稍顷; 短距离; 小量; 小块; 咬; 叮; 蜇; 咬饵; 上钩; bite的过去式

mathematical数学的; 数学的;运算能力强的

Questions:

1.If the first 37 percent of people you date are undesirable and you reject them, what does the math say you should do next? 

You should marry the next person who comes along, even if they are suboptimal.

2.How does Fry's example about fish support her claim?

It shows that rejecting one's first potential partners is a natural phenomenon.

3.A phase is a stage in a process.

4.To do something subconsciously means to do without awareness.

5.There's a number of people that you could potentially date across your lifetime.

6.It can be mathematically proven that this is the best way to find the perfect partner. 

7.He question arises of how do you convert that success into longer-term happiness and in particular, how do you decide when is the right time to settle down?

I think this is conclusive proof  that everybody's brains are prewired to be just a little bit mathematical.

8.To play the field means to become romantically involved with a number of partners.

9.We use our past dating experiences to evaluate potential long-term partners.

10.If something is suboptimal, it is below the highest level or standard.

11.why is rejecting the  first 37 percent of potential partner is useful strategy to s the risks?

it offers the highest chance of finding a suitable partner.

Fill in the blanks:

Okay, so this method doesn't give you a 100 percent success rate, but there's no other possible strategy that can do any better.And actually, in the wild, there are certain types of fish which follow and employ this exact strategy.

Repeat & Read Sentences:

1.There's a number of people that you could potentially date across your lifetime.

2.How do you know when is the right time to settle down given all the people that you can date in your lifetime?

3.This method doesn't give you a 100 percent success rate, but there's no other possible strategy that can do any better.

4. it can be mathematically proven that this is the best possible way to find the perfect partner.