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写在最后的话:
在关系里,你的“不耐受点”是什么?是被否定,是被忽视,还是被拒绝?
探讨这个问题的时候,我发现了一个有意思的矛盾点:一方面,这个“不耐受点”常常会让我们失控、抓狂,很容易陷入糟糕的情绪里。
而另一方面,我们又常常会不自觉地被带有这种属性的关系吸引,比如——明明害怕得不到回应,却容易被“回避型”的人吸引;受不了被否定,却总是靠近要求苛刻的关系。
要如何走出这种矛盾的困境,答案不在别处,而在自己身上。
把“善待自己”的主动权拉回自己手里,慢慢培养爱自己的力量吧。只有这样,我们才不会眼巴巴地等着别人来拯救,也不会因为别人无法满足而失望。
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