Everyone in college during normal times stresses about test scores, but on top of that you also had to pass like a thousand COVID tests. I imagine the idea of a normal college experience was all you wanted too. But in this case you and I both learned that you don’t always get all the things in the bag that you selected from the menu in the delivery service that is life. You get what you get. And as I would like to say to you, you wholeheartedly should be very proud of what you’ve done with it. Today you leave university and then you go out into the world searching for what’s next. And so will I.
在正常的情况下，每位大学生都焦虑着他们的学业成绩，但你们却还要通过审上千次核酸检测。我觉得，你们也渴望能够拥有正常的大学经历。但如今的情况下，我们都清楚，很多时候你难以获得你所选择的，这就是生活，你得到的仅仅是你所能够得到的。正如我想对你说的，你应该真心实意地为自己所做到的一切感到非常自豪。今天你从大学毕业，走向世界去寻找下一个目标。我也将如此。
You’ve worked and struggled and sacrificed and studied and dreamed your way here today and so, you know what you’re doing.
你们在这儿工作、奋斗、牺牲、学习和梦想，所以，你们最应该知道自己在做什么。
Life can be heavy, especially if you try to carry it all at once. Part of growing up and moving into new chapters of your life is about catch and release. What I mean by that is, knowing what things to keep, and what things to release. You can’t carry all things, all grudges, all updates on your ex, all enviable promotions your school bully got at the hedge fund his uncle started. Decide what is yours to hold and let the rest go. Oftentimes the good things in your life are lighter anyway, so there’s more room for them. One toxic relationship can outweigh so many wonderful, simple joys. You get to pick what your life has time and room for. Be discerning.
生活可能是沉重的，尤其是当你试图背负这一切的时候。成长并进入你生命中的新篇章的一部分应该是关于抓住与释放。我的意思是，知道哪些东西是应该保留的，哪些东西是要释怀的。你无法背负所有东西前行，如怨恨，那些关于你前任的最新消息，或者那个校霸在他叔叔创办的对冲基金公司获得令人羡慕的晋升。决定好什么是你要保留的，其余的都放下吧。通常情况下，你生活中的好东西都是生命可承受之轻，所以有更多的空间来容纳它们。而一段糟糕的关系会重过许多美妙的、简单的快乐。你可以自由选择以哪些来填充你的生活、时间和空间。要有鉴别力。
Never be ashamed of trying. Effortlessness is a myth.
永远不要因为尝试而感到羞耻。不劳而获是一个神话。
I’m trying to tell you that losing things doesn’t just mean losing. A lot of the time, when we lose things, we gain things too.
我想告诉大家，失去并不是真正意味着失去。很多时候，当我们失去的同时也会收获。
Now you leave the structure and framework of school and chart your own path. Every choice you make leads to the next choice which leads to the next, and I know it’s hard to know sometimes which path to take. There will be times in life when you need to stand up for yourself. Times when the right thing is to back down and apologize. Times when the right thing is to fight, times when the right thing is to turn and run. Times to hold on with all you have and times to let go with grace. Sometimes the right thing to do is to throw out the old schools of thought in the name of progress and reform. Sometimes the right thing to do is to listen to the wisdom of those who have come before us. How will you know what the right choice is in these crucial moments? You won’t.
现在你离开了学校的条条框框，规划自己的道路。你的每一个选择都会让下一个选择接踵而至下，我知道有时很难知道该走哪条路。生活中的一些时候需要为自己站出来。当正确的事情是退缩和道歉的时候，当正确的事情是抗争的时候，当正确的事情是转身就跑的时候。我们有的时候要全力以赴地坚持，有的时候要优雅地放手，有时正确的做法是以进步和改革的名义抛弃旧的思想流派。有时正确的做法是听取前人的智慧。在这些关键时刻，选择正确的方法是让我们左右为难的。
How do I give advice to this many people about their life choices? I won’t. Scary news is: you’re on your own now. Cool news is: You’re on your own now.
我该怎么给这么多人的人生选择提供建议呢？我不会的。坏消息是：你现在要靠自己了。好消息是：你现在要靠自己了。
I leave you with this: We are led by our gut instincts, our intuition, our desires and fears, our scars and our dreams. And you will screw it up sometimes. So will I. And when I do, you will most likely read about on the internet. Anyway…hard things will happen to us. We will recover. We will learn from it. We will grow more resilient because of it.
我们被我们的内心深处的直觉、欲望、恐惧、伤疤和梦想所引导。有时你可能会搞砸一切，我也是。当我沦落如此时，会在互联网上到处传播。困难的事情会发生在我们身上。我们将从中走出，我们将从中吸取教训。我们会因此而变得更有韧性。
转自霉霉纽约大学演讲
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