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奥斯卡奖出炉了！小众同志电影《请以你的名字呼唤我》获得了最佳改编剧本奖。在麦子的强烈推荐下看了这部电影。前面部分印象不太深刻。但在电影的最后，当父亲发现自己的儿子是同性恋，而且又失恋了，他说了一段安慰自己儿子的话。被这段话震撼到了。这段话感人至深，又引人深思，言辞恳切，兼具安慰，教育和引导作用。最好的教育是给你引导，让你自己去体会和领悟。
You two has a nice friendship. You’re too smart not to know how rare, how special what you two had was. He was good. You were both lucky to have found each other because you too are good. When you least expect it, nature has cunning ways of finding our weakest spot. Just remember I’m here. Right now you may not want to feel anything. Maybe you never want to feel anything. And maybe it’s not me you want to speak about these things but feel something you obviously did. Look, you had a beautiful friendship, maybe more than a friendship. And I envy you. In my place, most parents would hope the whole thing goes away. Pray their sons land on their feet, but I am not such a parent. We rip out so much of ourselves to be cured of things faster that we go bankrupt by the age of 30, and have less to offer each time we start with someone new. But to make yourself feel nothing, so as not to feel anything. What a waste! I may have come close, but I never had what you two have. Something always held me back, or stood in the way. How you live your life is your business. Just remember. Our hearts and our bodies are given to us only once, and before you know it, your heart’s worn out. And as for your body, there comes a point where no one looks at it. Much less wants to come near it. Right now, there’s sorrow, pain. Don’t kill it. And with it, the joy you felt.
(英文台词太美，试着自己重新翻译了一遍。水平有限，不足之处，请多指正。)
你们两人之间有一段非常棒的友谊。你这么聪明，不可能不知道你们之间的友谊非常特别而罕见。你和他都是很优秀的人，你们能够找到彼此应该感到幸运。上天总有办法在你猝不及防的时候击中你的弱点，让你伤心。但别怕，爸在你身边！现在你可能不想去让自己有什么感受，或者你从来都不希望有任何感受。你可能也不愿向我说这些事情，但体会你现在的这种伤悲的感觉。
你们两个之间的这段美好情谊超过了友谊。我很羡慕你。站在我的立场上，可能大多数父母都希望整个事情快点结束，希望他们的儿子平安无事，忘掉这种悲伤。但我不是这样的父母。为了疗伤，我们会从自己身上剥夺太多的感情。以至于我们到30岁的时候，我们的感情就已经用完了。从那以后，每开始一段新的恋爱，我们能投入的感情就越来越少。为了让自己不受伤，而放弃掉体验感情的机会，这是对人生的浪费啊！
我也曾想拥有你们之间的那种感情，但是我跨不住那一步，总有些东西总是阻挡在我面前。你如何过你的一生是你自己的事。但一定要记住，我们只有一颗心，一个身体。你的心通常在不知不觉中就已疲惫不堪。至于你的身体，总会有那么一天，没有人愿意多看它一眼，更别说靠近你的身体了。现在，你心里有悲伤，有痛苦。不要摒弃掉你的悲伤痛苦，感受它们，同时也去感受快乐。
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