201902演讲丨How to read a person at

[if !supportLists]1.    [endif]The first sentence come tomy mind is the famous idiom in “The GreatGatsby”

[if !supportLists]2.    [endif]"Whenever you feellike criticizing any one,just remember that all the people in this world haven't had the advantages that you'vehad."

[if !supportLists]3.    [endif]In which we learned thatit is very hard to have a good knowing of someone else

[if !supportLists]4.    [endif]So ,how to read a personat first sight ? By appearance or by betutiful sexy voice?

[if !supportLists]5.    [endif]In common ,when I  meet a new friend ,they often ask  following questions

[if !supportLists]6.    [endif]“What’s your name “ “Andy

Hu“

[if !supportLists]7.    [endif]“where are you from “”hubei huanggang”

[if !supportLists]8.    [endif]‘OH,you must be veryclever “’why “

[if !supportLists]9.    [endif]“for，there is an od saying going like this “Nine years in the sky,the above ground

[if !supportLists]10.  [endif]Hubei guy” “no ,not really,in fact ,I am as foolish as a fool”

[if !supportLists]11.  [endif]“oh ,really ?what’s yourmajor “

[if !supportLists]12.  [endif]“education “,”why not be ateacher ?”

[if !supportLists]13.  [endif]“I don’t know,but why Ishould be “

[if !supportLists]14.  [endif]“so what’s your job “

[if !supportLists]15.  [endif]“wemedia writer” “oh it isa high-profit industry,I heard mimeng makes millions

[if !supportLists]16.  [endif]Of dollars every year.really ?what about you ?”…….

[if !supportLists]17.  [endif]Similar talks happens inmy life over and over again.

[if !supportLists]18.  [endif]For example ,in theChinese new year I took part in a blind date.

[if !supportLists]19.  [endif]Before I appeared

[if !supportLists]20.  [endif] the matchmaker said to me “ there is a boy,handsome well-education and good job and good family,he suit you ver much! “

[if !supportLists]21.  [endif]I have no way but gave up.

[if !supportLists]22.  [endif]as soon as I met him ,I dislike this guy by my sixth sense. I don’t knowwhy

[if !supportLists]23.  [endif]when we talked with eachother ,it confirmed my conclusion firmly !

[if !supportLists]24.  [endif]so I told myself :”never definea person in other people’s mouth ,you mustconfirm the facts yourself”

[if !supportLists]25.  [endif]On the other way ,It puzzles me why

[if !supportLists]26.  [endif]Peope look sosuperficial  when theymeet a new friend,and it seems they can’t wait

[if !supportLists]27.  [endif]to Make quick decisions about the person atfirst sight in their mind ,reagrdles ofthe correctness

[if !supportLists]28.  [endif]Later ,i read some refeerence books,it tells me

that it is a Cultural Label phenomenon.

[if !supportLists]29.  [endif]Like hometown /gender /major /job /hobbies can

help to read a person at first sight!

[if !supportLists]30.  [endif] to some

degrees,it is an effiencient way.

[if !supportLists]31.  [endif]For our brains system,only we know the person

well can it really make us feel safe to get along with this guy.

[if !supportLists]32.  [endif]but it Is a general impression, if you really

want to know a person well ,you must pay more attention on the person consistently.

[if !supportLists]33.  [endif]For example ,if you want to know a person is a

good guy or not ,you can do as following steps.

[if !supportLists]34.  [endif]Firstly,you can get the

information as the in interviewer

Likethe question above ,where are you from ?what’s your major?and so on

[if !supportLists]35.  [endif]Secondly,you can scan his wechat circe and pay attentionto his talks and his hobbies  his friends or even his habbits and hishistory.and so on

[if !supportLists]36.  [endif]Least but not least,never depend to know apeople well for good.

[if !supportLists]37.  [endif]For people will change with time and respond to

different occations.

[if !supportLists]38.  [endif] get asmuch information as you can help you toanalyse!

[if !supportLists]39.  [endif]But you can only difine a person correctly ,only

when he finished his time on earth.

[if !supportLists]40.  [endif]the knowleadge of culture and experience can help us a lot,like traveling and commoncommunicaion in a safe way ,

[if !supportLists]41.  [endif]it can be a good ice-breaker.but if you want to

have a total understanding of

someone

[if !supportLists]42.  [endif]which is a project,we have to learn through our

lifetime!