《高老头》警示世人
他年轻时努力拼搏，挣下了丰厚的家业，又倾尽全力把两个女儿嫁入豪门。
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老了以后，家产损耗殆尽，受尽了世人的鄙夷和嘲笑。
几百年来，无数人为其遭遇唏嘘不已。
但更令人警醒的，却是从书中折射的人生困境——
生在寒门，高老头原本应该像那个时代的普通人一样，一生为了温饱辛苦劳作。
他在重重危机中抓住了风口。
他先是盘下了东家的铺子，又接下社区主任的职务，获得当权势力的保护。
他苦心研究经营之道，生意越做越大，身家也越来越丰厚。
发财之后的高老头没有选择自己花天酒地，而是把所有的心血都投注到两个女儿身上。
不但给女儿们提供贵族般的奢侈生活，还不惜拿出几乎全部家产作陪嫁。
两个女儿成功高嫁后，一个成为伯爵夫人，一个成为银行家太太。
高老头也成为了贵族女婿的座上宾，每天被女儿女婿百般逢迎，日子过得称心如意。
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不是每个人都会遇上不孝的子女，但每一个人，都有属于自己的老来困境。
也许子女心存孝敬，却被996、007的工作耗得筋疲力尽，自顾不暇。
也许老伴虽相伴身侧，却恩怨纠缠，相敬成“冰”。
也许忙碌半生，依然不足以供养余年，不得不以年迈之身继续奔波。
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然而，人生最大的悲凉并不是老无所养。
而是落入绝境之后才看清楚，人老了之后，这一生除了自己，别无指望。
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前半生种树，后半生才能乘凉
从叱咤商场笑傲贵族的成功商人，沦落到一无所有的潦倒老人。
他给女儿提供最好的衣食住行，聘请单独的家庭教师。
他帮大女儿的情夫还掉巨额债务，替小女儿的情夫租下精致公寓，一次又一次为她们穷奢极侈的欲望买单。
为此，高老头不得不降低自己衣食住行的档次，一次次变卖仅剩的家产，甚至连妻子唯一的遗物也送进了当铺。
可他无底线的付出，换来的并不是女儿的真心感激。
两个女儿将他视为耻辱，不但不肯承欢膝下，甚至不允许他正大光明出现在自己家中。
只有需要钱的时候，女儿会短暂地对父亲甜言蜜语。一旦钱财到手，她们立刻翻脸无情，各自寻欢作乐。
他作为父亲，不曾教导过女儿懂得感恩，只知道无原则在满足孩子的人性欲望。
父母和子女之间，从来不是一场我养你小、你养我老的交易，更不是单方面无底线的付出。
前半生父母能做好言传身教，后半生才有子女温暖余生。
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妻子美丽多情，后来溘然长逝。
高老头不忍再婚，坚持独力抚养女儿长大，父女三人朝夕相处，亲密无间。
他沉迷于这样的幸福，觉得这样的日子会天长地久。
婚后的生活并不和谐。夫妻各自包养情人，伴侣彼此之间勾心斗角，两个女婿更借机侵吞了妻子的陪嫁。夫妻反目成仇，又如何指望能在余生里同舟共济。
曾在苦难时互相扶持，才有幸福后的心心相印。曾有前半生的不离不弃，才有暮年时的相濡以沫。人活一世的成功，其实从不是人前风光，也不是资财千万。
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精明的商人，他挣下了丰厚的家业。
这样的气派，不但让其他租客眼红，就连公寓的寡居老板娘，都忍不住想以身相许。
晚年本应该衣食无忧，幸福美满。
直到所有价值被压榨干净，再被女儿们弃如敝屣。临死的时候，高老头才幡然醒悟——原来，他只有留足老本，才能被女儿尊重，才能有舒心的晚景。
生活的柴米油盐，处处都需要钱做底气。
遭遇了疾病意外，更是需要钱做救命良方。
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我国第七次全国人口普查显示:
城乡老人家庭中，空巢家庭超过50%。
如何养老？我们注定是孝顺父母的最后一代，而被儿女抛弃的第一代。
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Old man Gao warns the world
When he was young, he worked hard, earned a rich family fortune, and tried his best to marry his two daughters into a rich family.
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After getting old, the family property is exhausted and has been despised and ridiculed by the world.
For hundreds of years, countless people have lamented their experiences.
But what is more alarming is the dilemma of life reflected from the book——
Born in a poor family, old man Gao should have worked hard for food and clothing like ordinary people in that era.
He caught the wind in the midst of many crises.
First, he set up his owner's shop and took over the post of community director to obtain the protection of the authorities.
He painstakingly studied the way of management. His business became bigger and bigger, and his wealth became richer and richer.
After getting rich, old man Gao didn't choose to spend his time and drink, but put all his efforts into his two daughters.
Not only to provide their daughters with noble luxury life, but also not hesitate to take out almost all their family assets as dowry.
After the two daughters successfully married, one became the countess and the other became the banker's wife.
Old man Gao also became a guest of honor for his noble son-in-law. He was flattered by his daughter and son-in-law every day and lived happily.
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Not everyone will encounter unfilial children, but everyone has their own old dilemma.
Perhaps the children have filial piety, but they are exhausted by the work of 996 and 007.
Perhaps although his wife is accompanied by his side, she is entangled with gratitude and resentment and respects each other into "ice".
Perhaps half a busy life is still not enough to support more than a year, so I have to continue to run in old age.
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However, the greatest sadness of life is not that you are old and have nothing to support.
But only after falling into a desperate situation can we see clearly that when people are old, they have no hope in this life except themselves.
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Plant trees in the first half of your life and enjoy the cool in the second half of your life
From a successful businessman who is arrogant and noble in shopping malls to a poor old man who has nothing.
He provided his daughter with the best clothing, food, housing and transportation and hired a separate tutor.
He helped his eldest daughter's lover pay off huge debts, rented exquisite apartments for his younger daughter's lover, and paid for their extravagant desires again and again.
To this end, old man Gao had to lower his level of clothing, food, housing and transportation, sold off his remaining family property again and again, and even sent his wife's only legacy to the pawnshop.
But what he paid without a bottom line was not his daughter's sincere gratitude.
The two daughters regarded him as a disgrace. They not only refused to accept the favor, but also did not allow him to appear in their own house.
Only when money is needed, the daughter will briefly sweet talk to her father. Once they got the money, they immediately turned ruthlessly and enjoyed themselves.
As a father, he never taught his daughter how to be grateful, but only knew that there was no principle to meet the child's human desire.
Between parents and children, it has never been a deal that I raise you young and you raise me old, let alone a unilateral and bottomless payment.
Parents can teach by example in the first half of their life, and children can warm the rest of their life in the second half of their life.
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His wife was beautiful and affectionate and died later.
Old man Gao couldn't bear to remarry and insisted on raising his daughter alone. The father and daughter lived together day and night and were close.
He indulged in such happiness and felt that such days would last forever.
Married life is not harmonious. The husband and wife kept their lovers, and their partners were intriguing with each other. The two sons-in-law took the opportunity to embezzle their wife's dowry. If a husband and wife turn against each other, how can they expect to be in the same boat for the rest of their life.
Only when we have supported each other in times of suffering can we have a heart to heart bond after happiness. There have been the first half of life never give up, only the old age of mutual help. In fact, the success of a person's life is never the scenery in front of him or the wealth of millions.
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A shrewd businessman, he earned a fortune.
This style not only makes other tenants jealous, but also the widowed landlady of the apartment can't help but want to make a promise.
The old age should be carefree and happy.
Until all the value is squeezed clean and then discarded by the daughters. When he was dying, old man Gao suddenly realized that he could only be respected by his daughter and have a comfortable evening.
The daily necessities of life need money everywhere.
Encountered a disease accident, but also need money to do a life-saving prescription.
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The seventh national census shows that:
In urban and rural elderly families, empty nest families account for more than 50%.
How to provide for the aged? We are destined to be the last generation to be filial to our parents and the first generation to be abandoned by our children.
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重点词汇释义
家业family property; property
尽全力do all sb. can
家产family property
受尽suffer enough from; suffer all kinds of; have one's fill of
鄙夷despise; disdain; look down upon; contempt
唏嘘sob; sigh
普通人the average person; Ordinary People; A Common Man; the man in the street
东家master; boss
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