情境二十八：爱情障碍
要素
一对恋人
障碍
概要
一对恋人想要长相厮守，但他们被某些困难阻住。
变体
A
1. 等级不平等阻碍婚姻
2. 财富不均阻碍婚姻
B
1. 敌对和意外的困难阻碍婚姻
C
1. 由于年轻女子先前与他人订婚，而禁止结婚
2. 由于年轻女子先前与他人订婚，而禁止结婚，因意中人结婚而情况更加复杂
D
1. 亲属的反对阻碍了自由结合
2. 家庭感情被长辈扰乱
E
1. 爱人之间脾气不合阻碍了自由结合
在一些社会文化中，婚姻不仅仅是两个人同居，而是两个家庭的结合。 因此，当一个富人和一个穷人结婚时，贫穷家庭可能会因攀附富贵而高兴，而富裕家庭则远远地看着他们，窃窃私语“淘金者”。
跨越界线的婚姻往往会创造紧张气氛，无论跨国、跨种族、跨宗教、跨阶级，还是跨越其他什么有分歧的团体。
这些故事的读者往往同情这对恋人，而忽视亲属的意见，即使他们赞同这些意见。他们也会想知道跨越社会界限的婚姻到底是什么样子。
事实上，由于恋人各自根深蒂固的价值观及外界影响，跨界婚姻常常失败。潜在的意见分歧渐渐影响爱情，从而不会长久。
Obstacles to love
Description
Elements
Two Lovers
An Obstacle
Summary
Two Lovers want to be together, but they are prevented from doing so by some difficult Obstacle.
Variants
A
1. Marriage prevented by inequality of rank
2. Inequality of fortune an impediment to marriage
B
1. Marriage prevented by enemies and contingent obstacles
C
1. Marriage forbidden on account of the young woman's previous betrothal to another
2. Marriage forbidden on account of the young woman's previous betrothal to another, complicated by an imaginary marriage of the beloved object
D
1. Free union impeded by the opposition of relatives
2. Family affection disturbed by the parents-in-law
E
1. Free union impeded by the incompatibility of temper of the lovers
Discussion
In some societies, marriage is not just two people moving in with one another -- it is a joining of entire families. Thus when a richer person marries a poorer person, then the poorer family may be delighted by the kudos gained, whilst the richer family look on in distain and whisper about 'gold-diggers'.
Union across boundaries often creates tension, whether it is inter-national, inter-racial, inter-religion, inter-class or other combination where people on either side of the divide who are associated with one of the lovers
Readers of such stories may well sympathize with the lovers, although they may also nod wisely at the ignored pleading of the kin. Perhaps also they will wonder what it would be like to be marry outside of their normal social boundaries.
In practice, cross-boundary unions often fail as much due to the ingrained values of the lovers as external influences. The deep love does not last and the relationship will be gradually affected by underlying differences of opinion.
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