我没有指责，只有为未被满足的需求

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1. It’s my belief that we never we do anything for one another I love that kind of energy everybody losses. When we receive something given all of that kind of energy we know we are going to have to pay for it because it was done at the other person‘s expense. I’m interested in a process in which we give to each other from the heart

感受：

用非暴力方式沟通 可以让人感受到是真心跟他人链接。不要用“应该”“必须”这些词，向对方提要求，而是看到对方的需求是什么？因为如果不用这些批判的方式沟通，就会发现当你给予理解，就感觉收获同样的理解和真心。

2.I like you to tell me why you feel as you do in terms for your needs.  I feel as I do because I would have like …or because I was wanting wishing or hoping for…

write down your unmet needs in that format

表达的万能公式，主要是表达感受和自己未被满足的需求。

3.However if the other person speak a judging language, then we need to put on ’NVC’ ear.

感受：如果对方说出批判性的语言，我们可以转换成非暴力沟通方式接收信息。如果对方说你的问题是什么，我们应该听到背后他的需求是什么，他真的想要什么。我们可以跳过他表达的指责和批判，而是试着听到他背后没有满足的需求是什么。