The 7 Habits of Highly Effective

2017.7.18

Words and phrase

1.One person's success is not achieved at the expense or exclusion of the success of others.

At the expense of：with loss or damage to sb/sth以···为代价

e.g. Don’t be happy at the expense of other’s pain.

2.Win/Lose people are prone to use position, power, credentials, possessions or personality to get their way.

Be prone to: likely to do something or suffer from something, especially something bad or harmful,倾向于做某事

e.g. A great many children are prone to junk food.

3.Revenge is a two-edged sword.

Two-edged sword:  a situation with as many bad qualities or effects as good ones 双刃剑

e.g. The use of computers have been a two-edged for people.

4.But his people weren't really behind the decision.

Behind: in support of : on the side of支持

e.g. I know that whatever I do, my parents are always behind me.

5.Respect for this quality is deeply ingrained in the theory of human interaction, management, and leadership.

Ingrained: ~ (in sb / sth) (of a habit, an attitude, etc. 习惯、态度等) that has existed for a long time and is therefore difficult to change 根深蒂固的；日久难改的。同之前我们所了解的deep-rooted， deep-seated.

e.g. It is hard to remove the ingrained prejudice.

Thoughts

今天开始学习habit 4----think win/win, 即双赢。

作者提出了win/win, win/lose, lose/win, lose/lose, win，no deal这六个方面。其中我印象最深刻的是win/lose 。因为生活或学习工作中，很多人都是想要win/lose, 希望自己赢，希望自己成功，希望自己遥遥领先，别人赶不上；希望别人输，希望别人比自己弱。这样的心态都是因为相互比较而激烈竞争产生的，所以通过优胜劣负，来定位了自己。但这是一种目光短浅，鼠目寸光的眼界，如果一直是自己在赢，周围的人都弱，久而久之自己也会满足于这种"自己很强"的完美感之中，殊不知自己也在变弱！win/lose只是一种短暂的胜利，却是一种长期的失败。