允许陌生的人闪耀，却不接受熟识的人进步

MUZIAMIEE

最近做了一个个人公众账号，里面陆陆续续也发布了十几篇文章，现在越发喜欢写作。虽然谈不上是妙笔生花，却也收获了很多人的喜欢，还是有一点点的满足感的，当然，这也激发了我去不断的写，不断的去更加细微的思考人生，观察一些事情。

Recently, I made an Official Account on wechat, and also posted ten or more articles. After this, I began to fancy writing. Maybe I am not a talented writer, but I also got many supportors though. I felt a little bit proud of myself actually. So, this tiny achivement inspire me to think about more and write more. Writing made me want to explore something deeply.

通过做这个公众账号，发送过的这些文章，我渐渐发现，大部分的支持者，无论是朋友圈点赞，或是评论，或是关注我的公众账号的朋友，大多都是相对陌生的人（所谓陌生，是指平时联系不多，不常见面的，以及未曾谋面的），鲜有熟悉的朋友甚至所谓的密友和亲人。

This wechat Official Account and the past articles made me realized that the most supportors are all the strangers ( seldom to meet each other or haven't seen before) no matter the people who are the followers or give comments on my wechat moments.

那么问题来了，为什么会这样呢？我总结，大部分人都有这样的心里：允许陌生的人闪耀，却不接受熟识的人进步。只是很多人不愿意承认罢了。

So here comes the question, why is it? I suppose, most people don't like their fellow friends make progress, whereas, they would like to be the fans of amazing strangers.

MUZIAMIEE

从前很小的时候，听过一句话，孟子的：不患寡而患不均。这句话说的很在理，貌似也体现了部分社会主义甚至共产主义理念，大家不分贫富贵贱，都是同样的，分配者平均分配，大家生活状态一直，与世无争。就好像丹麦瑞典那样的国情一样。不存在你争我抢，狼多肉少的状态，即使一家几个孩子也都能得到公平待遇。记得一个朋友跟我说，她家5个孩子，从小家里吃西瓜就要特别积极，不积极你就吃不上，所以，这种家庭环境给她带来的思想就是要“抢”，经常把这个字挂在嘴边。对于独生子的我们，往往会比较随性，因为从小就不习惯去争去抢，因为，那样得来的东西，也失去了原本的美好，夹杂了更多的功利性。

When I was young I heard an old saying from Mencius (Meng Zi): people don't fear to be poor, but unfair. I thought it was quite reasonable, it also reflect some concept about socialist theory, or even Communist theory, people get the same life level, they don't need to worry about money, because there's no difference for anyone. It is just like the situation of Denmark and Sweden. There's no need to fight for future life or money, no need to rob other's stuff. I still remember some of my friend told me, she has 5 brothers and sisters, they are all get along well, just except the moment they were eating, because the food is limited, you would get nothing if you haven't rob the food fastly. So, you know what? This kind of family taught her a very significant conception--ROB, no rob no stuff. However, as for our city family which have a baby around 1980‘s, we are the only child in our family, we don't need to rob, sometimes, we hate " ROB" as well, because the thing was robbed is not truely we want.

那么这到底是一种什么样的心里呢？为什么允许你不认识的人优秀、闪耀，甚至为选秀的超女快男去加油助威，去追这辈子都几乎没有可能说上一句话的大明星，但是，却不准或不能接受熟识的人进步？

So what's going on for this mind? Why you would like to be the big fan of super star even if you can't have a talk face to face, but you can't accept your fellow friend make progress or just cheer for their change?

分析了下，不接受熟识的人进步的人，往往是与自己原先水平差不多或者比自己稍高的（这里指的水平是指综合素质，或是你某一方面飞跃进步时的那一方面），他们在原地踏步，或是进步速度没有你快，却不愿承认你的速度比ta快，同时，对你的进步不屑一顾，不愿意为你的进步真心喝彩，甚至说是侵犯到了ta的某方面利益。最明显的就是，你发送的朋友圈，经常给你点赞的人大多是不太熟，或是刚认识不久的，而不是ta，但是，ta却经常在朋友圈给你俩共同圈子里的其他人点赞。说到这，遇到过的小伙伴举个手！

It's easy to conclude, the people who can't accept their fellow to make a progress, are always stay on the same or little higher level with you. They can't catch up with you or they are just standing no step, and maybe this progress offend their personal life So, that's why they hate your progress, they are also don't  cheer for you. Obviously, when you post something on wechat moments, you will always got likes from the strangers but not ta, however, ta always do wechat likes to somebody else. Ha, please hand's up if you have the same feeling.

其实，这种心理每个人都有，不必太计较，先从自身做起，敞开心灵，拓宽眼界，看的多了，自然心胸就宽广了，也更加能“容”，把你认识的朋友的进步都看做是人间百态，人生有起有落，去真心喝彩，去向他人学习，去补充自己，那么，看淡了，你自己的境界也就提升了。

Actually, every people all has this feeling, don't focus on it, just be yourself, open your mind, broaden your horizons, after you know more, you will be a broad-minded person, and then you can take it finally. Try to make your fellow's progress as a normal thing, because everyone has their life's peak and bottom, try to cheer on your fellow's progress, because you could learn from them. Then, you will beyond yourself to get the top.

最后，祝愿能看到这篇文章的每一个人，都渐渐放下自己，不仅允许陌生的人闪耀，也会真心的为熟识的人的进步而点赞！

In the end, I wish everyone who read this article, could ignore yourself, and thumb up for everyone's progress!

赞！