《 The Art of Loving》摘选

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《 The Art of Loving》摘选
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心理学必读书目
The Art of Loving [美] 艾·弗洛姆
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The Art of Loving 爱的艺术自留
《爱的艺术》---艾·弗洛姆书摘笔记
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The Art of Loving-父母和子女之间的爱

《爱的艺术》作者：艾里希.弗洛姆

“Love is a decision, it is a judgment, it is a promise. If love were only a feeling, there would be no basis for the promise to love each other forever. A feeling comes and it may go. How can I judge that it will stay forever, when my act does not involve judgment and decision?”

爱是一个决定，一个判断，一个承诺。如果爱只是一种感觉，那么相爱到永远的承诺就毫无依据。感觉来了，还可能会消失。如果我的行动没有涉及判断和决定，那我怎么能判断这是永恒的爱呢？

“Love isn't something natural. Rather it requires discipline, concentration, patience, faith, and the overcoming of narcissism. It isn't a feeling, it is a practice.”

爱不是自然而然的。相反，它要求自律，专注，耐心，信念，还要克服自恋。爱不是一种感觉，而是一种实践。

“Paradoxically, the ability to be alone is the condition for the ability to love.”

听起来自相矛盾，但有能力独处是有能力去爱的前提条件。

“Infantile love follows the principle: "I love because I am loved."

Mature love follows the principle: "I am loved because I love."

Immature love says: "I love you because I need you."

Mature love says: "I need you because I love you.”

幼稚的爱遵循的原则是：“我爱因为我被爱。”

成熟的爱遵循的原则是：“我被爱因为我爱。”

不成熟的爱说：“我爱你因为我需要你。”

成熟的爱说：“我需要你因为我爱你。”

“The task we must set for ourselves is not to feel secure, but to be able to tolerate insecurity.”

我们必须给自己布置的任务不是拥有安全感，而是能够忍受没有安全感。

“Love is a power which produces love.”

爱是一种产生爱的力量。

“Modern man thinks he loses something - time - when he does not do things quickly. Yet he does not know what to do with the time he gains, except kill it.”

现代人认为如果自己不快速做事，就失去了某样东西——时间。但他们却并不知道如何处理自己获得的时间，只能把它打发掉。

“Love is an activity, not a passive affect.”

爱是一种积极的行为，而不是一种被动的情感。

“Giving is the highest expression of potency.”

给予是最高级的影响力。

“Education is identical with helping the child realize his potentialities.”

教育等同于帮助孩子发挥他的潜力。