开始之前，给大家看个故事：
我妻子连续八年一直跟我提想扩大家庭成员的事——但我一直反对。我总是说：‘你到底怎么了？我们都快没有精力了。‘当时我们快四十了，俩人也都是二婚。我们的孩子们快高中毕业了。但她不能自然生育，所以一直很渴望领养孩子。她订阅了一个叫‘彩虹儿童’的网站，那上面刊登了有特殊需要的孩子。她会时不时的给我看某个孩子的资料。但我就是做不到，总感觉领养孩子工作量太大了。后来在2015年的一天，有个外部演讲者到访我们办公室。他谈到了自己患有唐氏综合症的孩子。听了之后我的心境完全改变了。我回到家跟妻子讲了这个故事。我哭了，她也哭了。我想我们俩都知道接下来会发生什么了。过了几天，她转给我了一封来自‘彩虹儿童’的邮件，邮件标题是‘Magnificent Miles’。他住在台湾的一家孤儿院，是个漂亮的小男孩，15个月大了，头发很蓬松，而且没有亲人。我们知道，这就是我们的儿子了。”
“My wife had been pushing to expand our family for eight years—but I kept resisting. I kept saying: ‘What’s wrong with you? We’re almost done.’ We were nearly forty years old. It was the second marriage for both of us. Our teenagers were about to graduate from high school. But she couldn’t have children naturally, and there was always a deep yearning to adopt. She subscribed to a website called ‘Rainbow Kids,’ which featured children with special needs. She’d show me a profile from time to time. But I just couldn’t do it. It seemed like too much work. Then one day in 2015 we had an outside speaker visit our office. He talked about his child with Down syndrome. And my heart was completely changed. I went home and told my wife the story. I was crying. She was crying. And I think both of us knew what was going to happen. A few days later she forwarded me an email from Rainbow Kids. The title was ‘Magnificent Miles.’ He was living in a Taiwanese orphanage. Just a beautiful little boy. Fifteen months old. Fluffy hair. And all alone. We knew it was our son.”
“申请的过程简直是场噩梦，就像一场复杂的离婚，他们检查你生活中的每一个小细节。那些人故意吓唬你，说孩子在感情上会有多大的伤害。机构让我们签署了一份合同，让我们知道可能使领养失败的14种方式——而且没有任何退款。他们警告说，这个过程可能需要两年时间。而且很贵——32, 000美元。但那时我们家到处都挂着Miles的照片。我们一直在聊他，他已经是我们的儿子了，却还在孤儿院待着。我们得尽快把他接回家。我以退休申请了一笔贷款，还欠了好多信用卡的债。我计划用奖励积分来买他回家的机票。Miles在孤儿院度过了他的第二个生日。我们在箱子里装了价值300美元的礼物，邮寄费用甚至还更高。我们在里面放了他的第一双休闲鞋，有助于他的姿势的紧身裤，一件写着：‘Someone in Fairfax, VA loves me’的T恤，还有为孤儿院所有孩子准备的米奇老鼠派对礼物。然后我们在当地一家面包店给他订了个蛋糕。几星期后，孤儿院给我们发了这张在派对上拍的照片。”
“The application process was a nightmare. It’s like a messy divorce where they examine every little detail of your life. People try to scare the crap out of you about how emotionally damaged the kid will be. The agency made us sign a contract acknowledging fourteen ways the adoption could fall through—and there weren’t any refunds. They warned it could take two years. And it’s so expensive-- $32,000. But at that point Miles’ picture was hanging all over our house. We talked about him all the time. He was already our son, but he was sitting in an orphanage. We needed to get him home as quickly as possible. I took out a loan against my retirement. I racked up so much credit card debt. I planned on using the reward points to buy his plane ticket home. Miles spent his second birthday at the orphanage. We filled a box with $300 worth of presents. It cost even more to ship. Inside we put his very first pair of walking shoes. Hip-hugger pants to help with his posture. A t-shirt that said: ‘Someone in Fairfax, VA loves me.’ And Mickey Mouse party favors for all the kids at the orphanage. Then we ordered him a cake from a local bakery. A few weeks later, the orphanage sent us a picture from the party.”
“我们特别幸运，14个月内就完成了整个流程，然后在2017年1月21号去了台湾。第二天早上，我们直接去了孤儿院。我们坐在一楼的等候室，十分钟后，他们把Miles带到了拐角处。我妻子跪下来抱着他，就像永远都不会让他离开了一样。当然，那一刻我也崩溃了。我在想：‘天哪，这是我的孩子。’但我过去把他抱起来时，他却哭了起来。我不停地说：‘不要哭，不要哭，不要哭，我是爸爸，我是爸爸。’但他不想让我碰他。我一下从世界之巅跌到了最黑暗的谷底。我试着跟他玩，试着给他买快乐儿童餐，但他什么都不想要。我做什么都不对。我深深的感到自己被拒绝了。这种情况持续了两天。第三天，我们坐在酒店房间里，妻子洗澡去了，留下我们两个单独相处。突然之间，这个小男孩开始看着我，脸上带着大大的笑容。”
“We were extremely lucky. We completed the entire process in fourteen months and travelled to Taiwan on January 21st of 2017. The next morning we went straight to the orphanage. We sat in a waiting room on the ground floor, and after ten minutes they brought Miles around the corner. My wife dropped to her knees and hugged him like she’d never let him go. And of course that broke me down. I’m thinking ‘Oh my God, this is my boy.’ But when I went to pick him up, he started crying. I’m telling him: ‘No, no, no! I’m Baba, I’m Baba.’ But he didn’t want me touching him. I went from the top of the world to the darkest valley. I tried playing with him. I tried getting him a Happy Meal. But he didn’t want any of it. Nothing was going right. I felt so rejected. This went on for two days. Then on the third day we were sitting in our hotel room, and my wife left us alone while she took a shower. And all of the sudden this little boy started looking at me. And he had the biggest smile on his face.”
这篇文章的类型让我想起几年前tumblr上的专题：MAN IN NEW YORK,每天都会随机采访一些路人，记录他们的故事，特别喜欢看这种题材。看到我们的微博上有人在上海和人在纽约，就一直在关注着。
其实所有人都是有故事的，或许性格，或许忙碌，让我们不再倾诉，路人的故事有的悲伤，有的鼓舞人心，有的温馨，跟陌生人诉说自己的故事十分新颖，但是我们却更倾向于跟不认识的人诉说真实的故事，这也让其他人感受到生活是实实在在地进行中，通过别人的描述，观众也随之增长阅历，丰富经验，这是中双赢的模式。
那么，各位心底有什么故事呢？为了实现心中的梦想，我也在简书设置了这样一个专题，叫人在中国MAN IN CHINA, 各位投稿，或者您可以将您的故事告诉我，经整理后，会收录在专题中，题材不限，字数不限，我想通过这种方式，让大家更好的交流，交到更多朋友！
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