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RELATIONSHIPS AS STRESS RENEWAL让人际关系促使精力再生

Consciously and systematically devoting more time and energy to his family and to his colleagues left Jed feeling more connected at home and more invested in his work.

通过有意识地（主动）而系统地对家人和同事投入时间和精力，杰德与家人越来越亲密，工作也越来越投入。

EXPANDING EMOTIONAL CAPACITY积极扩充情感容量

The best way to build an emotional muscle, much like a physical muscle, is to push past your current comfort zone and then recover.

锻炼情感肌肉如同锻炼身体肌肉一样，也需要迈出当前的舒适区，并随后进行休整，恢复精力。

Perhaps no obstacle to full engagement and high performance is so pervasive and so vexing as insecurity and low self-esteem. Complex and subtle factors accountfor such feelings, but positive energy rituals can nonetheless be effective in building greater self-confidence.

全情投入和高效表现的障碍中，没有什么比不安全感和自卑心理更防不胜防、令人烦恼了。这些情绪产生的原因复杂又微妙，但积极的精力仪式习惯依然可以帮助人们树立自信。

Judith found that she became less concerned with how people viewed her, and began deriving a sense of accomplishment and strength instead from having acted consistently with the values she held most dear.

朱迪思渐渐发现，因为她已经不再那么看重别人对她的看法，她从自己的原则里获得了勇气和精神支柱。

我的思考My Thinking

很多人都在追求安全感，以前的铁饭碗，到现在必须房子、稳定的工作、稳定的状态，都是为了满足人的安全感。安全感的背后实际上是控制感，对事物的控制让自己感到安全。其实安全感也会让人待在舒适区里不愿意出来，所以要提防过度追求安全感而限制自己的发展。

Many people are pursuing sense of security to be satisfied, like a secure job, house, stable job, state, income etc, . What lies behind security is sense of control, which makes oneself feel safe and secure. Sense of security keeps people in their comfort zone and prevents one's development.

Judith在自己的原则中获得了勇气和精神支柱，这很具有启发意义。有了自己的原则就相当于精力管理最高层次的意义感和价值观都很清楚了，这是指导人们有效处理情绪的原则。有一不错的书也叫《原则》，可以买来看看。另外，有了自己的原则，就不会过度看重别人的想法。容易受他人影响的人，人家让他高兴他就高兴，不让他高兴他就不高兴，这不就是生活在他人的情绪监狱了吗？所以一定要有情绪的自我觉察。

Judith derived a sense of accomplishment and strength by acting consistently with her values. This is really enlightening. Having one's own principles means clear values and purpose at the top of Energy Management and those principles guide people to manage emotions effectively. One excellent book is Principles, we can read. Additionally, when we will not be so concerned with others' view if we are equipped with principles. If one is susceptible to external views, he/she will be emotionally prisoned by others, so we must be aware of our emotions.