12/12 《Option B》笔记

本章是全书结尾，内容也没什么新鲜，都是老生常谈。

遭遇创伤后，再一次的重新出发并不是一件容易的事，而且传统价值观上对＂重新出发＂存在性别歧视，而且对于女性在短时间内找新的异性，反而会增加自己的心理负担比及负罪感。要怎么调整呢？作者提出以下建议："It's kinder to see dating not as betrayal but as an attempt for them to break through the sorrow and find some joy.

另外，幽默感也可以让人更有复原力，我们不妨试试试着用幽默的态度或者自我解嘲的方式过一生。

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特别喜欢书中作者结婚时的誓词：

"I take you to be mine in love. I promise to love you deliberately each day, to feel your joy and your sorrows as my own. Together, we will build a home filled with honor and honesty, comfort and compassion, learning and love.

I take you to be  mine in friendship. I vow to celebrate all that you are, to help you become the person you aspire to be. From this day forward, your dreams are my deeams and I dedicate myself to helping you fulfill the promise of your life.

I take you to be my in faith. I believe that our commitment to each other will  last a lifetime, that with you, my soul is complete.

Knowing who I am and who I want to be, on this day of our marriage, I give you my heart to be forever united with yours."