子曰:"君子不重，则不威；学则不固。主忠信。无友不如己者。过，则勿惮改。"
The Master said, If a gentlman is frivolous, he will lose the respect of his inferiors and lack firm ground upon which to build up his education. First and foremost he must learn to be faithful to his superiors, to keep promises, to refuse the friendship of all who are not like him. And if he finds he has made a mistake, then he must not be afriad of admitting the fact and amending his ways.
Confucius remarked, "A wise man who is not serious will not inspire respect; what he larns will not remain permanent. Make conscientiousness and sincrity our first principles. Have no friends who are not as yourself. When you have bad habits do not hesitate to change them."
The Master said," A noble person who lacks dignity will not be majstic; what is larnt will lack certainty. Loyalty and trustworthiness should be basic; those with values dissimilar to oneself should not be considred friends; and there should be no appreciation about correcting faults."
孔子对君子内在的自尊和外在的自律，一直有很高的要求。同时，孔子也从实际出发，对君子的修养做了很多的归纳和总结，成为儒家一直以来所提倡和践行的模板。
在孔子看来，一个人要想成为君子，就必须要有自尊、自重、自律的意识，并且要充分地体现在自己言行举止之中。如此，才能像大海一样，彰显深厚的底蕴，体现广博的学识，展示豁达的胸襟。这样的底蕴、学识和胸襟，就像高山峻峰一样，能自然而然地表现出巍峨的气概，令人肃然起敬。
如果一个人自以为是君子，但却缺乏任何自重、自尊、自律的意识，其行为禁止自然就会令人反感，令人生厌。如此之人即便刻意地保持矜持，也只能会使人侧目，使人唾弃。如此之人无论多么努力，其结果当然是无"威"可显，更不会赢得大家的尊重和敬仰。就是读书治学，这样的人呢，也只能像老百姓说的那样，三天打鱼两天晒网，不会有恒久的发展和卓绝的成就。这就是孔子对于君子的基本要求。
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