好基友跟我说，这种侧重同志群体的文章，不秀秀美好的肉体是难以引起关注的。
好吧，我只想秀得精致一点，脱离烂俗，并且也在直男直女的接受范围内
Men At Play 是一家欧洲的男士爱情片厂牌，之前总部在伦敦，现在是西班牙。
这个厂牌在全球的同志圈有非常高的知名度，甚至在女性中也有忠实观众。
影片宣传图的风格
Men At Play知名的原因是他很好地聚焦在一个特定需求的市场。
影片的主角都是身着精致高贵西装的非常Hot 而且非常MAN的男模。
这些男模外形高挑，阳光，成熟，硬朗，潇洒，就和电视剧里在办公室走来走去的时尚商务人士一样。
影片场景不仅仅发生在办公室，还有卧室，浴室，厨房，游泳池，club，警察局甚至绑架和审讯现场等等。
这些具有潇洒气质并且身姿强健的男子在特定场景中的摩擦，恰到好处的满足了同志和部分女性心中，对高颜值商务型男，华贵纯净的衬衣下 若隐若现胴体的奇妙遐想
如果你喜欢阳光成熟并且潇洒优雅，打着领带穿着精致华贵的西装，具有商务奢华气质的男子，那么这个厂牌不会让你失望。
这些男模通常在20-30多岁，在某些方面具有一定的相似性。
在这个厂牌的官网上，你可以查看这些列表，给他们打分，成为他们的粉丝，也可以了解他们的生活背景。
目前这个厂牌有149个演出过的男模。
他们并非都是同志，也有部分是直男或者双性恋
有一些慢慢淡出，有一些新的血液加入
眼力好的朋友应该发现了上面的部分图片有很多信息，图片下方有片名之类的，感兴趣可以自行百度
在Cybersocket获得2017年最佳欧洲Best European Site，Best Niche Site和Best Sex Scene3项奖
(Cybersocket是美国知名的成人杂志，评选最佳爱情片厂牌和演员）
今年正好是这个厂牌的15周年生日
在15年前的2002年的伦敦，一对已婚的同志为在就职平面公司之外赚点零花钱，用一个口袋数码摄像机为西装爱好者拍摄视频，这便是Men At Play这个厂牌的前身。
在他们开始做这个厂牌时，没有任何其他网站平台像他们那样狂热于穿西服的男人，除了一些Yahoo群组。
最后因为流量与会员的不断的迅猛增长，为了网站的日常运转，他们不得不放弃平面公司的职务而专职制作影片。
一个会执导、拍摄，制作出顶级的电影，另一个有精明的商业头脑与敏锐的认识，让这个工作室在这一个特殊的娱乐行业中脱颖而出。
各路演员送上祝福，也包括目前正当红的Theo Ford
他拍了快100部男士爱情电影，而且是被搜索最多的前30位成人电影演员之一
目前在Men At Play也是常出现的主角之一
下面选用淡蓝网上部分Pettie专访Theo Ford的部分内容，以便大家知道，了解和八卦男士爱情电影明星的工作和生活
(P=Pettie，T=Theo)
关于工作：演员……专业……敬业……安全……
P: Do you feel a little self-conscious when you or you and your husband walking on the street? Do you mind fans recognize you, take pictures, and give them your autograph?
平时当你或者和丈夫一起走在大街上，会有点害羞吗？如果有粉丝看到，要合照要签名会介意吗？
T: It's funny actually as people are too shy to come up to me on the street. They would turn around and whisper "omg, that's him". My husband notices it more than me. Most of the times, it happens in the gym or hotel just when I least expect it. For example, when I go to shoot in Madrid, one of the waiters there is a big fan, and the first time he saw me he was "oh my god, are you Theo Ford". It was eight in morning. I was not showered, or picture-ready at all.
有趣的是，大多数情况下，大家都太害羞，看到我都不敢和我搭话。他们会转过身说“天啊，是他”。我老公会比我更容易注意到。惊讶的是，这样的事，在酒店和健身房会比较常发生。有一次我去马德里拍摄，酒店的一位服务生第一眼就认出我，但那时候是早上8点，我没洗澡也没收拾，更是没准备好拍照。
Sometimes, I do have people telling me afterwards that they saw me on the street, and ask if next time they can come up to me. I was at Heaven last night, and in the queue to get in there was a boy from China, he turned around, and looked at me, and asked if I was Theo Ford. I said Yes, and he said he was a big fan. I was with my husband and he wanted to take a picture, it was sweet. I just do porn. It's not like I'm a Hollywood actor. I do have fans, but I am not bothered by people on the street recognizing me. It's always pleasant.
有时候，大家会在事后对我说，下次再碰到可不可以拍照什么的。我昨晚在Heaven排队时，有个中国男孩认出我。当时我和老公在一起。他想合影，我当然愉快地答应了。我觉得自己只是拍摄成人电影，是有些粉丝，但也没有到好莱坞明星那种程度。通常被认出，要合影等等，都是很开心、很善意的，不会介意。
Usually, people are really shy, because when you do porn, you are being perceived as this sexual beacon of empowerment, which might intimidate some. So they will love you on Twitter, but when seeing you on street, they will be like "omg omg omg".
其实很多时候大家蛮害羞的，特别是当你做成人电影的时候，你很容易让人有害羞的感觉。所以大家会社交媒体上不害羞地粉你，但在大街上看到你，就不会这样，只会在心里嘀咕“ OMG OMG OMG”。
I think it's great that the internet helps people to open themselves and live the life they would like to. You have to be careful to get stuck behind your computer or your phone. But this does help to build a certain image and to market yourself, especially when your image is a product to sell.
社交媒体确实可以帮助大家在网上展示自己，过着自己理想的生活。但你要注意，不能让网上的生活，取代真正的生活。
And my life on Twitter is pretty open. Most are personal things. I never post sexually explicit content. It's just me, my family will also find it cute to look at it as I talk about my husband, my life, and what I do.
我在推特上的内容是非常公开的，大多是我的私人生活，不会有太多关于性爱等等的内容。所以即使我的家人，也可以看，也会觉得，这就是我，和我的生活。
Of course, there are links to my movies to promote, that's the sexual part. But this is the only sexual part of my Twitter, it's my work. My sexual life, as a person, is private. That's actually the only thing that can still be private in my life. So I would like to keep it that way. Also because I am married, I want to protect it. I also want people do realize that my life as a married man, is totally different and separate from my life as an actor.
当然，我有时候会分享我的电影链接，那应该是我的推特上仅有的与性相关的内容。我个人的性生活，完全是我的隐私，这也是我生活中仅存的可以是我个人隐私的部分，所以我希望保护它。作为已婚的男人，我也特别希望大家明白，我的生活和我的工作，是完全分开的。
P: So yourself as an actor, and we have got a few other interesting terms here, such as porn star and performer, what do you think of these three, and which one of them do you identify more with?
你谈到自己是演员，那相对于GV男星、表演者，你觉得区别在哪里？
T: I don't perform on stage or night clubs, so I am not a performer. In the scenes, you know it is a movie, there are people filming, we are acting. Some of the things I do are not me, even if we have a dialogue or a plot. For example, for Men.com, I got to play quite a few different characters in my scenes, which is actually exciting.
我不在舞台、酒吧和夜店表演，所以我不是表演者。在拍摄的时候，我知道会有摄像机，会有对话，会有剧情。我在电影里塑造的，不是真正的我。帮Men.com拍摄的时候，我有机会演不同的角色，还是蛮令人激动的。
A lot of people say that I am not an actor, that I am just selling my dick online. Yes of course, I am not quoting Shakespeare in my work, but it is still acting, since I do not do things I would in my own life.
很多人说我不是演员，认为我只是在卖肉。确实，我不需要在自己的工作里上演莎士比亚戏剧桥段，但我还是在表演，会做一些我自己的生活中不会做的事情。
There are porn actors, and porn stars. Nowadays, you see some people who have made one scene call themselves porn stars. I have made nearly 100 movies, and I am one of the top 30 (27th) most searched actors. Maybe at one point, when you have enough experience, you can legitimately call yourself a porn star. Porn star is still a little bit overrated term for myself.
成人电影明星和演员还是有区别的。现在很多人只拍过一部，就自称明星了。我拍了快100部，而且是被搜索最多的前30位成人电影演员之一，但我觉得明星对我来说是过誉的称谓。也许等我有了足够的经历和作品，有一天就可以这么称呼了吧。
P: So for people like Paddy Brian, do you think they can be called as porn stars?
那么诸如Paddy Brian等人，你觉得他们是男星吗？
Paddy Brian
T: Yes of course. You see the way they work is purely professional. Paddy is one of these professionals, and he is a great guy. There are a lot of them, and you can definitely tell the ones who are stars and professionals, and the ones who do it because they just don't know what else to do. there's a very big difference.
当然是，而且更多的是因为他们的敬业和专业。Paddy是很棒的男人，在这一行，有很多像他一样专业的，而且他们比那些因为不知道自己能做什么而拍成人电影的出色得多了。
Paddy made a huge name for himself, and his name will appear in 90% of the times when talking about porn, especially in the UK. And in the Top 30, I am ranked a little bit below him. I always feel so honored. It's nice and surprising to find out the way you see yourself is never as good as the way others see you.
Paddy非常出名，特别是在英国，只要谈到成人Gay片，90%都会提到他。我在前30人的排名里，仅落后他几名，对此我一直感到非常荣幸。其实自己看自己，和别人看自己很不一样。别人看你，通常可以发现你自己看不到的闪光点和长处。
When you are in porn, you are exposed both physically and emotionally. Compared to 20 years ago, it's much easier to talk to porn actors these days by social media. Now the game has changed completely, there is a lot more guys. Social media does allow to find more talent, and great talents, but also allows people who are not or should not be in porn.
在我这行，我们都是身体和情感暴露在外的。相对于20年前，现在可以通过社交媒体，非常容易地和成人电影演员联系。社交媒体也让很多演员更容易被发现、被发掘，所以现在有越来越多人在演，但同时，也让那些不应该从事成人电影的人有了加入的机会。
P: Have you ever come across a situation where you have to work with someone who you are not attracted to? How do you still maintain the chemistry on the camera?
你有没有为了工作和自己不喜欢的同行合作？当时怎样在镜头前保持热度和激情?
T: Well again, because it is acting. I make sure that I can see myself doing that scene with the person. I have said No in the past. But once you work with a big studio, they usually cast great guys, so it is extremely rare to come across these kind of situations.
所以我一开始就说，这是表演。而且一旦你和比较大的公司合作，他们通常会选很好的男生和你一起拍。你说的这种情况，是很少的。
Maybe once in a while, they will let you to work with a guy that you don't really like, but usually they are pretty great. It happens more with small studios. Once I was told one hour before filming, that the guy I was supposed to shoot with could not make it and it would be with another guy. I saw the picture, and I was not happy. I did not say anything but to be honest, if they had showed me before, I would have said No. Afterwards, I was angry at them because they had put me in a situation where I had to do something that I was not OK with.
这种情况可能会在一些小公司发生。比如有一次，我在拍摄前一小时被告知，本来要和我拍的人来不了，要换人。他们给我看了替换者的照片，我没说什么，但心里是不愿意的。我没在片场说什么，事后非常生气，因为他们让我做了我通常不会做的事情。坦白说，如果一早就看到照片，我是不会答应的。
P: Was that one of the comments you made online which was related to one of the very unprofessional experiences?
这就是你之前在网上提到的不愉快、很不专业的拍摄经历？
T: Yes. However, these days, when you work with big studios, such as Men.com. It is just amazing and they will do everything for you. They make sure you are fed, stay in a good hotel, and have your flights and cab. Some other studios don't even give you a drink on set.
是的。但现在和大公司合作是非常愉快的事情。他们会确保你吃得好、住得好，帮你订好机票和车。有些公司甚至在拍摄的时候连喝的都不提供。
P: Do you guys also need to be tested really often to keep working in this industry, given the fact that you have to have sex with quite a few guys?
经常和不同的人拍摄，你们需要经常做检测吗？
T: I have shot some bareback scenes, but there are just a handful of them. Even if you only shoot safe sex, there is always a risk. So to make sure that I am not in a position where I can get something or transmit anything, I get tested every month.
我过去拍过无套的，就几部。但就算你采取了保护措施，还是会有风险。所以为了安全，我每个月都会检测一次。
It's for my own health, and peace of mind. It's also important to respect your co-workers, and my husband of course. If I catch something on set, I can get treated, it's fine. But it is more a matter of knowing yourself and making sure that you are being safe. Also it is about respect, for the person you are going to have close physical intimacy with.
我这样做，是对自己，也是对别人尊重，更不用说你将和他人发生亲密的负距离接触。当然，也是为了我的老公。如果我被传染到什么，可以去治疗。
P: So how long does it normally take for you to get ready for a scene. I heard sometimes, a scene that lasts 20 minutes, needs to take hours to film?
那么通常拍摄一部大约20分钟的电影，你要准备多久，拍摄多久呢？
T: Usually a scene would be around 20 to 30 minutes, and normally would take between one hour to 15 hours to shoot. A couple of times, I have scenes shoot for 11 or 12 hours in one day. It was horrible.
通常来说，片长在20到30分钟左右，会花费1小时到15个小时的拍摄时间。有几次我一天拍了十几个小时，槽糕透了。
P: Wow, in one day, how to you keep that up all the time?
天啊？一天内，你是怎样保持那种热度和硬度的？
T: It was very difficult. At the end, I was like I am done. I just wanted to go back to my hotel. It wasn't fun at all. Thankfully the director got fired this year, so I am glad.
非常艰难，毫无乐趣，拍完了我只想回酒店。幸好那个导演今年被炒了，我很开心。
P: Do you feel a little bit strange to have sex in front of cameras, as you need to be aware of the angles and everything. Can you still enjoy bits, or do you have to treat it just as work, and make sure all good shots are captured?
在镜头前做爱，会不会觉得有点怪异。因为你要时刻留意不同的角度等等，在整个过程中，你还能享受到片刻吗？
T: It is a bit of both. You have to make sure you are or you show that you are enjoying yourself. At the same time, you need to make sure you open your body up to the camera. It's practice. The more you shoot, the more you know about the positioning and look natural as well. So it is very important to know how to work with cameras.
都有点吧。你肯定要确保自己在镜头前看起来很享受，同时要确保伸展身体。拍得越多，自然越熟练，对角度、姿势等情况的掌握也会更到位。
P: Do you have to stop in the middle sometimes, just for the photographer to get a good picture?
有时候你需要中间暂停，让摄影师拍一些好照片吗？
T: Usually the pictures are done first. So you do all the positons with the picture, and you know what positons you can do and you do them. It's actually good as you will know in the actual filming, what positons come after so the transitions can be more natural. And it is actually quite funny to see afterwards how you do different transitions from this to that. Some studios do the pictures during the filming, but it is not the best way.
通常照片是先拍的。而且这样，你会知道要用到哪些姿势，不同姿势的转换会显得很自然。拍完后看自己怎么换不同的体位，其实还蛮有意思的。有一些公司会在中途拍照片，我觉得这不是最好的做法。
P: And it is quite cool that you can practice all different positions with your husband :P
而且，你还可以和老公尝试这些不同的姿势，哈哈！
T: It's funny because I never try these positions with my husband as it is always very natural. That's why I always say I don't have sex with my husband, I make love to him. It's not the same dynamic. It's the emotions. Sometimes, it can last an hour, sometimes it lasts 10 minutes. And that's the great thing as it is the passion and the intimacy.
有趣的是，我从来不会和老公尝试这些姿势。我和他一直是非常自然的。我和老公的不是性爱，是做爱，是完全不一样的。有时候也许10分钟，有时候1小时，这些都不重要。更多、更重要的，是我们彼此的情感、亲密和激情。
P: Do you feel a little bit awkward or strange if your husband sees your work?
如果你老公看到你拍的电影，你会觉得奇怪或者尴尬吗？
T: Well, obviously, he has seen me and I have nothing to be ashamed of. I know that he has seen all the trailers for my movies. I wouldn't watch them with him. It is work, I always keep it that way as much as possible. Sometimes, he is like, oh you look like you are really enjoying yourself. I am like it is just work. Maybe it looks great and we had fun and laughed a lot. But it is still just work, that's it.
没有什么好害羞或者尴尬的。我知道他看过我所有电影的预告片。我当然不会和他一起看，因为这对我来说只是工作而已。有时他可能会说，看起来你在那里面真的很享受。我会说，可能看起来是这样，但无论如何，只是工作而已。
And in the evening, I go home to my husband.
而且晚上，我回到家里，回到我老公身边。
P: It is actually such an amazing thing that you have someone to go back to every evening.
有个能让你每天回家的人，也是非常浪漫和幸福的事情。
T: It is and it does bring some balance. I guess I was missing that before meeting him. I did not have any balance; it was all work.
是的。而且这会给你的工作和生活带来平衡感。我觉得在遇到他之前，我就是却少了这种平衡，那时候的我不断地工作。
P: A lot of my friends are using all kinds of dating apps. They meet people like having fast food, and they complain that it is so hard to find a decent boyfriend. Do you think people should really get to know each other before jumping into beds?
我的许多朋友都在用不同的约会软件，他们像吃快餐那样见不同的人，但也不停地抱怨找一个好的男朋友为何那么难。你觉得滚床单这件事儿，真的是要三思而后行吗？
T: Dating apps is good and bad. It has helped a lot of people to come out and meet other guys without actually having to go to a gay bar. It is easier, a lot of people do use it as a tool to do what you have said.
约会软件当然是两面的。它们帮助很多人出柜，不需要去同志场所就能认识新的朋友，让约炮约会变得更加容易。
It's important to know what exactly you want. It's very easy to complain. If you just want to hook-ups, great. If you want to find a boyfriend, maybe try to look deeper. Everyone, even if a person says he only wants sex, still wants a boyfriend and be in love.
重要的是知道自己要什么。如果你只要约炮，可以啊。如果你想要男朋友，那你就需要深入点。每个人，即使是那些声称只要性爱的人，都会想要男朋友，想要恋爱。
If you are open to meeting someone and actually open for relationships to other people. You will always have the possibility of finding a boyfriend. Sometimes it takes a bit more work, because you are shy or socially awkward, or their appearances don't fit into the stereotypes of a perfect gay guy. But whatever you look like, there is always someone who will find you attractive. And there is always people who will find you ugly and unattractive, even with me.
如果你愿意认识不同的人，并且想和别人成为男朋友，肯定会有希望的。有时候可能会比较难，或者要做比较多的努力。无论你外表如何，总会有人觉得你吸引人。就算是我，也会有人觉得我不太好看。
A lot of the guys don't know what they want. They say they want boyfriends, but at the same time, they want to have sex with lots of other guys. So I think it is a matter of really looking inside you and your own feelings, and then you can actually manage to do what you are meant to do.
很多男生其实都不知道自己真正要什么。嘴上说要男朋友，心里却想和很多人约炮。所以我觉得，你真的需要扪心自问，了解自己想要什么才可以。
You know there are also some guys, they look so cute, and you will be like, omg, I wanna talk to him. And it's funny as it was how I met my first boyfriend.
有时候你会看到一些男生，你会觉得，天啊，怎么这么好看，我想和他说话。我就是这样遇到第一个男朋友的，这样很有趣。
I just turned 18 in Dublin, and I was seeing a couple of friends. I walked up to him and said hi, and that was it. I literally interrupted him as he was with a friend. I was 18 and he was 34, so he was a not a boy anymore.
那时候我在都柏林，刚刚18岁，和几个朋友在酒吧。我看到他，走上前问好，亲了他，然后一切就发生了，当时他还和几个朋友在一起。那是他34岁的时候，所以现在他不再是男孩了。
P: Have you watched the TV series Queer as Folk? It was kind of like how Justin and Bryan were first met.
你看过美剧《同志亦凡人》吗？这和Justin、Bryan第一次见面的场景很像。
《同志亦凡人》剧照
T: Bryan was a jerk in the series, while the guy I met was the kindest person I could ever meet and he is still a friend. It's always the same because you have to take a chance in life. Even for porn, it was a huge chance and risk I decided to do it. And I feel like it is a good thing, which I also ended up meeting my husband.
Bryan在电视剧里是个混蛋，但我的第一个男友是我见过最友好的人，现在我和他还是好朋友。有时候你就是需要冒险，需要逼自己一下。即使从事成人电影，对我而言也是很大的决定，更是一场冒险。我觉得很好，我也因为工作认识了现在的老公。
P: Wow, how come you meet your husband through porn?
啊，你是怎么通过工作认识老公的？
T: Because of porn, I was filming in Los Angeles. I met him as we have friends in common. He is an underwear model as well as a celebrity hairstylist. He doesn't do porn though lots of studios have invited him for that.
我当时在洛杉矶拍摄，我们是通过共同好友认识的。他是内衣模特和明星发型师，没有从事过成人电影，虽然有很多公司都邀请过他。
P: Ah, so you guys are in totally different industries.
所以你和老公完全在两个不同的行业里。
T: I wanna make sure that he has his own life and career as well. I don't want to feel like we have to compare ourselves. I think we have to compliment and add to each other, rather than share everything. We need to bring different things into the relationship. Your work, and your career is a big thing. I love the fact that he does things I cannot do. It's pretty amazing you can have that.
我希望我们有不同的工作，他也有自己的生活。我不想有那种必须互相比较的感觉。我希望我们的关系是互补而不是分享一切。我们都需要为我们的关系带来不同的东西，而工作是非常重要的。我非常开心我的老公做着我做不了的事情。
P: How long were you single before meeting your husband?
遇到你老公之前，你单身多久了？
T: I was never much single. I always go from one relationship to another. I hate being single. Every time I break up with someone, I always feel like I want to be single. And next week, I will find a guy who I really really like and look great, and here we go again.
我从来没怎么单身过。我基本上都是从一段关系马上进入下一段关系。我不喜欢单身，每次分手我都感觉想要单身，但过了一周就会发现我喜欢的男生，然后又开始了。
When I met Shawn, I was not expecting to meet anyone. I was not looking for boyfriend. But when I met him, I kept him.
我遇见Shawn的时候，其实并不在找男朋友。但当我遇见他，我就抓住他了。
P: Looks like you guys have the perfect gay couple life: attractive, good career, and a cute dog. Maybe some day to have a baby as well. And I would love to adopt a cute mixed baby, such as Asian and European.
看起来你们现在过着完美的同志生活：有自己喜欢的工作，还有可爱的狗狗。也许有一天你们会有自己的孩子。如果是我，会想要一个可爱的欧亚混血宝宝。
T: And I will have an Asian baby.
哈哈，那我就要一个亚洲宝宝。
Theo Ford(右)和老公Shawn de Rodez
P: Do you feel like here in Europe, Asians are not as popular as they are in some other places. The popular ones here, are either the super girly ones, or the ones who are like very stocky and muscular. The ones in between, sometimes, do not seem to be that popular.
你有没有觉得，在欧洲，很多人喜欢非常类似女生的，或者非常健壮的亚洲男生，处在中间的似乎不那么受欢迎。
T: In Europe in general, Asian guys are not that popular. But London is different as it is a very international and diverse city. You have lots of inter-racial couples. That's what I like about it. My husband and I, we are biracial as well. It's amazing to share different cultures and I would love to have babies with him. There is actually a technology now that you can put three people's DNAs.
总体上，亚洲男生在欧洲确实没有其他地方那么受欢迎。但是伦敦是非常多元化的城市，有很多跨种族的恋人。我老公和我就是不同种族的，能分享不同的文化和背景是非常棒的事情。我希望可以和他有自己的孩子，其实现在已经有合成三个人DNA的技术了。
I would love to have Shawn get pregnant, lol. As a gay guy, you have to work for it (having babies) and decide. It seems more like a mission rather than something that just happens naturally. We will definitely have kids, and hopefully in 3 or 4 years. Depending on where we live and what we do, preferably before I am 35. I want to be a young dad.
我超想Shawn怀孕，哈哈。作为同志，要孩子更多是一种目标和选择，不是自然而然就可以发生的。我们肯定会要孩子，希望在最近三四年内。具体取决于我们在哪里以及在干什么，但是我希望35岁前可以有。我希望做个年轻的爸爸。
P: A lot of the Chinese guys have to live in the closet because of the social culture and family pressure. It is hard to come out, and in order to do that, I think we have to be financially well-off, and totally being able to afford a stable life, and surrogate babies if we want to.
是啊，好多中国的同志因为社会和家庭的压力不能做自己，出柜非常难。我觉得你必须经济独立，有能力让自己过上舒适的生活，然后才可以代孕。
T: I have lots of Chines friends who are more or less out. It's a shame because sexuality is something so natural, and there is nothing more to change it. Homosexuality has been around for millenniums, as well as with the Greeks, the Romans, and the Egyptians. So it is not something happened with the internet or new technologies. It is something that exists in the animal kingdom as well. We have thousands of different species that have homosexual relationships. It is natural and in nature, though it is obviously cultural and religious too.
我有很多半出柜的中国朋友，因为这个而不能做自己真的非常遗憾。同性恋是千百年来就存在的，是自然的，没有什么可以改变。动物的世界里也有，所以不是因为互联网或新科技才有的。当然，也和文化宗教有关联。
When you do porn, and you are so out sexually. It is kind of amazing to show that you can be empowered by your sexuality, regardless you are gay or straight. But you can actually own your sexuality and be proud of it, being able to decide what you want to do.
当你从事成人电影，你就用很直接的方式公开性取向，还可以告诉大家，无论是异性恋还是同性恋，都可以为自己的性取向感到自豪，并且可以决定自己想做什么。
It is amazing when some of my fans from China, even on Twitter. They tweeted and telling me they are a big fan. And telling me they feel happy to see that I can be happy and being gay; even being in porn and happily married to another man.
我的一些中国粉丝在推特上对我说，他们看到我作为Gay可以这么开心，拍摄成人电影的同时还能和老公幸福结合，这让他们也感到高兴，我觉得这是很有意义的。
I am happy by myself. It kind of makes me happy that I can show others that I can live a healthy life even I am gay. We have to educate people to tell them that it is actually great to be gay. It is actually even maybe more fun and exciting. Society cannot tell you that you have to be married if you are 30.
我自己很快乐，让别人看到我作为Gay如此健康快乐，我也会高兴。我们需要通过教育，让大家知道同性恋也可以很快乐，甚至更好玩。社会不能告诉我们30岁前必须结婚。
When you are gay. You don't have that. Imagine that you are a lesbian woman. You don't have a society that tells you that you have to have a kid by 30. I love the fact that you are outside the society and the rules. You can even create your own rules. I am the first generation of homosexuals that can get married. And it is amazing to be a pioneer.
当你作为Gay，你就不要被这些约定俗成的东西束缚，甚至可以决定和创造自己的规则。我是第一代可以结婚的同性恋，很开心能走在前面。
P: Did you guys get married here or in America?
你们是在美国结婚的吗？
T: We got married in Beverly Hills, LA, where my husband is from. I got his name tattooed on my fingers two weeks ago for our 8-month wedding anniversary. He got mine on his too.
我们在洛杉矶的贝弗利山结婚，我老公也来自那里。为了庆祝我们结婚8个月，两周前我把他的名字纹在手指上，他也把我的名字纹在他的手指上。
When we got married and repeated the vows, it is pretty crazy. Sometimes when I see movies or TV shows that have the same scene. I feel a bit emotional.
当我们结婚和说出誓言的时候，我感到些许疯狂。有时候在电影或者电视里看到类似场景，我都会被感动。
Not every day is easy as we also have fights. We are different people. Sometimes it is difficult to adapt and we got married only after 3 weeks of knowing each other. We met on the 17th of March on St. Patrick's day. It is really cool because I am Irish and this is a national holiday. On the 8th of April, we got married. That was pretty quick and a lot of people thought it was a fake wedding. It's funny because people still talk like that. If you see us, all the time, we hold hands every where we go.
当然，不是每天都那么顺利的，我们也会有争执。我们是不同的人，结婚前只相处了三个星期。我们在3月17日相识，4月8号结婚。真的很快，以至于很多人到现在都以为我们是假结婚。如果你看我们，无论何时何地我们都会牵着手。
P: That's so sweet and romantic, even just to have someone to hold hands together wherever you go.
拥有一个任何时候、任何场合都牵手的人，非常浪漫和幸福。
Sometimes, you were not expected to be romantic and it just happened. And I think we all have that kind of romanticism in us. So you really have to open and dig out.
有时候，我们会不经意地浪漫起来。我觉得每个人都有浪漫细胞，你需要不断挖掘和发现自己。
P: Indeed, and I have done some very romantic things for my exes in the past. When you look back, you will actually be amazed at how and when you come up with these kind of ideas.
是啊，我也为前任们做过很多浪漫的事情。现在回想起来，你会惊讶当初哪来那么多勇气和精力。
T: Sometimes it is like taking a risk to do something like that. When I met my husband, it was my last night in LA. I needed to fly to New York the next morning. And I asked him if he wanted to come with me. He was like I don't know and as it was literally the next day, the plan tickets were so expensive. He couldn't afford it. I told him not to worry, and just take a day off to make sure he is free.
有时我们还需要点冒险精神。我遇到Shawn的时候，是我在洛杉矶的最后一天，第二天要飞纽约。我问他要不要和我一起去，他说不知道，而且机票非常贵。我告诉他别担心，请一天假，保证自己有空就可以。
I got his tickets. The next day he came with me to New York for 3 days. Later he had to go back to LA to work. So our first date started in LA, and went on to New York, and lasted for 4 days in two different cities. It is also the stories that make the relationship special. I like that and you cannot make that up.
我为他买了机票，第二天他就和我一起去纽约，待了三天，之后他因为工作不得不回洛杉矶。所以我们的第一次约会，跨越了两个城市，持续了四天。正是这些故事，让我们的关系变得特别和有意义，而这些是无法杜撰的。
P: So who proposed? Is it yours or his idea?
那么是谁求婚的呢？
T: It was a sunny Easter Sunday, and we spent the day with friends. At dinner, he was like I don't want to live another day without you. I want to get married. And I was like are you sure. It's funny because I said yes. But it was more like are you sure? And he was like yeah. OK let's do it. I was a bit crazy as well. It was also a way to make a point that we want to prove to each other that we really want to be together.
那是阳光灿烂的复活节周末，我们白天和朋友们在一起。晚饭时，他说无法想象没有我的日子，想和我结婚。我说Yes，但听上去更像“你确定吗”。他说是的，好，那我们就结婚吧。这的确有些疯狂，但这也是证明我们真的想和对方在一起的方式。
P: Dating these days seem so much more complicated as we need to consider so many things; and always, there are so many choices, such as omg, he is cute, but he doesn't have a great career. We tend to lose the guts of just doing it, simply being together.
这年头约会变得复杂许多，因为选择太多，需要考虑的也很多，比如对方很好看，但是工作一般。我们仿佛失去了不顾一切的勇气，以及简简单单在一起的初心。
P: Some people these days even use plastic surgeries to make themselves fit into certain standards, such as high cheek bones, skinny faces. What do you think about these?
当今很多人会通过整容让自己符合某些特定的审美标准，比如高颧骨、瘦脸等等，你怎么看？
T: If it really helps you to make yourself feel better in your skin, do it. If it is just a replacement for something you are not getting in life, such as self-esteem and respect, that can be very dangerous. That's why there is actually higher percentage of suicides among people who take plastic surgeries because they think going through certain body changes will make them happier, but you have to be happy first.
如果这真的可以让你感觉更好更自信，那就去做吧。但如果把这个当成某种无法得到的东西的替代品，比如自信和对自己的尊重，那就很危险了。整容人群的自杀率相对较高，是因为很多人以为整容可以让他们更快乐，但最重要的是，你先要能让自己快乐起来。
P: And you need to feel so careful and delicate when having sex with these people (Just kidding, oops, don't break my nose or lip).
而且你和这些人滚床单的时候要多小心，比如别弄坏鼻子或嘴唇(玩笑哈)。
T: Sometimes, you just have to make sure you are the best you can be. It never a matter being perfect or being exactly what people want you to be in this industry. And this actually apply for everything in life. That's actually why my name Theo come from for porn. It means the descendant of a human being into a god-like state. The idea is, every day, you become better.
有时候，你只需要确保你成为最好的自己，不需要成为大家想要你成为的那样。在工作上，生活里，都应该这样。Theo这个名字的来源，就是神话里最接近神的状态的人。意思是，每天你都会进步，能变成更好的自己。
P: It's the perfect relationship you can have. To help each other become better versions. It kind of sucks that most of guys are seeking temporary romances and chemistries.
这就是最完美的关系，互助共进。可惜现在多数男生都是找短期的浪漫或者关系。
T: Getting married so quickly might seem crazy but it has actually made us better and stronger. Because we are married, we have to stay together and make an effort to really be together to make each other happy. So it was actually really great to get married so quickly before we get tired of each other. Even if at some point, it really turns out to be a huge mistake, you can always get a divorce. In my head, if I don't give this the best chance possible, I never know what my life can be with him.
这么快结婚看上去的确很疯狂，但这也让我们更加亲密。因为我们必须花时间了解对方，花精力让对方快乐，让我们真正在一起。所以在我们没有厌倦对方之前，这么快结婚是一件好事。即使有一天我们发现这是个错误，也可以离婚。
We get engaged on Sunday and I told my mon. We picked the rings on Monday. On the Wed we got married. So my Facebook status, changed from being in a relationship, to engaged, and to married in like 4 days. People were like what happened?
我们周日订婚并且告诉我妈妈，周一我们去买戒指，周三我们就结婚了，所以我的Facebook状态在4天内从单身变成恋爱，变成订婚，变成已婚。很多人都惊讶了，不知道发生了什么。
P: People might just think it is for post April Fool's Day, lol
大家可能以为是愚人节的节后玩笑吧，哈哈。
T: It was actually just in April and just after that. I like the idea of just making the biggest effort. If you don't risk, you don't get anything.
确实是在愚人节之后。我喜欢“尽最大努力”这种理念。如果你不冒险，就什么都得不到。
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