带有慈悲心的倾听
当你练习富有同情心的倾听时，重要的是记住，你倾听的目的，那就是帮助对方减轻痛苦。你给另一个人说出自己的心声的机会。即对方说了一些刺耳的，挑衅的，或者不正确的，或充满责备、评判或错误观念的话语，你还是继续带有慈悲心的去倾听。
当你倾听时，如果你的内心能够保持正念和慈悲的能量，你就会受到保护，不管对方说了什么，都不会激起你内心的愤怒。通过这样，你可以听一个小时或更长时间，而质量你的倾听会帮助对方减轻痛苦。
当人们像那样倾听彼此时，他们才真正认识到人性以及他人所经受的苦难。你看到对方也是一个人，一个非常像你的人。你将不再带有怀疑、愤怒或者恐惧去看待对方。
COMPASSIONATE LISTENING
When you practice compassionate listening, it’s important to remember that you listen with only one aim, and that is to help the other person to suffer less. You give the other person a chance to say what is in their heart. Even if the other person says something harsh, provocative, or incorrect, or something full of blaming, judgement, or wrong perceptions, you still continue to listen with the heart of compassion.
If you can maintain the energy of mindfulness and compassion in your heart while listening, you will be protected, and no matter what the other person says, it won’t touch off the energy of rritation and anger in you. In that way, you can listen for an hour or more, and the quality of your listening will help the other person to suffer less.
When people listen to each other like that, they truly recognize the humanity and the suffering of the other person. You see the other person is a human being, someone very much like yourself. You no longer look at that person with suspicion, anger, or fear.
慈悲心与正念
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