h. If you are open-minded enough and determined, you can get virtually anything you want.
如果你的头脑足够开放，足够有决心，你 几乎可以实现任何愿望。
So I certainly don’t want to dissuade you from going after whatever you want. At the same time, I urge you to reflect on whether what you are going after is consistent with your nature. Whatever your nature is, there are many paths that will suit you, so don’t fixate on just one. Should a particular path close, all you have to do is find another good one consistent with what you’re like. (You’ll learn a lot about how to determine what you’re like later, in Understand That People Are Wired Very Differently.) But most people lack the courage to confront their own weaknesses and make the hard choices that this process requires.
所以可以肯定的是，我 不会劝阻你追求自己设定的目标。同时，我建议 你思考你追求的目标是否符合你的特性。不管你 的特性是什么，总是有很多条道路适合你，所以 不要固守一条道路。如果一条特定的道路走不 通，你只需要找到另一条适合自己特性的好道 路。（在后面的“理解人与人大不相同”中，你将 学到很多关于如何识别自身特性的知识。）
但大多数人缺乏勇气克服自身弱点，也缺乏 勇气做出这一改变所要求的不容易做出的抉择。
Ultimately, it comes down to the following five decisions:
归根到底，这可以总结为以下5项抉择：
1.Don’t confuse what you wish were true with what is really true.
2.Don’t worry about looking good—worry instead about achieving your goals.
3.Don’t overweight first-order consequences relative to second- and third-order ones.
4.Don’t let pain stand in the way of progress.
5.Don’t blame bad outcomes on anyone but yourself.
1.不要混淆你的愿望和事实。
2. 不要为自身形象担心，只需关心能不 能实现你的目标。
3. 不要过于重视直接结果而忽视后续、 再后续的结果。
4. 不要让痛苦妨碍进步。
5. 不要把不好的结果归咎于任何人，从 自己身上找原因。
dissuade
英 [dɪˈsweɪd] 美 [dɪˈsweɪd]
vt. 劝阻，劝止
relative
英 [ˈrelətɪv] 美 [ˈrelətɪv]
adj. 相对的；有关系的；成比例的
n. 亲戚；相关物；[语] 关系词；亲缘植物
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