《The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People》 by Stephen R. Covey
The book covers 7 habits/principles to help personal change and growth.
Habit 1: Be Proactive-personal vision (积极主动-个人愿景的原则）
Proactive people enlarge the Circle of Influence by changing the things in it, while reactive people reduce the Circle of Influence due to focus on things in the circle of concern which they could not change.
Between stimulus and response, man has the freedom to choose.
Self-awareness-look as an observer at our involvement
Imagination—the ability to create in our minds beyond our present reality.
Conscience—a deep inner awareness of right and wrong, of the principles that govern our behavior, and a sense of the degree to which our thoughts and actions are in harmony with them.
Independent will—the ability to act based on our self-awareness, free of all other influences.
Proactive: the "Be's"; Inside-out; reactive: the "Have's"; Outside-in
To change the view and thinking framework would help to build up the proactive attitude.
~Experience: I shared a lot things about my work with my husband. Sometimes, I feel I have to follow his advice because he gave me quite a lot pressure, which is typical reactive language. I have the freedom to choose how to respond to my own career stimulus. If I choose to follow his suggest, it should be my choice. I should not blame him when negative results happen.
~Aciton: Think about the career direction in the proactive model.
Habit 2: Begin with the End in Mind-Personal Leadership (以终为始——自我领导的原则)
All things are created twice. First time is created by ourselves when we have the clear vision of what we want to achieve in the end.
Habit 3: Put first things first-personal management （要事第一——自我管理的原则）
Organize and execute around priorities:
~Experience:我在易效能学的时间管理体系是基于GTD思想的，两者的目的都是要做到要事优先。但相比本书提出得四象限法则，GTD体系更灵活，更容易落地。
~Aciton: 继续通过“滴答清单”和晨间日记来执行要是有先法则。
Habit 4: Think Win/Win-Principles of Interpersonal (双赢思维-人际领导的原则)
empathic共情在沟通技巧里不算一个很新的概念，强调的是要倾听对方的想法，而不是套用自己的经验。
章节末的练习建议不太好落地。
Habit 5: Seek First to Understand, Then to be understood——Principles of Empathic Communication (知彼解肌-移情沟通的原则)
empathic共情在沟通技巧里不算一个很新的概念，强调的是要倾听对方的想法，而不是套用自己的经验。
章节末的练习建议不太好落地。
Habit 6: Synergy（综合效用——创造性合作的原则）
以前做并购的时候每次写报告都要谈这个synergy,一般商界翻译成协同效应。本书的中文版称之为综合效用，我觉得不是特别妥当。
我理解书里的意思还是要强调团队写作，大家互相信任的基础上，知无不言言无不尽，期待智慧的碰撞，特别是brain storming或者开会的时候，以期望达到最大产出。
如果能这样当然是最好，但是组织中每一个小团队、每一个个体的目标都不一样，合作的基础不一定存在。高强度的信任也是需要组织文化的支持。
Habit 7: Renewal, sharpen the saw
~知识: 磨刀不误砍柴工，身体是革命的本钱，说的都是这个意思。
Physical: exercise 3-6 hours per week
Endurance: Aerobic exercise such as running & swimming,
Flexibility
Strength
Spiritual: meditation
Mental:Reading, planning and writing
Social/emotional
Renewal empowers us to move on an upward spiral of growth and change of continuous improvement.
经验：易效能的八大关注平衡人生基本上包含了本书提出的四个方面。我也发现身心健康，可以让我精力旺盛，在吃青蛙的时候更加事半功倍，更可以使我心智坚定，遇到挫折的时候能自我调节，迎难而上。
总结：
习惯2/4/5/6讲得比较泛泛，没有实际的落地建议。
习惯3的四象限法则实操也比较困难，不如GTD好用。
习惯7中提到的一些好习惯，如健身、阅读、冥想最近一年已经在逐步增加，继续保持。
相对比较有收获的是习惯1 proatice，对于外部环境快速的变化，我们可以自由选择我们的意识，然后做出反应，而不是听从我们的本能生理或心理反应，或者在寻找责怪的人或事。
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