本期问题:
为什么大多数人，制定的计划总是坚持不了多久，就会自我放弃？
Current issue:
Why do most people, make the plan always adhere to not for long, will give up?
完美的女孩
我们的身边有很多人，刚开始做事的时候，就是激情万丈，可是没过多久就开始蔫了吧唧，垂头丧气，最后不了了之。
There are a lot of people around us, just began to do things, is passion, but not for a long time began to fade, dejected and despondent, finally ended.
闲置的健身卡，就去了最开始的几次；网上买的书，封皮还没有拆开，纯粹就是体验了购书的乐趣；报的各种学习班，早就抛到了脑后。
Idle gym card, go to the first few times; Online books, the cover has not been opened, is to experience the joy of buying books; All the classes I had applied for had long since been forgotten.
但是这所有的情况，都有一个共同点，就是当这个事情被耽误了一次，接下来就很难再继续下去。
But what all of these situations have in common is that when something is delayed once, it's hard to continue.
主要是大家觉得自己不论再如何努力，都不能完美的做完此事，所以就选择了放弃。
The main reason is that no matter how hard you try, you can't do it perfectly, so you give up.
这就不难理解，大家在年后疯狂立flag，但是用不了多久，就会放弃，结果一整年的计划全部泡汤，周而复始，每一年都是如此，没有进步。
It's easy to understand why people started flag flags after the New Year, but they would give up after a while. As a result, all the plans for the whole year were ruined, and the cycle continued, every year, with no progress.
我们首先是了解清楚了这种情况出现的原因，接下来我们说说如何才能杜绝这种习惯的发生呢？
First of all, we have found out the reason of this situation. Then we will talk about how to prevent this habit from happening.
我们身边有很多完美主义者，他们对于很多事情有着过分的偏执，不论什么都要做的完美，否则他会不停的做这件事，直到满意。
We are surrounded by perfectionists who are overly paranoid about many things and want to do everything perfectly, otherwise they will keep doing it until they are satisfied.
但是所有的事情都得视情况而定，不能因为性格的原因，所有的事情都得按一样的标准执行。
But everything depends on the situation, not on personality, everything has to be done according to the same standard.
所以对于完美主义者我们不过多评价，在这里只是说一下如何让大家有所收获。
So we're not going to talk about perfectionists much, but we're going to talk about how we can get something out of them.
生活从来都是不完美的，如果我们想要把事情做的完美也是不可能的，所以一味的强求，只会越来越痛苦。
Life is never perfect, if we want to do things perfectly is impossible, so blindly demanding, only more and more painful.
不要忘记自己做事情的最终目的，我们不是为了做完美的工作，而是工作能够完成并尽量做到完美，这才是最重要的。
Don't forget the ultimate goal of what you do. We don't do it to do a perfect job, we do it to do a perfect job, and that's what matters.
完美✘✘✘
在这里分享下我学习英语的方法，在过去的15年里，我不断的学习英语，但是根本没有啥进步，口语水平真的很差劲，除了简单的交流，现在很多幼儿园的小盆友都比我说的溜。
In the past 15 years, I kept learning English, but there was no progress, the level of oral English is really poor, in addition to simple communication, now many kindergarten children than I say slip.
当有一天，我突然意识到自己为什么总是学不好英语了，就是我的完美主义性格在作祟，如果有一点做不好，就一直纠结，结果就是无疾而终。
When one day, I suddenly realized why I could not always learn English well, it was my perfectionist personality that caused the trouble. If I could not do it well, I would struggle all the time, and the result was that I had no success.
后来我开始有意识的控制自己，告诉自己不完美没有错。
Then I began to consciously control myself, tell myself not perfect is not wrong.
我不断的总结别人学习的方法，不断的尝试，找到了属于自己的方法，就是多背好文、多听对话、多说日常用语。
I kept summarizing other people's learning methods and trying to find my own method, which is to recite more good articles, listen to more dialogues and speak more everyday expressions.
还有一点是，每天都听着文章进行默写，或者是进行英汉互译，在不断的重复中，听懂的越来越多，进步越来越快。
Another point is, every day to listen to articles written by dictation, or English to Chinese translation, in the continuous repetition, understand more and more, the progress is faster and faster.
对于我来说，可能在写的同时，我会去思考这个句子成分，不会的就标记出来，跳过去继续学习，等最后全文阅读时，很多不懂的都从前后文中就能推测出来。
As for me, I may think about the composition of this sentence while writing, mark the parts that I do not know, and skip over to continue my study. When I finally read the full text, many things that I do not understand can be inferred from the previous and the following text.
这个过程也是很痛苦的，有很多时候会想放弃，或者因为突发的情况被打乱，如果我就此放弃，可能我一辈子都学不好英语。
This process is also very painful, there are a lot of times will want to give up, or because of unexpected circumstances were disrupted, if I give up, I may not learn English well for a lifetime.
自从我原谅自己有时候的懒惰行为，过后居然会更加努力的学习，在这样的良性循环中，我不在排斥自己，不排斥偶尔的不完美，收获到了意想不到的惊喜。
Since I forgive myself for my sometimes lazy behavior, I will study harder later. In such a virtuous circle, I won't exclude myself or the occasional imperfection, and I have gained unexpected surprises.
所以说，我们每个人，都试着原谅自己的不完美，在努力的时候拼尽全力，偶尔给自己放个假，适当放纵一下，或许会有更大的惊喜在等着你。
So, each of us, try to forgive ourselves for not being perfect, try our best when we are trying, give ourselves a holiday once in a while, indulge ourselves a little, maybe there will be a bigger surprise waiting for you.
写在最后
生活本来就是不完美的
学着接受，
在心底存放一只小懒虫，
让它得到关心与爱护。
世界是圆的，
我们的脚步即使永不停歇，
也走不出这个圈圈，
所以放慢脚步，
看看周围的风景，
随着春夏秋冬的轮换，
生命被装扮的更加绚烂。
爱自己，
偶尔睡到自然醒，
这样的生活确实很快活！
虐自己，
该努力的时候，
就要加油向前冲！
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