Neuroses and Character Disorders

神经官能症 和 性格障碍

       Most people who come to see a psychiatrist are suffering from what is called either a neurosis or a character disorder.Put most simply,these two conditions are disorders of responsibility,and as such they are opposite styles of relating to the world and its problems.The neurotic assumes too much responsibility;the person with a character disorder not enough.When neurotics are in conflict with the world they automatically assume that they are at fault.The two individuals just described had character disorders:the sergeant felt that his drinking was Okinawa's fault,not his,and the wife also saw herself as playing no role whatsoever in her own isolation.A neurotic woman,on the other hand,also suffering from loneliness and isolation on Okinawa,complained:"I drive over to the Non-Commissioned Offcer's Wives Club every day to look for friendship,but I don't feel at ease there.I think that the other wives don't like me.Something must be wrong with me.I should be able to make friends more easily.I ought to be more outgoing.I want to find out what it is about me that makes me so unpopular."This  woman assumed total responsibility for her loneliness,feeling she was entirely to blame.What she found out in the course of therapy was that she was an unusually intelligent and ambitious person and that she was ill at ease with the other sergeants' wives,as well as with her husband,because she was considerably more intelligent and ambitious than they.She became able to see that loneliness,while her problem,was not necessarily due to a fault or defect of her own.Ultimately she was divorced,put herself through college while raising her children,became a magazine editor,and married a successful publisher.

       大多数去看心理医生的人患有所谓神经官能症或性格障碍。最简单地说，这两种情况都是责任障碍，虽然它们是相反的与世界有关的问题的两种种类。神经质的人承担太多的责任；性格失调的人则不够。当神经官能症的人与世界发生冲突时，他们会自然而然地认为错在他们。刚才描述的两个人患有性格障碍：中士觉得他的酗酒是冲绳的错,不是他的，妻子也觉得她自己的孤立与她自己没有任何关系。一个神经质的女人， 在另一方面，也在冲绳遭受寂寞和孤立，抱怨道：“我每天开车到无委托人的妻子俱乐部去寻找地友谊，但我在那觉得不自在。我认为其他的妻子们不喜欢我。我一定有什么毛病。我应该更容易交朋友。我应该更外向些。我想知道是什么让我如此不受欢迎。 ”这个女人对她的孤独承担全部责任，觉得她完全是罪魁祸首.她在治疗过程中发现的是她是个非常聪明和有抱负的人而且她和其他军士的妻子不自在，哪怕和她的丈夫也一样，因为她比他们更聪明和更有志向。她能看到她的孤独，而她的问题，不一定是因为她自己的错误或缺点。最终她离婚了，在抚养孩子的同时，上大学，成为杂志编辑，嫁给了一个成功的出版商。