双语 | Mum, please be more gentle

双语 | Mum, please be more gentle to me 妈妈，请对我温柔一点

Unconciously, I heard my neighbor was screaming to her son "Why you are so stupid? I have told you many times. I don't want you anymore. I will divorce with your father. You just live with him!" Then her son cried sadly and couldn't focus on his test paper at all.

偶然间，我听到邻居对着她儿子嘶吼：“你怎么这么蠢呐？我跟你说过多少遍了？我不要你了，我跟你爸离婚，你跟他过好了！”他儿子听到这些话哭得特别伤心,根本顾不上他的测验卷。

She was shouting about her son's score in the test. Her son was the last one in his class.

这位妈妈在吼她儿子的测验成绩。她的儿子考了全班倒数第一。

Everytime I feel confused about their worry of kid's learning siuation. Maybe that's because I am not a mother of a child. Well, then In my opinion as a kid, as parents, they shouldn't say something too hurtful to their own kids.  What kids desire most is their love and encouragement. Hurtful words like "You are so stupid", "Stop doing that silly things" can do nothing but hurt kids' dignity. If you often blame or shout to your kids. They would tend to question themselves and can't regain the courage to do things better. What's worse, they would probably can't listen to others intently.

每次遇到这种情况，我总觉得很困惑，可能是因为我尚未为人父母。那我就从孩子的角度来说说我的看法。我认为，作为父母不应该对自己的孩子说一些太伤人的话。孩子最渴望的是父母的爱和鼓励。“你怎么这么蠢？”“别做那些蠢事了！”这些话除了伤孩子自尊之外并不能起到什么作用。如果你经常责怪或者吼你的孩子，他们会怀疑自己,也难以把事情做好。更糟糕的是, 他们有可能不能认真地听别人说话。

双语 | Mum, please be more gentle to me 妈妈，请对我温柔一点

I have worked as an English assistant in the training center. I noticed that each class there must be a naughty student. They aren't not willing to follow the teacher's step. As a result, they usually fall behind others learning process. Most of the time, their parents showed their worry with the frowning face. So the point is how could a little one be clear and strong enough to regain their confidence without less love and inspiration from parents when everyone feels disappointed about him or her?

我曾在英语培训机构兼职过助教。我注意到每个班必定会有一个调皮的孩子。他们不愿意跟着老师的节奏去听课，结果往往落后于其他同学的学习进度。对于孩子的这种情况，大多数父母都忧心忡忡，眉头紧锁。那么问题来了，那么小地一个孩子，缺乏父母的爱护和鼓励，当所有人都对他失望的时候，他怎么懂得理性坚强地重拾信心呢？

双语 | Mum, please be more gentle to me 妈妈，请对我温柔一点

Therefore, being rational and kind to your kids is extremely important. That's the power what your kid need most for growing up. Trust your kid, don't compare them with other kids and say something too hurtful. Be proud of them. I believe that your trust and patience will encourage them to be better and better.

所以，理性温柔地对待你的孩子是尤为重要的。那是你孩子成长最需要的力量。相信孩子，不要把他和别人家的孩子比较和说一些过重的话。以你的孩子为傲。我相信，你的信任和耐性将鼓励他们变得越来越好。

By 繁华_易醉